Same sex BDSM

[Sign54]

Anyone on here come BDSM with a same sex partner??? Trans and NB peeps can obviously respond here regardless of identity or orientation. If so, what are the dynamics???

 

[cookiecat]

So this might be a naive (dumb) question from a hetero cis straight woman, but why would the dynamic be different in a D/s relationship because it's same sex?

Sign54 - do you have some thoughts that led you to this question?

 

[cocktaildress21]

Anyone on here come BDSM with a same sex partner??? Trans and NB peeps can obviously respond here regardless of identity or orientation. If so, what are the dynamics???

I consider myself straight, but I've had a few experiences with girls - one of them of a BDSM variety. I'd say the dynamics are precisely the same as with straight sex, with the one caveat that .. if I'm out on a date, in public, with a girl, that just feels incredibly naughty. Like .. I'm wet and blushing the whole time because I'm doing something 'forbidden' and erotic right in front of everyone, and they don't even know.

 

[seela]

In my (not super extensive) experience the dynamic at its core is the same. But...

For example, I'm very into emotional masochism, humiliation and what not. Things in that realm tend to cut a lot deeper when it's a woman dishing it out to me. As a result I'm more reserved with a woman, more wary of letting them in on my deepest, darkest thoughts, and that has an impact on other kinks of mine and the relationship. I feel more vulnerable.

So maybe there is some kind of a difference after all?

A big part of the vulnerability is probably my relative lack of experience with women, though.

 

[Sign54]

So this might be a naive (dumb) question from a hetero cis straight woman, but why would the dynamic be different in a D/s relationship because it's same sex?

Sign54 - do you have some thoughts that led you to this question?

Curiosity. I just felt it creates a different dynamic.

 

[Sign54]

In my (not super extensive) experience the dynamic at its core is the same. But...

For example, I'm very into emotional masochism, humiliation and what not. Things in that realm tend to cut a lot deeper when it's a woman dishing it out to me. As a result I'm more reserved with a woman, more wary of letting them in on my deepest, darkest thoughts, and that has an impact on other kinks of mine and the relationship. I feel more vulnerable.

So maybe there is some kind of a difference after all?

A big part of the vulnerability is probably my relative lack of experience with women, though.

Well, there are more men who like women than women who like women.

 

[dilligaff51]

Anyone on here come BDSM with a same sex partner??? Trans and NB peeps can obviously respond here regardless of identity or orientation. If so, what are the dynamics???

I’m a bi male and love sex with both men and women but when it comes to relationships I’m only interested in women. My first experience with BDSM was with a man. He was a Dom and had a makeshift dungeon set up in his house. I saw him 3 times. He tied me up and used a large assortment of toys on me. Each session lasted 3-4 hours and ended up with him fucking my brains out while giving me post orgasm torture. I’m not going to lie - it was fucking awesome! Since then I’ve done BDSM with a few women in both the D and s roles and overall I found the same sex play to be more rough and uninhibited.

 

[lisaharlot]

That’s really hard to answer. The dynamic between a Top who enjoys getting a straight bottom to submit is going to be different than two people who identify as the same gender and happen to like doing the same stuff. That will be different than the dynamic between a straight lady who wants to get spanked but doesn’t want a guy to hurt her and a straight guy who might have drill instructor fantasies. The wide beautiful world of BDSM and D/s has too many wonderful possibilities for general questions-you’re going to have dish on the deets my friend.

 

[Sign54]

I’m a bi male and love sex with both men and women but when it comes to relationships I’m only interested in women. My first experience with BDSM was with a man. He was a Dom and had a makeshift dungeon set up in his house. I saw him 3 times. He tied me up and used a large assortment of toys on me. Each session lasted 3-4 hours and ended up with him fucking my brains out while giving me post orgasm torture. I’m not going to lie - it was fucking awesome! Since then I’ve done BDSM with a few women in both the D and s roles and overall I found the same sex play to be more rough and uninhibited.

I can easily imagine. Men also view sex with other men a certain way given the rules regarding women socially are absent.