Romantic Sex Scenes

[Ray Dario]

In my latest feeble attempt I have come across something I'm not sure how to create. A sex scene that has a very romantic feel to it, but still conveys lust and desire.

Please don't tell me to set it on a beach somewhere or put in a sundown. Those are so tired and cliche' and don't fit the setting.

Here is the setting. A married couple, both work, now home. Wifey has fixed hubby's favorite meal. He comes into the kitchen and some stuff happens, dishes are accidentally broken, she kisses him and boom they are hip deep in passionate romantic sex.

I wrote it and, damn, it was one of my hotter sex scenes, but it wasn't terribly romantic. I have never really thought of myself as a very romantic guy, but I want / need this scene to be just dripping with romance. How do I do it?

If you have any suggestions, I'd love to hear them.

Thanks

Ray

 

[Weird Harold]

Here is the setting. A married couple, both work, now home. Wifey has fixed hubby's favorite meal. He comes into the kitchen and some stuff happens, dishes are accidentally broken, she kisses him and boom they are hip deep in passionate romantic sex.

I wrote it and, damn, it was one of my hotter sex scenes, but it wasn't terribly romantic. I have never really thought of myself as a very romantic guy, but I want / need this scene to be just dripping with romance. How do I do it?

The problem is in your setup. You're going from domestic disater directly to passionate sex. "Romance" requires a slow buildup -- in this case, some sort of transition from disaster to romance, to hot passionate sex.

Perhaps a hot soothing bath prepared by Hubby for the wife to sooth nerves jangled by a day of disasters, followed by some candle lit pampering -- it's a bit cliched, but if you're not terribly romantic yourself, you'll need to rely on cliches to guide the romance.

 

[Route66Girl]

Did somebody say romance?

Cooing, nuzzling, looking into each other's eyes; lots of little things can add romance to the sex itself. Have the wife and hubby perhaps tell one another how they feel as they're having sex and describe the emotional connection as well as the physical. Perhaps hubby recalls how he never gets tired of his wife's attentions, how love has grown over the years, or vice versa. Hand holding during orgasm, hearts beating against each other's chests, etc.

There are still a few things you can do to add ambiance to the kitchen setting. Maybe something a little lovey-dovey and hot could be done with the food (although that's a bit cliche also), like feeding each other some erotic food during foreplay. A romantic song could start playing on a radio. The window could be open with the sound of crickets in the backyard coming in.

Also, you mentioned dishes being broken. It's difficult to know what to suggest there since I don't know how they get broken, but maybe something romantic could be done with that, like affectionate foreplay as they try to clean it up, or perhaps hubby volunteers to clean up the whole mess. Perhaps one of them accidentally gets cut by a sharp edge and the other fusses lovingly, bandaging it up.

Well, there's a few ideas for you, anyways

 

[Ray Dario]

WH, as always your comments were right on.

I just asked the question wrong. "Romance" in the way of candlelight and soft music isn't what I really want. But instead of raw lusty sex, I want loving desire. Instead of "Fuck me you stud" I want to show the wife filled with tender love, giving of herself, and opening new avenues to express her love for her husband.

Not being a husband, nor a wife, and never really having had that kind of loving relationship I'm having difficulty putting myself into the wife's character. If you were to write a sex scene from the woman's POV to show the woman deeply in love with the man, how would you do it?

Thanks
Ray

 

[Ray Dario]

Route66Girl - You got the idea! Those are the kind of suggestions I'm looking for. Thanks!!!

Ray

 

[Route66Girl]

You're welcome, Ray. Glad to help.

 

[karmadog]

Don't know if this will help, but...

Ray, I had an experience that was similar to your set up. I was cooking dinner for my girlfriend (BTW, most women find that romantic by itself) and dropped it on the floor. Lasagna was everywhere and I started cursing up a storm. My girl started giggling, then laughing, and the next thing I knew, I was laughing too. I don't know what had us laughing so hard, but there we were. After we stopped laughing, we started to clean up the mess, but somehow ended up going at it all over the lasagna (thank God it had cooled, can you imagine a cheese-burned willy?). It ended up being the first time that we said we loved each other. Simultaneously. That's better than a simultaneous orgasm, believe me.

I think it might have had something to do with the domesticity of the scene and the slightly hysterical laughter, but somehow it was one of the romantic moments of my life. Fluorescent lighting and linoleum. Go figure.

PS I have tried to write that story before, but I think true romance as opposed to melodramatic romance is one of the hardest things to write.

 

[Axeltheswede]

Your mention of breaking dishes brought back some powerful memories.
I salvaged a set of eight antique crystal champagne flutes from a nasty divorce. My current fiance and I were using them to toast her promotion a few years ago. We clinked glasses. Her glass broke. She became very upset and felt bad that she had broken something with heirloom status that belonged to me.
The only response I could think of was to get up and throw my glass into the fireplace. After all, it was just a thing. The glass was so much less important than her feelings.
That little gesture turned her upset into laughter. And the sex we had that evening still ranks in my memory as one of my top five encounters.
Just a little something I enjoyed sharing.
Good luck with your story, Ray.

 

[Suzi]

Ray:

I know I'm just a virgin here, but I have written a few stories...and have a romantic soul....

My suggestion is of a more subtle variety: When she drops the dishes and breaks them, have the husband rushing to help pick up the pieces...He smells the passing whiff of her perfume (could be his favorite OR maybe some new floral suggestive of roses...)...They stand up about the same time and are face to face...She is silently crying, cuz the dishes were a family heirloom....priceless...and he (after setting the pieces on the counter) reaches out and gently wipes her tears away...She puts her share of the pieces on the counter, and moves to him in a silent embrace...He kisses her hair, caresses her back...she lifts her face to his, and gives him a soft kiss......


Something like that can happen.....and it doesn't have to be raw passion to be felt!

IMHO
Suzi

 

[Whispersecret]

Romance can just be setting. Few would argue that a tropical beach at sunset is a prime romantic spot. However, I think Ray wants more than that. In order to make any setting romantic, even a kitchen, I think you have to describe the emotions.

Sex is just sex unless you include the feelings behind the drive. What makes something romantic to me is knowing the characters feelings for each other. Seeing examples of how they express those feelings.

I think it helps when you insert bits of routine to show the depth and length of their relationship. Perhaps the fact that one always does such and such for the other, just to please the partner. Anything that shows the history of the couple, their familiarity, and their devotion to each other will add to the romance. Below I've pasted some examples from one of my stories.

Jackson Rockwell had the evening all mapped out. First, he and Fiona would put four-year-old Benjamin to bed. Then, as they sipped a quality cognac near the crackling fire, he'd casually brush the side of her breast with his knuckles. She'd gasp and smile at him like she always did.

Sure, the fireside is a cliche setting, but I think that the last phrase, "like she always did," suggests the history between them. It gives you a sense of the type of relationship they have, the comfortable routine they still enjoy.

**

A wave of desire swept through Fiona . She adored when he took her by surprise like this. When he took charge and left her with no doubts that he wanted her right at that moment, it reminded her of that intense period before they were married.

Again, we're getting the feeling of history.

**

Before she knew it, Jackson had her on her back on the stairs. He yanked her panties off and tossed them aside. The raw hunger on his face as he looked at the smooth skin of her mound made her gasp. His intensity always took her breath away.

**

When he felt her body go rigid beneath him, he exploded. Shock waves wracked him as his cock emptied into her with spasmodic jerks. As always, he was astounded at how good it was with her. There was no other woman in the world who would ever compare to Fiona. He was constantly rediscovering how much their love and commitment to each other added to their sexual union.

Here, I point blank talk about their feelings.

**

The heady rush of orgasm faded slowly into the subdued shimmer of satisfaction.

"You amaze me," she said. With his eyes closed, her voice seemed to glow like the aurora borealis and her loving praise warmed his soul.

Jackson hugged her close and brushed his lips against her shoulder. "The feeling's mutual, love."

"Do you suppose that there are many couples are as happy as we are?"

Jackson smiled and shook his head slightly. "Very few, I think."

A few more moments of silent communion passed before Jackson finally withdrew from Fiona's body. After they'd both cleaned up, Fiona settled herself against him, laying her head on his chest. Jackson pressed a good night kiss against her hair and closed his eyes. Life was good.

Hopefully this helps.

 

[Monazwx]

Wh.

A continuation of hostile takeover. Nice, and very hot.

And Ray,

I don't know if this matters or if someone mentioned it before, but maybe some sexual teasing would be good for the situation.

Like, they're clearing up the mess and
his arm brushes her breast,
she looks up and smiles.

She's throwing the stuff anyway and
he massages her butt,
she moans.

It goes on from there, stuff like that. I liked Suzi's idea though, awesome.

Hope I helped.

 

[MaxSebastian]

And remember, the plot can be used to good effect to pile romance into the sex scenes.

For example, a man gives up everything to be with his true love.

Or... a guy who has spent his life working hard for charities or other good causes is in the depths of depression because something bad's happened (one of the teenagers he's been counselling for drug addiction has died of an overdose, maybe) and is on the verge of suicide (jumping off the end of a pier, say) because he suddenly can't see that his efforts in life are worth anything. Then at the last moment, he's kept back from the edge by someone he thought he'd lost...

I don't know... brainstorming here.

If you spend the first part of the story piling on the misery into your characters, make use of the fact that if you love someone and you can't have them for any reason, there's going to be a certain amount of pain involved. Or take pain from some other aspect of life. Then resolve this pain with the use of a romantic connection (read: sex scene) and hey presto! You're caught up in the characters and their searing love, and unless you're a cold-hearted Cruella de Vil-type, you can't fail to get some romanticism in there. Plus, you'll have a kick-ass plot, which is always a good thing.

 

[mlyn]

Romance starts in the head and the heart

I think all the suggestions are good. And it depends on how you've set the story up to that point, but I think humor is a good way to change it from just lust, to something more. Or a shared memory makes it different. Sometimes I think it can be as simple as the way she ran her fingers across the hairs on the back of his hand... it just made everything stand on end for him!

good luck.

 

[JUDO]

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I think the romance comes from the person's observations of what is happening. You've written the scene Ray, now go back and imagine all those little lovely things that we get to see...the way the candles from their dinner shine in her hair...the little kisses she gives to the palm of his hand after he gently strokes her hair...what her smile means to him after all these years together...how the happy glint in her eye makes his heart race.

These little details demonstrate how truly attached and committed to each other they are - that's where romance demonstrates itself, in the mind-bending, incomprehensible committment that we all seek.

Flowers, candles, perfume, gifts, hugs, kisses...these are simply the trappings of romance. Show the feelings and history (as others have suggested) behind each simple gesture.

The lustful things you have written will fit right in as long as the romantic ones drive them.


- Judo

 

[karmadog]

JUDO has it right. Romance is, by defintion, individualistic. No situation is inherently romantic, but almost any situation can be romantic if the people involved are romantic. Attitude is everything.