Say a prayer, please?

[DustyWolfe]

If your a praying person would you say one for me on the weekend of the 15th? Or at least send some good thoughts.

I've been living in an abusive situation for a few years and am finally getting out. My parents are coming up to get me on the 15th and taking me back to Austin. My roommate has no clue about this and I am not sure that I am going to tell her. I think it would be less violent if they just show up.
Anyways... It turns out that a friend of ours from St. Louis will be coming down on the 15th, as well as my roommate's niece. I just hope and pray that the situation does not grow volatile because that is not something that a 13 year old needs to see.

I just hope that everything goes well. I have been needing to get out of this situation for a long time just never felt that I had the need nor did I know how.

Thank you for listening to me.

Dusty

 

[Debbie]

Dustygrrl,
You have my prayers and my PM box if you
need someone to talk to. My first marriage
was very abusive. It is a scary time getting
out. Let me know if I can help in any way.


You are a brave woman.

Take care.




Debbie

 

[T.H. Oughts]

A few words for you I wrote a while back

I have strength in my power,
to make it though the days.
I have ability to make it,
through the haze.

T.H.

 

[Laurel]

Congratulations on getting out. I'm sure it'll be hard at first, but you're making the right decision. You'll be in my thoughts.

 

[Bindii]

You go girl! The best of luck to you, all my thoughts and prayers will be with you.
Be proud!!!

 

[DustyWolfe]

Thank you so much. I'm not really brave though. Beneath it all I'm shaking like a willow tree in the wind. I'm scared to death on so many levels. I have been with this woman for 4 years. My parents have no clue that we were more than just roommates and I know that all of that is going to come out.
I may not be 100% gay but that won't matter to parents. What is going to matter to them is the fact that I like women better. I can tell that the 22 hour drive back to Austin is going to be a long and miserable one.

Such is life though. I roll with the punches and try my best to come out on top.

I just have to remember that I am doing what is right for my own well being and for my future partner.

 

[Debbie]

You are brave though. Brave enough to get out and be safe.
Ignore the knocking knees and fastbeating heart.
I was scared too.

As for your parents?
I wish you well, talking to them. I hope they will listen and be understanding. I know I would.

 

[sch00lteacher]

For whatever these words are worth they are yours, I give them to you.

I will mark my calendar, and on the 15th, I will think about you and hope only the best comes out of this.

It is a long time until the 15th, if you need help get on this board and YELL for help.

 

[lickboxer]

Consider it done as I type. No one should stay in an abusive relationship no matter who is involved. I'll pray that you find what you looking for, and that your parents will understand and give you the comfort your looking for. Your parents may be more understanding than you realize though. All parents only want their children to be happy and well.

 

[Softstone]

Good Luck Dusty

I do hope everything goes well for you.

It would be tough for me to find out one of my kids were even close to Gay... But it is a lifestyle that has been around forever.

I am sure if your parents love you as much as I love my own kids they may not understand why But perhaps respect your lifestyle decision as YOURS.

You might have to remind them that you are their Daughter and Please Love me.

 

[DustyWolfe]

Thank you all for your warm thoughts and prayers. My dad has MS so I am hoping that the situation does not blow up. Stress causes his MS to exasterbate (sp?) and I don't want to be the cause of him getting sicker.

I know my parents love me... But I also know it is going to kill them. I grew up in a Southern Baptist home with very strong beliefs.

My ex is a good person for the most part, and very loving in many ways. She is just very aggressive and has a very hot temper. I wont say that I deserve what she has done but there are times I should have walked away. It just seems that with every incident the situation gets worse. The most recent occured on Valentine's Day, she tried to choke me. That should have been the last straw, but like a stupid puppy I crawled back and gave in to her begging. A push from a friend and a phone call from my parents got me out of this situation though.

You know... I used to think how horrible it would be to have a child that was gay. Then my best friend came out to me my Sophmore year in high school and I started to rethink things.

I try to look at things from the perspective of others and understand their fears. Here is what I believe though.
To have a gay child is to have a gift from God. For they are among the most understanding creatures on Earth. They see both love and hate. They learn early on how to turn the other cheek. They are humble because they know they don't fit into everyone's judeo Christian values, when in fact they share those values. Gay people are the same as anyone else, they just have different tastes sexually and emotionally. Some women just desire to be treated tenderly and be with someone as soft spoken and feminine as them. Don't look down on someone because they are gay, because all you will find is them looking back up at you for judging them.

 

[SweetCherry]

Hugs and prayers, Dusty. Stay strong, and in the end, it'll all work out for the best.

 

[MissTaken]

You have my prayers, Dusty as well as my admiration.

I understand , probably more than you would think.

Remain focussed and secure in the knowledge that you are doiing the right thing, and you deserve much, much better than what you have now.

 

[SweetBrat73]

I am so sorry for what you have had to go through. I'll be thinking about you and praying for you. Not just on the 15th, but till then and after till we know you're safe and out of there. Just taking that step to get out is brave!!! Do your parents know why they are coming to get you??? Maybe to save on some heart break and hard times you should call them before they come...or send them a letter explaining it. I know I'd be there before the 15th to get my daughter out of a situation that was harmful to her health and safty!!! I think I'd find it hard to except that she was in a relationship with another women, but I hope that I could eventually accept it and show her the support and love she needed. Well love would never be a problem to show to her no matter what her lifestyly...may be hard to accept though.

I would try to explain it to them a little before they come up though. That way your "roommate" won't be able to throw anything at them that they won't be able to handle. If she can bring up something to shock them and be able to see it in their faces it's going to give her alot of satisification. Don't let her have it. She's done enough harm to you. Again if you can't bring yourself to call...write a letter and send it out right away.


Brat

 

[MysticSwing]

Situations like yours are very tough. Leaving someone you care about isn't an easy thing to do. I also agree with SweetBrat, I would try talking to your parents before they get there incase your "room mate" decides to do all the telling for you. I'm sure it would be easier for them to hear if it were coming from you.
My heart and thoughts are with you... If you need a sholder or an ear, I'm here.

((hugs))

~~Mystic

 

[Guest]

 

[navarre]

I wish you enough.....

Dusty,
I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more. I wish you enough
happiness to keep your spirit alive.
I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much
bigger.
I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting. I wish you enough loss to
appreciate all that you possess.
I wish you enough ‘Hellos’ to get you through the day.


You have my prayers.

Navarre

 

[Cheyenne]

Your parents may know more than you think. In any case, you know that they love you and they are coming to get you.

On a positive note, I'm glad I opened this thread today. Someone close to me is getting divorced, and today is the day she moved out of the family home. There was so much potential for violence, a family member called the local police to warn them of what we feared could happen! Everything went beautifully. The loud mouth abusive bastard was suddenly silent when there was a third party person there to help with the move. He didn't make a peep. I hope the same thing happens for you. Your ex may back off and be almost "normal" just because strangers (your parents) are there with you.

 

[Mensa]

Get while the getting's good

Male, female it's irrelevant. If your in a situation that is uncomfortable, threatening, and dangerous get out. It doesn't matter how, just get out.

You'll have my prayers.

 

[elena]

**hugs**

You ARE brave, whatever you may think. You've already made the big step: of breaking it off, and getting the hell out of the situation.

You sound like an intelligent, warm person with a lot of love to give. You next partner will be a very lucky person, and I wish you all the best.

I do not believe in God, but you will be in my thoughts, if not my prayers.
Just like other people have said - my PM box is always open if you need some more support
xx

 

[Sabineteas]

Dusty, I feel for you. I will think of you each day until the 15th. About your parents, you may be surprised at what they may know already. No matter what, they love you and you need to believe that they will do whatever is necessary to help their child.

Just take each step as it comes and everything will work out for you and them. It almost always does.

 

[Caria Knight]

Your doing the right thing and I'll keep you in my thoughts. Hopefully by your roommate having a friend and her neice there, she will be making an extra effort to control herself. As for your parents, parents can suprise you sometimes. They may take it better then you think.

Good Luck and Be Safe!

 

[MarkDelta]

You have my prayers. For your safetyand that you and your parents will have no problems

 

[april-wine]

Add me to the list of those thinking of you Dustygrrl, be strong and do what's best for you....If you need an ear please PM....Till then you are in my thoughts and prayers....Be safe.....april

 

[Nigel]

Dusty:

You will be in my thoughts and prayers on the 15th....and every day until then.

Yes, you're scared. But it doesn't make you less brave.

Keep good thoughts...and your chin up. I'm rooting for you!

Nigel