Romance Help!!!!!!

[satinpantyad]

Hi there......I'm a typical male who has no clue about romance. My 10th anniversary is in a few days and I would really like to do something special for my wife. We have decided not to outwardly exchange gifts -- so I'm am looking for any ideas on romantic things I can do for her.

Ladies help...please.

 

[Vivi1975]

No gifts? Are you really keeping to that?? Cuz I got a great idea that would run you less than $200. Maybe less than $150...
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[Monazwx]

You're making this difficult. What does she like?

 

[subwannabe]

Hmmmmmmmm. That is a really open question and we really don't know what your wife is like. Are you talking about just plain romance or romance leading to making love, or what? Women are sensual, which means they like to have their senses stimulated - touch, smell, sound, sight, whatever. They also like being appreciated such as leaving little I Love You kind of notes around or something similar. A romantic getaway would be nice but that costs money and since you're not exchanging gifts, maybe that is not what you want to do. Leave notes, roses, rose petals, buy her smelly massage oil and give her a body massage. Mix in some candles which have a similar romantic scent as the massage oil does. Maybe tie her up, blindfold her, and massage her all over, ending with a climax. Have an ocean wave cd playing in the background or go to an oceanside hotel where she can hear the real thing. Of course there are a billion other things but maybe this can be used as a starter.

 

[satinpantyad]

Lay it on me VIVI........what's your idea ?

 

[Vivi1975]

Lay it on me VIVI........what's your idea ?

Every woman ONCE in her life should receive one of those famous blue boxes from Tiffany's. Unexpectedly receiving one will take ANY woman's breath away. A memorable moment indeed with a cherished keepsake to pass on.

On the eve of my wedding day, my husband gave me a silver Tiffany's Heart Tag bracelet. I love that bracelet. The heart is engraveable but I waited until I had my 1st baby to get it engraved with his initials on one side and his birth date on the other.

Then my second son was born and I had another heart added on complete with the same engravings.

For our 10th anniversary, my husband added on yet another heart with "10 Years of Love" on one side and our wedding date on the other.

NOW...that said...the initial bracelet purchase was around $125 plus a little more for the hand engraving. I just looked on Tiffany's website for you and the bracelet has been bumped up to $210.

But there are other things you can buy that are just as beautiful and less expensive from there.

The link here is from their "silver favorites" selection. You'll see my heart tag bracelet there. LINK

I have worn that bracelet practically every day of my life since it was given to me. It's very precious to me.
DONT UNDERISTIMATE THE POWER OF THE BLUE BOX!!!

omg...before you give it to her, you could always watch the movie Breakfast at Tiffany's! Very much a chick flick...but wonderful in every way.

 

[BlueEyesEternal]

As someone who appreciates photography, I'll contribute by saying you can never have enough photo's to remember things by. Most people have a digital camera and a friend or family member that lives nearby. Grab them both and spend an afternoon visiting all of your special places. Anywhere you had fun dates, anywhere you frequently visit, anywhere you endured tragedy together.

Once you have pictures, you can make yourselves a 10-year slide-show. If you have a song, use that as background music. Everything changes over time, so capture the moment on film and you won't regret it.

 

[SweetErika]

No gifts? Are you really keeping to that?? Cuz I got a great idea that would run you less than $200. Maybe less than $150...
.

We don't do material gifts either. We prefer to spend our time and money on doing special things together, instead of stuff.

I'd hate getting a gift after we'd agreed not to do gifts. He bought me jewelry one Christmas, and not only did I feel bad because I didn't get anything for him and concern over our budget, I had to quickly figure out how to delicately suggest we exchange the earrings for something I would actually wear. It was a nice thought, but a bad move overall on his part.

Satin, I'd highly recommend doing something thoughtful and sentimental, like BEE suggested. If you're a writer, write something for her. If you're artistic, make something for her. Make your anniversary about her - you could make/get her favorite food, give her a great massage, go out and do something she really enjoys, make her a nice card, put together a book with photos and your feelings for her, etc. Romance to a lot of women is thought, time, effort and emotion, not material goods.

 

[bailadora]

Romance to a lot of women is thought, time, effort and emotion, not material goods.

Spot on advice! When my husband was courting me, he and his partner choreographed a dance to one of my favorite love songs. On my birthday, they performed the number and videotaped it for me. Even after all these years, I still get that warm melting glow in my heart when I watch it.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I once sent an ex bf on a treasure hunt. He had to drive around town visiting places that were special to us and friends of ours to pick up little poetry clues for over half an hour before he ended up back at home where I was waiting in sexy lingerie with some new sex toys and a bottle of champagne. Reminding us both of special times we had shared made the afternoon in bed much more special and by the time we went out for dinner, we were sickeningly besotted with each other all over again.

 

[phenomenal]

Everyone is different.
While one person may get all excited and feel appreciated with a 'Tiffany Blue Box' or the likes, it's not so for all. I can understand that some may enjoy that type of thing and it does nothing at all for me. I enjoy the things that money can't buy, most of all -- stuff that shows they KNOW ME, and appreciate me, and taking the time and making the effort to SHOW that they do.

Spending time together doing something special that both enjoy tops my list. Higher on that list is my partner doing what I enjoy --and seemingly enjoying it, even if they have to work very hard or fake it-- even if it might not be a shared interest. What -special- means, will vary from one person to the next.
Professional house-keeping, laundry service, cooking dinner and cleaning up afterwards just to give me a break REALLY does it for me, in so many MANY ways.

Give the two in one gift.
1. Spend a moment thinking about her/Show her that you appreciate her by letting her see that you actually know her by giving her what she appreciates and enjoys---whatever that might be FOR HER.
2. Give them whatever that may be.

 

[satinpantyad]

Thanks to everyone who offered their ideas to help me out.


I went with the following:.......I bought a journal-style notebook with a picture by an artist she liked on the outside. I then wrote in about 100 entries of this I love about her, admire about her and remember from the 10 years we've been married.

I gave it to her at dinner on our anniversary.....it was a huge success.

 

[SweetErika]

Thanks to everyone who offered their ideas to help me out.


I went with the following:.......I bought a journal-style notebook with a picture by an artist she liked on the outside. I then wrote in about 100 entries of this I love about her, admire about her and remember from the 10 years we've been married.

I gave it to her at dinner on our anniversary.....it was a huge success.

That sounds like a great idea, perfect for the occasion, and I'm glad it went over so well!

 

[cuckingfrazy]

Wow. I'm impressed.
That has to be one of the sweetest gifts I've heard a man give on an anniversary.
Way to go. Good for you!

Thanks to everyone who offered their ideas to help me out.


I went with the following:.......I bought a journal-style notebook with a picture by an artist she liked on the outside. I then wrote in about 100 entries of this I love about her, admire about her and remember from the 10 years we've been married.

I gave it to her at dinner on our anniversary.....it was a huge success.

 

[cuckingfrazy]

Hi there......I'm a typical male who has no clue about romance.

Liar. Liar. Pants on fire.

 

[Jack_Craver]

congratulations for 10 years relationship and
best of luck
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[bashfull]

1. By now you should know what is her favorite flower. Go out the day before your anniversary and get a bunch of them. While she is in the bath...sleeping...etc., pick a bunch of the petals or the tops (depends on flower) and scatter them all over the inside of her car. Leave one flower on the dash. Let her go out to her car the next day and be suprised.

2. Take her on a picnic or a hike. Stop and carve your names in a tree. Then kiss her...deeply.

3. Instead of taking her out to dinner, arrange for a sitter and cook her dinner. Then run her a hot bath. Scatter her favorite flower petal upon the water and leave some of the flowers along the side of the tub. Turn down the lights, place candles in the bathroom (you can even do some of those floating candles in the tub). make the bath hot. let her sink into it...relaxing. after a while, bring her a chilled glass of wine. wash her hair for her. Then when she is done bathing, help her out of the tub...and hold a long bath towel for her (buy one if you don't have one). dry her off.

4. tie her to the bed. blindfold her. then spend hours adoring her. Remember...it's about her...not you.

*shrug* just suggestions. Not that anything has worked for me.

 

[bashfull]

Thanks to everyone who offered their ideas to help me out.


I went with the following:.......I bought a journal-style notebook with a picture by an artist she liked on the outside. I then wrote in about 100 entries of this I love about her, admire about her and remember from the 10 years we've been married.

I gave it to her at dinner on our anniversary.....it was a huge success.

Oops...i shoulda read through the thread before opening my mouth. Great idea.