scoring the threesome

[Sunday Comes]

My girlfriend and I have been toying with the idea lately of having a threesome. Since we've been together, she's certainly come on to more girls than I have, and one of the hottest things we have ever done is go to a strip club, and have a dancer give us both lap dances at the same time (we both made out with the dancer the last time we went).

So my question isn't how to convince anyone. It's more of a question of logistics. We are both very secure in our relationship, and as such are very secure in the lack of danger our monogamy gives us. So, my main concern is where do we find a girl that we both like, who we can be reasonably confident is free of disease, etc. I mean, obviously a condom is called for, but I wouldn't be the only person involved, and even a condom can't stop everything. They say your first time should be with someone neither of you know, so as not to introduce any weirdness into relationships where there was none before. The problem with that is, there really seems to be no other way to be sure our mutual date would be clean.

So where can we meet the ideal threesome partner? It would most definitely be a girl (we already turned down an offer for a threesome with a guy). And how can we make sure she is safe?

 

[Guest]

I think this is where someone would say something along the lines of... 'No sex with a complete stranger.' Personally, I would like to know the person I am having a sexual encounter with... strangers can be...well dangerous in the disease way.

But...if you want to find someone you don't know... the internet can be of great assistance... there are personal ads.... either on yahoo...or even adultfriendfinder.com. There are groups and communities that have people that are looking for the same thing...

If travel isn't a big deal... perhaps someone a few cities or even a state over will help with the 'uncomfortable' part of it.

Going to a strip club can be a huge turn on...but lets face it...some (notice I say some) are not very clean disease or drug wise...

So check out some sites....and some communities online...do a search...see if you can come up with anything....

 

[lovechild27]

I think it is a screwed up idea all together...these things never work out in the end. But......try some personal ads, or going to clubs. There is someone out there to float your boats.

 

[Meltzer]

well...

wifey and i had one bout a month ago with a fairly close friend. I wasnt anything great at all. Our relationship with that person hasnt changed that much. Not that i regret the situation but given the chance i wouldnt do it again... but to each his own have a good time with it!

 

[FdiskIt]

My EX-wife and I did that concept with a friend. It only made things messy. So if you do intend to do this (i would never do it again) I recommend that it be with someone you do not know very well. Becareful, in my opinion the dream can become a nightmare. The only other piece of advice is keep the communication open with your girlfriend.

 

[4player]

Pick a friend!

I'm rather surprised at the lukewarm or even negative responses you've gotten. My experience with a 3some several years ago was, on balance, a positive one.

I was still married, but the marriage was ending. I acquired a girl friend and the 3rd member of the trio at almost the same time. She was a woman we both knew and we were friendly with her husband too! My g.f. invited her to join us. This directly led to her husband joining too. Our 4some lasted a year and only ended when the other couple moved clear across the country. I would describe my g.f. as moderately adventurous and the other couple as conservative, but curious. Their outlook had changed by the time we broke up.

So I'd definitely recommend you get a friend or acquaintance. A stranger is too risky. Of course it must be someone whose head is on straight about such things.

If anyone cares to know the titillating details, contact me privately.

Love to all.