Scening at Party

[hooterbif]

Howdy Litfolk,

I have yet to scene at the local kink society party. Apparently, they have a few rules. At some of their parties, there is no penetration at all. At a second type of party, there can be penetration, but just with toys (no oral at all).

So, my immediate reaction is to say that these types of parties can't quite be that much fun. I can't imagine being stimulated and then just stopping.

Am I missing something? Anyone have experience?

 

[NoeMasks]

Howdy Litfolk,

I have yet to scene at the local kink society party. Apparently, they have a few rules. At some of their parties, there is no penetration at all. At a second type of party, there can be penetration, but just with toys (no oral at all).

So, my immediate reaction is to say that these types of parties can't quite be that much fun. I can't imagine being stimulated and then just stopping.

Am I missing something? Anyone have experience?

Depends on what the Party Theme is vs State and Local Laws. (Back 15 years ago in my then local area) The no penitration parties are usally more about teasing both Visually, and Sexually, and are more Newbie friendly. The Toy Parties can be more anything from quick scenes with different participants, to subby games, for the Doms pleasure. Rules are important.

 

[malefica]

Rules at kink parties are important, and some will even have dungeon monitors to ensure that consent is not violated and neither are whatever rules are in place for that particular venue. Some parties will prohibit sex, some will cater for it but in a separate space away from the main play, and some will allow it openly. Just because you need to have sex and get off to be considered fun, doesn't mean that you should break the rules. Plenty of people get off and have fun from scenes that don't end in insertions, penetration or orgasm. Kink isn't all about sex, and can even be completely separate from it.

 

[RawHumor]

Rules at kink parties are important, and some will even have dungeon monitors to ensure that consent is not violated and neither are whatever rules are in place for that particular venue. Some parties will prohibit sex, some will cater for it but in a separate space away from the main play, and some will allow it openly. Just because you need to have sex and get off to be considered fun, doesn't mean that you should break the rules. Plenty of people get off and have fun from scenes that don't end in insertions, penetration or orgasm. Kink isn't all about sex, and can even be completely separate from it.

Very nicely said.

Sometimes a scene is about the scene (rope, flogging, fire cupping) and not about the cock or pussy.

 

[ouchfeelsgood]

Very nicely said.

Sometimes a scene is about the scene (rope, flogging, fire cupping) and not about the cock or pussy.

Agreed. A BDSM scene can be very arousing and sensuous without any "standard" sexual play at all. At other times, sex can be intimately intertwined with an S/M or D/S scene. As for parties, the person(s) throwing the party have the right to implement rules, and obeying them is the courteous thing to do --even if you don't agree with them.

 

[hooterbif]

Agreed. A BDSM scene can be very arousing and sensuous without any "standard" sexual play at all. At other times, sex can be intimately intertwined with an S/M or D/S scene. As for parties, the person(s) throwing the party have the right to implement rules, and obeying them is the courteous thing to do --even if you don't agree with them.

Thank you all for the responses.

There are a few constant themes in the responses that suggest my question perhaps was not well-posed.

I have no doubt that people throwing the parties have the right to make rules. I have no doubt that there are reasons for the rules. I have no doubt that I would make up rules if I sponsored parties. I imagine that they might relate to local or state laws.

My question has nothing to do with me not liking the rules.

I was asking what experience others have with parties like this, in particular with the notion of "playing" without orgasm or "sex." I think that the answer I got to that specific part of the question is that some people find it worthwhile under those limitations.

I think that I questioned the value of the experience because I have never been in a scene with my girl where there was NOT sex or orgasms.

Oh, well, I'll go to the party and check it out!

 

[MastersDelight]

There's a large party once a month here that about 100-300 people attend. There is no penetration of any kind allowed, no masterbation, no exposure of genitals, no exposure of female nipples (males are ok.). It's all by state law because it's held in a rented public space and they serve alcohol. If they didn't serve alcohol nudity would be permitted but still no penetration.

That said, because it's a large party and sex is off the table it was a great safe place for us to get our feet wet when we were new. There were vendors there selling impact toys and other things. Which was nice since you could hold them in your hand and even test them rather than shopping online. We got to see a lot of interesting scenes and gathered ideas for our own play. You learn things about yourself you didn't know when you watch others play. Like I didn't know that rough body play appealed to me, as well as exhibitionism. Half the rush it's getting up in front of people.

For me as a masochist and pain slut, the kink and the sex can be separate or one and the same. I NEED to be beaten. I can climax from the pain but that's hardly why I do it, I just...enjoy pain. If sex follows fine, if not, I still got what I came for. And if anything, I'll have sex once we get home. For me it is part of the aftercare, it helps me feel like we reconnect and come back down. But that can happen anywhere in the first 24hrs and I'll be ok.

I've scened with a partner before who is a service top and VERY experienced in impact play. He beat the living fuck out of me for two hours. I had zero desire to have sex with him. I'm not sexually attracted to him, but MAN can he swing a flogger.

 

[hooterbif]

There's a large party once a month here that about 100-300 people attend.

Fantastic detail - thank you for sharing yourself.

 

[MastersDelight]

Fantastic detail - thank you for sharing yourself.

Any time hope I helped.