Romantaholic

[sufisaint]

Is admitting you have a real problem the first step to recovery? Do I really have a problem? Because I still really believe with all my heart and soul that a true love is possible and can be found and kept alive? I cannot give up on this notion...yet is it holding me back from really living? Am I dillusional and waiting for something impossible so i do not have to deal with the cold hearted reality of our culture????my life? Just like an addict I cannot see what its really doing to my life because I want it so much... I have moments of doubt...but always go back to this belief in love. Have even made it my "religion" Yet I must admit, I rarely see love in this world (having an 8 year old daughter ( and my dogs too!) though does prove to me love does exist...but am talking romantic as well... If I have this love in my heart...have the ability to make magic out of little and big moments of life..which I know i do...is it wasted without someone who can do the same?...Learned the hard way you cannot give love to someone, or teach them...only share what you already posses..people do grow, i know...but very slowly....

I am an addict...I admit...yet I still believe.....

(Doublely cursed as well...I am addicted to masturbation as well....have to fill the void somehow!!!!! and it is fun!!!!...)

Anyone else feel this way? or should I be smacked upside the head for being a fool? Throwing it out there for te world to see....at least give me credit for that.....

 

[sufisaint]

Not one reply..damn, I am a freak...ouch......

 

[lovetoread]

Keep on looking.

You'll find what you are looking for.

 

[calypso_21]

Anyone else feel this way? or should I be smacked upside the head for being a fool? Throwing it out there for te world to see....at least give me credit for that.....

OH GOD, don't smack this man!! More should feel this way!! There is this magick out there...people have forgotten how to work it.

 

[sufisaint]

Thanks for replying......Am I being to real and honest here?...don't mean to bring anyone down from light hearted fun...I beleve in that TOO!!!!! just in one of those moods...

 

[calypso_21]

Thanks for replying......Am I being to real and honest here?...don't mean to bring anyone down from light hearted fun...I beleve in that TOO!!!!! just in one of those moods...

I don't think you are being to honest...I think maybe the time for this thread is later...bump it for the evening crowd...you may be surprised.

 

[Guest]

Originally posted by sufisaint
Is admitting you have a real problem the first step to recovery?
Yes, one of the ways.
Do I really have a problem?
Not in my book.
Because I still really believe with all my heart and soul that a true love is possible and can be found and kept alive?
Good for you.
I cannot give up on this notion... yet is it holding me back from really living?
If you can't drop the notion, stick with it, because you got to anyway.
Am I dillusional and waiting for something impossible so i do not have to deal with the cold hearted reality of our culture???/my life?
No. You're just a romantic. That's not a crime.
Just like an addict I cannot see what its really doing to my life because I want it so much... I have moments of doubt...but always go back to this belief in love.
Like I said, look for romance. They are out there, if you look hard enough.
Have even made it my "religion"
Sorry, atheist here.
Yet I must admit, I rarely see love in this world (having an 8 year old daughter ( and my dogs too!) though does prove to me love does exist...but am talking romantic as well...
Yeah, the world suck, but we are stuck with it.
If I have this love in my heart...have the ability to make magic out of little and big moments of life..which I know i do...is it wasted without someone who can do the same?...Learned the hard way you cannot give love to someone, or teach them...only share what you already posses..people do grow, i know...but very slowly....
Keep giving, but don't expect everyone to give some back to you, 'coz most won't.

I am an addict...I admit...yet I still believe.....
Join the Romantic Annonimous.

(Doublely cursed as well...I am addicted to masturbation as well....have to fill the void somehow!!!!! and it is fun!!!!...)
That's a difficult addiction to beat. It's free and avairable 24/7.

Anyone else feel this way? or should I be smacked upside the head for being a fool? Throwing it out there for te world to see....at least give me credit for that.....
I don't think you are alone, but I'll spank your arse if it helps.

 

[SkyBluAngelEyes]

Do I really have a problem? Because I still really believe with all my heart and soul that a true love is possible and can be found and kept alive? I cannot give up on this notion...

Just like an addict I cannot see what its really doing to my life because I want it so much... I have moments of doubt...but always go back to this belief in love.

If I have this love in my heart...have the ability to make magic out of little and big moments of life..which I know i do...is it wasted without someone who can do the same?...Learned the hard way you cannot give love to someone, or teach them...only share what you already posses..people do grow, i know...but very slowly....

I am an addict...I admit...yet I still believe.....

(Doublely cursed as well...I am addicted to masturbation as well....have to fill the void somehow!!!!! and it is fun!!!!...)

Anyone else feel this way? or should I be smacked upside the head for being a fool? Throwing it out there for te world to see....at least give me credit for that.....

Oh God... Don't ever lose your belief in romantic love. Somewhere out there under that big blue sky, there is someone who will fill that void. I too admit that I am addicted.

There is magic out there. Keep making that magic and you will eventually find someone to share it with.

You can give your love to someone, but only they are in control of giving it back. If they don't, they miss out on one of lifes greatest gifts. If they do, the gift shared is enormous.

 

[sufisaint]

I am bumping and embarrasing myself at the same time....

 

[lisalove]

I'm desperate for some romance in my life. I don't know if I believe in the one true love...though I have seen it in others, I have not experienced it. My problem has always been confusing intense sexual desire with real love...unfortunately reality kicks in eventually.

 

[sufisaint]

I do not believe in the single soul mate theory....many help you on your way through lifetimes...but do believe in a true love...that two people can share it....and yes i have always confused the issue with sex and gotten burnt big time.........and now want to be in love first for the one whom I can share it with...the others will be, if there will be any, hopefully friends wom i have sexual experiences with until it does happen....

 

[SkyBluAngelEyes]

I do not believe in the single soul mate theory

me either Sufisaint. I have many soulmates I think.

 

[sufisaint]

I have met people that i know met before....and things in common with them that blew me way...kind of a person deja vu...

 

[Ice Cold]

Same here...



I believe in romantic love... that there is some one special on the road ahead... just a matter of time before it arrives, and that it will have well been worth the wait.

 

[SkyBluAngelEyes]

Same here...



I believe in romantic love... that there is some one special on the road ahead... just a matter of time before it arrives, and that it will have well been worth the wait.

And how will we know we've met them? Maybe it's someone I've already met and just don't realize he's the one?

 

[sufisaint]

I thought that once...we were together at two different times in our lives...we lost touch for five years...about 6 months ago i got a call from her.... I had even gone as far as hiring a private decective to find her....(i was a lawyer and knew one)..well anyway we met, she is now unhappily married but the strange thing was we just did not click anymore....i was absolutely heartbroken after that meeting...i had built her up so much in my mind and it would have been so romantic and was, I admit still in love with her...the old her i knew once...we are still friends...she is a beautiful person still...but that was areally hard experience...

 

[Ice Cold]

And how will we know we've met them? Maybe it's someone I've already met and just don't realize he's the one?

IMO when you meet them you will know... it may not occur right away, but build up over a period of time... something will just click. It may be someone you already know, but the time isn't right for it to happen just yet.

 

[SkyBluAngelEyes]

Do you ever wonder....

and get the "woulda, coulda, shoulda's" with past loves?

I admit, I've done this, and after hooking up with them again, find that they are great friends, but they are best left to the past? What about those stories you've read where people do hook up after XXXyears and they are happily married now with XXX kids? It's alway's made me wonder if I was missing something.

I doubt it...

 

[bluemuse]

Yes, I believe in romantic love. I don't believe that there is a time frame for it to happen....it will happen when it happens.

Why would giving up on this notion help you in any way? Why would you want to give up this notion? For me, life would not be as sweet without the thought that true romance was out there...waiting for me.

 

[Ice Cold]

I've read the stories aboout that too, but if they are in the past, there is usually a good reason for why things didn't work out.
Sometimes having them as a friend is much better.

 

[sufisaint]

I know i have no choice but to follow it...every "junkie" is a setting sun.......