Rules of Engagement...errr Attraction

[lady_jennaxx]

Time for a new thread.

My older threads (while still amazing) may need a self-prescribed breather.

Since I seem to haunt the Personals more frequently than other boards, I thought the need for some introspection was in order. We are all here for a reason, and while I'd venture to guess what the main reason is for most, I'm not going to assume that everyone's motivation for being here, is the same.

Is it entertainment? Escape? Self-discovery? Boredom? Curiosity? A tasty little combination of some or all of the above?

Prior to engaging with anyone from here, are you really aware of what you want? I used to think I came to this site just for the stories, which are wonderful, but after accidentally discovering the forums, I found the potential for interaction was much more interesting to me and here I am still, almost two decades later.

More than in the past, I am drawn here because I feel there are amazing, sincere, intelligent people who do understand their needs and find Lit to be one place they can actually be true to themselves for a change, and hope they can find one person that "gets it". Lately I don't concern myself with the "how" or the "why"; I focus on the "when", because I see it as an eventuality, not as an improbability.

So are there any others who focus on the "when" as opposed to the "never"? PMs are always open

 

[Fuzzy1975]

Time for a new thread.

My older threads (while still amazing) may need a self-prescribed breather.

Since I seem to haunt the Personals more frequently than other boards, I thought the need for some introspection was in order. We are all here for a reason, and while I'd venture to guess what the main reason is for most, I'm not going to assume that everyone's motivation for being here, is the same.

Is it entertainment? Escape? Self-discovery? Boredom? Curiosity? A tasty little combination of some or all of the above?

Prior to engaging with anyone from here, are you really aware of what you want? I used to think I came to this site just for the stories, which are wonderful, but after accidentally discovering the forums, I found the potential for interaction was much more interesting to me and here I am still, almost two decades later.

More than in the past, I am drawn here because I feel there are amazing, sincere, intelligent people who do understand their needs and find Lit to be one place they can actually be true to themselves for a change, and hope they can find one person that "gets it". Lately I don't concern myself with the "how" or the "why"; I focus on the "when", because I see it as an eventuality, not as an improbability.

So are there any others who focus on the "when" as opposed to the "never"? PMs are always open

Entertainment all the way...

 

[Booboobear84]

Time for a new thread.



Is it entertainment? Escape? Self-discovery? Boredom? Curiosity? A tasty little combination of some or all of the above?



More than in the past, I am drawn here because I feel there are amazing, sincere, intelligent people who do understand their needs and find Lit to be one place they can actually be true to themselves for a change, and hope they can find one person that "gets it". Lately I don't concern myself with the "how" or the "why"; I focus on the "when", because I see it as an eventuality, not as an improbability.

So are there any others who focus on the "when" as opposed to the "never"? PMs are always open

The why has been evolving. For me it is self discovery along with learning more about people. The anonymity of Lit let many people be more open about themselves. For many reasons I am much more able to learn things in that kind of environment, which I have found helpful.

I will note that people on Lit are in general pretty smart (not necessarily wise), which I attribute to the filter of being a written word site.

 

[brdplt]

this is a place I can explore things I cant in real life. Im happily married to a woman I love that has virtually no sex drive. I come here for the escape, to talk with people who love sex as much as I do, and occasionally join them for a release.

 

[WillJ8787]

Hornyness

I'm a horny guy who likes sex so....and I've met a couple of really wonderful gals here who have made my life better than before. And I've made a few male friends to discuss things and that has been good too.

Hornyness, sex and connections = glad I'm here.

 

[BrightShinyGirl]

For me it’s a mixture of self-discovery and exhibitionism. In my real life I’m very respectable and responsible, not the sort of person you would suspect of having strong sexual urges. I’m fine with that life, and I don’t want to change it, or risk losing it, but reading and posting here is an outlet for those sorts of feelings.

I like analyzing things, and this forum gives me a place to analyze sexual desire. Not sexual desire in the abstract, but my own personal relationship to it. What turns me on, how do different acts feel, what are my boundaries and my fetishes. And there’s a strong element of exhibitionism in performing such an intimate form of introspection publicly. When I post here I feel like I’m standing on stage naked. The anonymity makes me bold. It allows me to strip down and put my private self on public display.

Lately, however, there’s been another aspect to posting here that I’ve started to appreciate: human connection. I’m not alone during lockdown, but I am lonely. I miss my daily interactions with my coworkers and the other school moms. It’s nice to log in here and see people talking to each other. It’s nice to exchange friendly PMs with the people I know here, even if they’re not about sex. It’s nice to just be in a place with other people.

 

[Starscream_UK]

Personally I came here to begin with to get some stolen stories removed Then I found the boards and it's been a one way trip down the rabbit hole ever since. Also, interaction via a digital screen is about my limit these days being a single Dad of 3.

 

[Scareltt]

It all started because of an idea.

I originally came here to learn more about what a Wife Led Marriage is/was/could be.

My husband and I went through a number of life changes all at once and he needed me to help. I’m not talking about the bedroom. I have always been assertive with my needs there.

Over time I made friends, people who I interact with almost daily. I love opening up Lit and seeing all of there messages.

Some of they can be as vanilla as talking about our day. Seriously back when it was pilates classes and stuff like that.

Some of them less vanilla. I share my fantasies, or talk about something that happened in bed.

I’v bared some of my soul on the boards. Had conflicts with people over silly and serious things...

I come to Lit for the people now.

 

[jrdexter]

I first flu d Lit looking for stories. Still read, love the arousal found in different genre'. I have come to enjoy the I traction with other folk here...admitedly, I prefer to chat with women. I enjoy chatting (discussing) the mundane day To day things that all of us deal with, to our fantasies, wants, desires one is normally reluctant to discuss in polite every day life. A big thank you to those that have opened up to me, and allowed me to open up to them. Have a safe and healthy day!

 

[RickTango]

For me it is discovery. I like to get to understand people, what they like what motivates them and in turn I may discover more about myself.

 

[mr_d_w]

I've not been here long at all, but for me it's split between self discovery (the unexpected turn-ons, bedroom ideas etc) and just in talking to the people themselves. Lit tends to balance my inquisitive side with my apparent desire to speak to everyone who ever existed.

It's going well so far.

 

[LLCox]

I am a Scorpio... so isn't this where Scorpio's should be. Born a lover of women and still that way.

 

[lady_jennaxx]

Appreciate all the comments received so far, thanks everyone.

 

[beachguyinflorida]

I’ve just returned to the board after a long absence. I like the excitement of possibly meeting someone, or chatting and eventually meeting. It’s only happened 3 times , so not much excitement. Still good to know by reading the posts that there are some with the same thoughts I have, or some I never thought. Especially like seeing things from a woman’s perspective

 

[jerryooooh]

This is my great escape !!! Lol !!
I’ve been lucky in my life to have met a few kindred spirits/ Lovers and totally sexually addicted spirits to have the best sex of my life !!!! 19 times I’ve connected in affairs, and had a few relationships that I can honestly say put me in a love place beyond anything I could have imagined !!

I regularly read stories here that I can say; been there done that !!!

Blessings to all who are so blessed !!!
Jer

 

[Zephreck]

My experiences here

I was at first drawn here to these forums by first being attracted by both the written and aural stories that so many have shared. Once I arrived at the forums I was a bit overwhelmed.

I am generally curious by nature and to be able to see so many different viewpoints on sex was certainly interesting. I still do not understand a great many of the various kinks that people are into. It is interesting though to "see" some of them displayed and discussed here.

Over time though more than a few people who just seemed to get off on shaming people, criticizing photos that people would put up, and just looking to troll numerous posts, led me to take long extended breaks from the site.

I also do not have the time on my hands that I use to have.

I have made some friends though and learned a great deal when I have been here and I will always be thankful for those interactions.

 

[lady_jennaxx]

I was at first drawn here to these forums by first being attracted by both the written and aural stories that so many have shared. Once I arrived at the forums I was a bit overwhelmed.

I am generally curious by nature and to be able to see so many different viewpoints on sex was certainly interesting. I still do not understand a great many of the various kinks that people are into. It is interesting though to "see" some of them displayed and discussed here.

Over time though more than a few people who just seemed to get off on shaming people, criticizing photos that people would put up, and just looking to troll numerous posts, led me to take long extended breaks from the site.

I also do not have the time on my hands that I use to have.

I have made some friends though and learned a great deal when I have been here and I will always be thankful for those interactions.

Thanks Zephreck

 

[nekkid_handyman]

I guess I came here for the entertainment and have been here a while enjoying all the stories. Throughout that time, I learned that my sexual tastes are pretty varied and growing every day. I guess for me, this is a safe way for me to explore a lot of new interests. So far I have only interacted with a few people here, but I find it arousing, in more ways than one, to explore all of those fantasies and desires with others.
I am definitely open to exploring more new horizons with others.

 

[lady_jennaxx]

I guess I came here for the entertainment and have been here a while enjoying all the stories. Throughout that time, I learned that my sexual tastes are pretty varied and growing every day. I guess for me, this is a safe way for me to explore a lot of new interests. So far I have only interacted with a few people here, but I find it arousing, in more ways than one, to explore all of those fantasies and desires with others.
I am definitely open to exploring more new horizons with others.

Glad to hear you keep an open mind handyman.

 

[Ironfan]

Like many, the stories first attracted my to lit, then the ampics, real women always turn me on more then models. Then started posted, chatting to few folk.

Still not entirely sure what I want from Lit but I'm enjoying the exploration at the moment, trying different and new things and ideas and chatting to new folk.

 

[lady_jennaxx]

Like many, the stories first attracted my to lit, then the ampics, real women always turn me on more then models. Then started posted, chatting to few folk.

Still not entirely sure what I want from Lit but I'm enjoying the exploration at the moment, trying different and new things and ideas and chatting to new folk.

Thanks for stopping by Ironfan I appreciate the input

 

[Cogan]

Time for a new thread.

My older threads (while still amazing) may need a self-prescribed breather.

Since I seem to haunt the Personals more frequently than other boards, I thought the need for some introspection was in order. We are all here for a reason, and while I'd venture to guess what the main reason is for most, I'm not going to assume that everyone's motivation for being here, is the same.

Is it entertainment? Escape? Self-discovery? Boredom? Curiosity? A tasty little combination of some or all of the above?

Prior to engaging with anyone from here, are you really aware of what you want? I used to think I came to this site just for the stories, which are wonderful, but after accidentally discovering the forums, I found the potential for interaction was much more interesting to me and here I am still, almost two decades later.

More than in the past, I am drawn here because I feel there are amazing, sincere, intelligent people who do understand their needs and find Lit to be one place they can actually be true to themselves for a change, and hope they can find one person that "gets it". Lately I don't concern myself with the "how" or the "why"; I focus on the "when", because I see it as an eventuality, not as an improbability.

So are there any others who focus on the "when" as opposed to the "never"? PMs are always open

I started here on lit in the am-pic section and still visit there when I'm around. I've always liked the variation of woman and all real. I also like to write and connect with people, both sexual and non sexual, and I have made friends here. Some still here and some gone.

 

[olderpussy]

What a great thread. Gives the opportunity to introduce to others how you came to be here and to reflect within yourself the changes that have occurred within yourself as a result.

Like most, I discovered Lit as an outlet for erotic fiction. It took me a while to look beyond the stories and discover the forums.

As I explored my non-monogamous marriage further, I suppose I came here looking for a lover. That's never happened and I have yet to find sustaining friendships beyond one that is still hit and miss, up and down, hot and cold.

I like the free range that forum chat offers. It's appealing to think that those of us on the more highly-charged end of the sexually aroused scale can find some like-minded folk to commune with on occasion. The horny gotta horn and it's good to know there's a place to share that and people to share it with when the spirit moves you.

 

[AnnieLit]

I like how you put it. For me, Lit was the much needed help to get from "never" first to "maybe", then to "when", and finally to "now".

At this point I am here mostly for the people and little bit for the topics of interest to me.

And for the pictures and the stories. During the lockdown I can't shoot, but, thanks god!, I can still write.

 

[Mtnmike]

What a great thread. Gives the opportunity to introduce to others how you came to be here and to reflect within yourself the changes that have occurred within yourself as a result.

Like most, I discovered Lit as an outlet for erotic fiction. It took me a while to look beyond the stories and discover the forums.

As I explored my non-monogamous marriage further, I suppose I came here looking for a lover. That's never happened and I have yet to find sustaining friendships beyond one that is still hit and miss, up and down, hot and cold.

I like the free range that forum chat offers. It's appealing to think that those of us on the more highly-charged end of the sexually aroused scale can find some like-minded folk to commune with on occasion. The horny gotta horn and it's good to know there's a place to share that and people to share it with when the spirit moves you.

Very well put, my sediments exactly, thank you for putting into words.