Rituals

[esclave_PP]

For those of us who live in the same locale as our Top/Dominant/slave/submissive, are there daily or weekly rituals that you do to enhance or make your relationship even more special or meaningful? If so, what kinds of things do you do?

 

[myinnerslut]

i dont live with A, or eve near him at the minute, but we do have weekly rituals. for example, i write him once a week about a specific something. and daily i send him pictures of what i wore that day. its not much, but it keeps the D/s going even on days where we have little contact.

not sure if thats the kind of thing you mean...

 

[SubKekiLee]

I do not live with MYD either... but we speak daily he gives me instructions daily and we meet online daily... to spend time together

 

[Marquis]

OK, I'm almost embarrassed to admit this, but lo has to ask my permission to use the bathroom.

I enjoy because it gives us a reason to check in with each other throughout the day and does a bit to reinforce our relationship roles.

I'm not sure what else we do would fit into this category, I'll think about it.

 

[His_pita]

Our most significant ritual has to do with my collar. In the morning, he hands me my collar, I face him and curtsy, turn around and lift my hair, he puts on the collar and then kisses the back of my neck. Before bed, we do much the same ritual, minus the curtsy. It's a simple way to focus on each other and what we are about.

 

[Marquis]

Oh, I thought of another one.

Sometimes I chain lo to the bad with an iron collar and seal it with padlocks. In the morning I'll unlock her. We'll do that every night for a while, until the payoff/hindrance thing wears thin and eventually it seems like a good idea again.

 

[Bandit58]

Not sure if this qualifies as a "ritual" or not, but each night when I'm ready to go to bed I will switch off my laptop, go over to Him and hand Him the TV remote, and kiss Him goodnight before I get ready for bed. I never go to bed without giving Him that kiss....I'm not allowed

He stays up because He suffers insomnia *not because He doesn't sleep with me*

 

[EmpressFi]

Living so far apart, there are things that we do every day that I wouldnt necessarily call "rituals" as far as talking on YIM every day or watching Nascar or football on the weekends..

But one ritual I do.. is sometime during the day I send him an IM that is usually just:

"Hey!"

then I wait... then I send the other part of the message...

"Have I told you I love you enough today?"

To which he responds, "Never" Then I proceed to tell him how much I love him.

 

[myinnerslut]

funny this thread is active at this time.... A just told me not to send him any more pictures of what i wore that day. not becuase hw doesnt like them, but becuase he is runing out of space to put them. damn life getting in the way again.

 

[pandoravampire]

We have
I get his stuff ready for bed.
I wake up and suck his cock every morning to say hiya! Sometimes, through gritted teeth, but i do it.
I say goodnight, the same way. (obviously, not always to make him climax, apparently, its really relaxing to not come from. He lets me know if i have to start increasing the likelihood of orgasm for him)
I call him Sir, or Paul, depending on company or not, he calls me all manner of things!
If i put 2 glasses of red, on the coffee table, its a signal, that i want to do something on the other side of the fence. Which is usually a lot of jollies for him. He can either say nay or yay!
If im washing the floor and polishing it, he knows to leave me well alone lol.
Oh, and 'ensure that you are cleansed' generally means im gonna get my arse fucked later.
There are too many ritualistic dance routines we enjoy to mention
Not sure if these are rituals, or just stuff we kinda enjoy doing.
pandoravampire

 

[esclave_PP]

You bet they are rituals Any more out there? Waves hi to Marquis

 

[Marquis]

You bet they are rituals Any more out there? Waves hi to Marquis

Hi esclave!

 

[FungiUg]

I need to work on my follow-through with rituals.

I did have a couple in place for a while where she would start the play session on her knees, head at my feet, and tell me how much she wanted to be used and beg me to do so. Similarly, at the end of the session she would resume that position and tell me how much she had appreciated what I had done with her.

For various reasons that's not in place at the moment, but I'd like to get back there.

 

[Qpet05]

i send Master a morning e-mail "hug" which includes my journal entry from the day before.

When W/we see each other i start each session on my knees waiting for Him to tell me to remove His shoes and socks. i then lick and suck on His toes until He tells me to stop.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Rituals are very important for both of us. I can't think of any I would be willing to share here but following them makes me feel safe, valued and right where I belong.

 

[callinectes]

I really don't think we have rituals. There are little things we do that just sort of evolved naturally and fit our realtionship but I can't think of a single thing I ahev to do each day. Well, there is a certain thing I have to say at a certain time..maybe that is a ritual? It is the only one though.