Safe Word

[BucksMaster]

For those of you that use one in your relationship,how did you go about choosing the word? Purely random or was it based on something that had meaning to you?

 

[MeekMe]

We use the traffic light system (green, yellow, red) for checking in if needed. Otherwise we use plain words to talk to each other.

Him: "How's the rope feel?"

Me: "Tight, but I like it."

Him: "How's the rope feel?"

Me: "It's pinching funny here, or my limbs feel weird can we adjust it?"

Him: adjusts rope



We chose it based on practicality. No special meaning.

 

[BabblingBrooke]

Ours began as something of an inside joke.

 

[SpunThings]

For those of you that use one in your relationship,how did you go about choosing the word? Purely random or was it based on something that had meaning to you?

We do the same kind of negotiation that MeekMe says. We do have a safeword from very early on, and I only have ever really used it when he's hurting me and it gets to be too much in the moment. He's gotten so used to reading me though, I haven't used it in a long, long time.

It's "feisty". I hate that word, so I'm not going to say it by accident.

 

[desertslave]

Master has always told me that my safeword is "more."

 

[rushed2536]

Pineapple, always pineapple, lol.

 

[BucksMaster]

Pineapple, always pineapple, lol.

Fair enough

 

[thelaughingcat]

We do the same kind of negotiation that MeekMe says. We do have a safeword from very early on, and I only have ever really used it when he's hurting me and it gets to be too much in the moment. He's gotten so used to reading me though, I haven't used it in a long, long time.

It's "feisty". I hate that word, so I'm not going to say it by accident.

Feisty? Ooohhh...I love that word! Goes with 'wench' *grins*

We use the mix of traffic light system and basic communication already mentioned in the thread. Not had to use the traffic light system in a very long time now, because he has figured out the difference between a softly whimpered, "Oh fuck, pleasestoppleasestopican'ttakeitpleeeease.." and an, "OW. FUCKINGHELL. STOP."

Safewords are useful. I always encourage people to have them. There just comes a point when they don't get used any more.

 

[L0tus]

Master has always told me that my safeword is "more."

How do you work around "more"? What if you're in the heat of things and you beg for more and it all just stops? ^_^;;

 

[the captians wench]

We use the traffic light system (green, yellow, red) for checking in if needed. Otherwise we use plain words to talk to each other.

Him: "How's the rope feel?"

Me: "Tight, but I like it."

Him: "How's the rope feel?"

Me: "It's pinching funny here, or my limbs feel weird can we adjust it?"

Him: adjusts rope



We chose it based on practicality. No special meaning.

I was traffic light trained too. More because that was the way that the people who I first encountered liked to play.

I had a safe word at some point too, but I found that I kept forgetting it. And I was the one who chose it. Though forget isn't quite the right word for the experience. Like, I would forget how to use most words. I would get into a space in my head, and I'd want it to stop, but I couldn't remember how to do that, couldn't find my lips, couldn't think of the word to use, or how to speak it. But if I was asked a question, I would answer with out thinking. So when I went from giggles to no sound at all, the top in question would stop and ask how I feel, and then red would come out. But I couldn't bring my safe word out.

It was an interesting if not a bit frightening experience the first time. Fortunately it seems to be a pretty well known system, so I haven't had any issues since adopting it.

 

[EquinoxRising]

For those of you that use one in your relationship,how did you go about choosing the word? Purely random or was it based on something that had meaning to you?

"Soyhaut"

An on again/off again Dominant friend gave me this word. He said it was Russian for "stop". Lately I've been thinking that's false. I can't find that word in translaters anyway.

 

[MissJW]

We use the traffic light system (green, yellow, red) for checking in if needed. Otherwise we use plain words to talk to each other.

Precisely this. For us the traffic lights are good to have in case things get too intense and my husband (the sub) starts to mumble/babble/scream/cry/youknow incoherently. Otherwise we too talk about stuff and keep each other in check.

 

[~Elizabeth~]

"Soyhaut"

An on again/off again Dominant friend gave me this word. He said it was Russian for "stop". Lately I've been thinking that's false. I can't find that word in translaters anyway.

If you want to indicate that something is enough, you can just say “hvatit”.

I've never had to use a safe word, but I chose something with my favorite color.

 

[MrHappy212]

Matte` (I submit) is always good.

 

[docile_dancer]

I once had a "favorite word that I wouldn't use in everyday conversation" safe word, but I never needed it and have long since forgotten it. We switched to the traffic light system for the sake of anyone we might be around, however I've never used that either.

Once, I was caught off guard and ready to use my safe word... Alas, the uncharacteristic stream of expletives that flew out of my mouth was more than enough to put things to an immediate halt. Temporarily...

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[MissShelly]

For those of you that use one in your relationship,how did you go about choosing the word? Purely random or was it based on something that had meaning to you?

I have two.
"Too Much," .. it means my limit has been hit, or just past.
Red is "Stop now!"

I've never used Red. And I rarely have to say "too much," Because Daddy just knows my body that well. In fact, usually, I'm like "MORE MORE MORE, HARDER, that doesn't hurt enough." LOL

 

[SirRay23]

An ex and I used the traffic light system as well. simple and easy to remember.