Romance Authors in Here?

[Bramblethorn]

Not attempting to start an argument, but I never said couples waited until they were married to have sex. What I said was girls were told to save themselves for marriage, not that they did. My point was that prior to social media, sex was usually the result of some period of romance. There have probably always been one night stands, but they weren't nearly as common as they are today.

How do we know that, though? We can talk about our own personal experiences, and about the few hundred people around us that we know personally - to the extent that they share that kind of information with us - but beyond that, our personal circle doesn't extrapolate to the whole world or even to a country. Without some kind of scientifically-sourced data, there's no telling the difference between "people weren't doing it" and "the people who were doing it weren't telling me about it".

I recognise the distinction you're making between romance and marriage, but it's hard to find meaningful data about romance (or lack thereof); marriage data is the closest I've been able to get.

 

[JaxRhapsody]

I used to think the Victorians were sex-phobic and subsequently never had sex, but have discovered that's a smoke screen. Of course they did and yes, they had one-nighters. It's tempting to see the past through a lens of 'We more advanced so of course they acted differently, out of ignorance' ( apologies - this probably isn't what you meant ). I prefer to think of our ancestors as pretty sophisticated - they simply lacked the knowledge and technology. Technology has only been around for a few hundred years.

There have been whispering in the media that Z-gens are preserving their virginity and their grandparents applaud their apparent moral correctness. If young girls are abstaining from sex, it's not through morals but fear and social media is the driver to that fear.

Bwahaha! Victorian people used sex and masturbation to cure things like headaches, being hysterical, delirium and the vapors. I think that's when the hand-cranked dildo was made, and the doctor could prescribe it.

 

[stickygirl]

Bwahaha! Victorian people used sex and masturbation to cure things like headaches, being hysterical, delirium and the vapors. I think that's when the hand-cranked dildo was made, and the doctor could prescribe it.

Yes, quite

 

[TadOverdon]

It's been suggested that I give Women's Romance a go - the whole steamy Harlequins thing. I'm looking at it...

 

[Duleigh]

My primary genre is Romance and Erotic Couplings with a couple of stories that had enough weirdness to qualify for Sci Fi but all were essentially romance stories.

As an experiment I took one of my couples that starred in a long series of romance stories and published their latest romance story in the interracial category because she's Asian. That is now my lowest rated story.

My first excursion into BDSM was actually romantic bondage, my only attempt at Anal was a romantic dalliance between a couple who ended up engaged.

My first attempt at Lesbian was a romantic couple where the fellow watched her last lesbian encounter before they got married.

In fact the only thing I've written that wasn't at heart a romance story was a limerick that showed it was possible to write a clean limerick containing the word "Nantucket"

 

[32aa]

All of my stories that have been published have been in the Romance category. I guess it's because I am a 'Romantic'. I see the world through rose-colored glasses. I like getting involved with the MC's and their interactions and feelings with the other character, or characters. I've found myself getting emotionally invested in each of my published stories. Even as I reread various chapters that have left their mark on me where I still 'feel' the emotions I had when I first wrote it. Sometimes I ask myself, 'Did I really write that?'.

I've got a few stories in the 'draft' stages in different categories: Erotic coupling and incest with a female cousin. Writing the sex is no problem, anybody can do that. My head and heart always want something more. the incest one has openings for romance, just not sure how to finish that one.

Sometimes I think writing erotic romance is like that phrase in Dan Fogelberg's song 'Piano Man'... "Just to get away from life for a while".

 

[TheRedChamber]

Sometimes I think writing erotic romance is like that phrase in Dan Fogelberg's song 'Piano Man'... "Just to get away from life for a while".

I can't help but I feel I'm missing some kind of subtle joke with this and I'll get mocked for even mentioning it. Still, after a quick Google to make absolutely sure there's no cover, shared writing credit or weird backstory...

(Deep breath) Billy Joel wrote 'Piano Man'.

 

[jsmiam]

I can't help but I feel I'm missing some kind of subtle joke with this and I'll get mocked for even mentioning it. Still, after a quick Google to make absolutely sure there's no cover, shared writing credit or weird backstory...

(Deep breath) Billy Joel wrote 'Piano Man'.

Like Styx said, “Right (right), you're bloody well right.” *


* You see, this is funny, because it was actually Supertramp who said “you’re bloody well right “.

God it’s tough being hilarious!

 

[32aa]

It was meant that writing erotic stories takes me away from all of the crap that's going on in the world.

 

[Duleigh]

Like Styx said, “Right (right), you're bloody well right.” *


* You see, this is funny, because it was actually Supertramp who said “you’re bloody well right “.

God it’s tough being hilarious!

As Ozzie Osborn crooned
"Everybody Needs Somebody Sometime..."

 

[Smuttyandfun]

After seeing how many authors like to add some romance to their stories, now I don't have such a bad case of imposter syndrome writing what I do on a site like Lit.

Glad to see I'm not the only one who enjoys adding a little romance to whatever steamy scenarios we're dreaming up.

 

[Rustyoznail]

It's been suggested that I give Women's Romance a go - the whole steamy Harlequins thing. I'm looking at it...

My current WIP for the "On the Job" event had stalled for so long at the pre-sex point, I was seriously considering wrapping it up and sending it to Mills & Boon.

 

[Duleigh]

Glad to see I'm not the only one who enjoys adding a little romance to whatever steamy scenarios you're dreaming up.

Romance is a great aphrodisiac and it's universal, in one form or another everyone understands romance.

Commandment #1 - thou shall write what thou knowest.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Bwahaha! Victorian people used sex and masturbation to cure things like headaches, being hysterical, delirium and the vapors. I think that's when the hand-cranked dildo was made, and the doctor could prescribe it.

The bit about Victorian doctors prescribing orgasms seems to be a myth: https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20181107-the-history-of-the-vibrator

But certainly the Victorians were far less prudish than the stereotype has them. There's a ton of Victorian smut out there.

 

[ElectricBlue]

The bit about Victorian doctors prescribing orgasms seems to be a myth: https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20181107-the-history-of-the-vibrator

But certainly the Victorians were far less prudish than the stereotype has them. There's a ton of Victorian smut out there.

Also, the Austrian equivalent of the Victorians invented Freud. He wouldn't have ever got going if he hadn't had a bit of material to work with.

 

[stickygirl]

Also, the Austrian equivalent of the Victorians invented Freud. He wouldn't have ever got going if he hadn't had a bit of material to work with.

I'm no historian, but at that time science was the latest 'best thing' and appeared to provide answers to everything. Freud rode the wave of 'we can science the crap out of everything' but forgot that science is a process of falling on your face then finding a better solution. Freud was full of shit and it took decades for his nonsense to be unravelled, but at least he showed there was a process, a method even if his conclusions were flawed.
Religion took umbrage at being doubted and then we had the 20th century, which didn't turn out so well.

 

[ElectricBlue]

I'm no historian, but at that time science was the latest 'best thing' and appeared to provide answers to everything. Freud rode the wave of 'we can science the crap out of everything' but forgot that science is a process of falling on your face then finding a better solution. Freud was full of shit and it took decades for his nonsense to be unravelled, but at least he showed there was a process, a method even if his conclusions were flawed.
Religion took umbrage at being doubted and then we had the 20th century, which didn't turn out so well.

I dunno. You only have to look at the incest category to think, gee, maybe he did have a point about Oedipus.

 

[stickygirl]

I dunno. You only have to look at the incest category to think, gee, maybe he did have a point about Oedipus.

motherfuckers...
I wonder what the etymology of that expression is?

 

[Duleigh]

motherfuckers...
I wonder what the etymology of that expression is?

It has more to do with describing an angry emotional attitude rather than how they fill a Saturday evening.