polywog
Really Experienced
- Joined
- Aug 29, 2001
- Posts
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"loved, respected, and known"
Lillie, I believe you said it all. In this perspective, both men and women are identical in what they want.
Ariosto, this topic is a can of worms on gargantuan scale.
I read this am's posts with dismay. I thot a catfight would ensue. I fear feelings were hurt, and little understanding occured.
We needn't look to gender differences (which do exist, on both nature and nurture side of the study) for reasons why attempts at 'love, respect, and knowing' fail.
I am not the first to note that our medium has limits. These make communication tools like sarcasm (poor enough in RL) practically guaranteed to cause problems where facial cues, vocal tones, body language are not available.
There ought to ba law, Ariosto, can you sponsor it's legislation?
Girls, no amount of self depracation repairs a misunderstanding.
*steps down and brutally kicks the soap box*
Mel, I said I felt grand. I did. (At the moment, I feel great sorrow, for many reasons not directly connected to this thread or lit.) I will jump into the river, after you, and cradle you, and carry you to safety.
The way I feel when I read or compose a post, reflect aims aknowledged and subconcious, which I hardly account for and cannot call others to account for. And I try to discern another's meaning and intent with even less data or objectivity. Don't we fool ourselves? THIS IS RL!
The topic of yesterdays thread ties right in. I want attention, possitive regard from women and men. When I post my character, I want to know I'm witty, funny, sexy...I want to know you think so, that you feel drawn to me. I am so desperate to hear you say it, Mel!
If, Ariosto, you respond with "wow, P, that was profound!" I will float for days.
Lilly, you can write, "Hey, P, lets start a closed thread, I want you to jam your thing in here and here...", I would look real hard at my schedule to see if I could devote enough time to make it rewarding for us.
Chele, well..I suppose I've made my point. (Are you disapointed to be left out? Huh? Are you? HUh?)
We have all indicated at some point, our respect and affection for one another and said it meant alot to hear it from one another. Maybe that's a core issue and needs great emphasis. It's hard for sincerity to get a foothold in this medium.
I have a topic, What qualities in ourselves can we telegraph into our posts that engender the rewards we really want? By extension, What defines the straightest line between my reward and yours?
Lillie, I believe you said it all. In this perspective, both men and women are identical in what they want.
Ariosto, this topic is a can of worms on gargantuan scale.
I read this am's posts with dismay. I thot a catfight would ensue. I fear feelings were hurt, and little understanding occured.
We needn't look to gender differences (which do exist, on both nature and nurture side of the study) for reasons why attempts at 'love, respect, and knowing' fail.
I am not the first to note that our medium has limits. These make communication tools like sarcasm (poor enough in RL) practically guaranteed to cause problems where facial cues, vocal tones, body language are not available.
There ought to ba law, Ariosto, can you sponsor it's legislation?
Girls, no amount of self depracation repairs a misunderstanding.
*steps down and brutally kicks the soap box*
Mel, I said I felt grand. I did. (At the moment, I feel great sorrow, for many reasons not directly connected to this thread or lit.) I will jump into the river, after you, and cradle you, and carry you to safety.
The way I feel when I read or compose a post, reflect aims aknowledged and subconcious, which I hardly account for and cannot call others to account for. And I try to discern another's meaning and intent with even less data or objectivity. Don't we fool ourselves? THIS IS RL!
The topic of yesterdays thread ties right in. I want attention, possitive regard from women and men. When I post my character, I want to know I'm witty, funny, sexy...I want to know you think so, that you feel drawn to me. I am so desperate to hear you say it, Mel!
If, Ariosto, you respond with "wow, P, that was profound!" I will float for days.
Lilly, you can write, "Hey, P, lets start a closed thread, I want you to jam your thing in here and here...", I would look real hard at my schedule to see if I could devote enough time to make it rewarding for us.
Chele, well..I suppose I've made my point. (Are you disapointed to be left out? Huh? Are you? HUh?)
We have all indicated at some point, our respect and affection for one another and said it meant alot to hear it from one another. Maybe that's a core issue and needs great emphasis. It's hard for sincerity to get a foothold in this medium.
I have a topic, What qualities in ourselves can we telegraph into our posts that engender the rewards we really want? By extension, What defines the straightest line between my reward and yours?