Results are in, Dear god WHY?!?!?!?

[earthboundslave]

I've been running my own little experiment using a variety of online BDSM, ALT, and "descrete" sites and services, and I've come to a clear outcome.

ANYONE CAN GO OUT RIGHT NOW AND HAVE SEX WITH A MAN OR MULTIPLE MEN... Shit, men will actually flock to you, (or me, a guy, without a picture or anything to show) but if you want to meet just ONE woman, be she big, thick or thin, tall, medium or midget, you'ld be better off fucking a meat grinder while grinding your scrotum on a cheese grater. If i hear one more woman complaning about how hard it is to get laid I'm gong to vomit on a random woodland creature in hopes my churning stomach acid fries its skull. Every woman out there is taken, or searching for another woman. Now a woman looking for a woman or women may have dificulty meeting someone, but that's for the same reason there are nowomen left for us single guys.

Don't believe me? just skim through the tread titles, notice the # of replies too, you'll soon notice that any mention from a woman interested in meeting, or exchanging photo's etc with a guy is flooded with anywhere from 10 to 10k replies, but the guys looking for women are usually void of all replies except their own. In fact, this tread will likely be viewed, and only replied to by guys with girls, girls who still think it's hard to get a guy (because they are too conservative to ask for what they want), or possibly guys who have had the same trouble I have encountered.

ARE THERE NO SINGLE INTERESTING WOMEN OUT THERE ANYMORE? ARE NO WOMEN INTERESTED IN MEETING A SINGLE GUY FOR.... WHATEVER?

And are there any DOMME women who don't weight more than my car? That's another trend I've discovered, Domme women an rarely in the thick to thin category. (sorry to any BBW out there, I'm not trying to be hurtfull towards y'all, it's just I want a woman my size, is that so wrong?)
In closing, GRRR. I hate this crap. All I want to do is meet a Domme in the Norman OKC area, and submit to serve and receives some TLC and discipline in return. Argh.....

 

[PleasureMe]

I wish you much luck in your hunt, however, I don't know a female (thick or thin) that would want anything to do with that attitude. JMHO.

 

[MissTaken]

Frustrating, ain't it?

Having done the alt.com, bondage.com and a few other online scenes, there are never any lack of responses to an add I have placed.

Ahhhh

but let's see,

Try finding someone fairly close, who doesn't mind kids, who realizes submissive women have intellect and yes, OMG opinions....


Getting laid is one thing.

Getting involved is another.

It is frustrating on both sides of the coin. In fact, I was very frustrated by the hours spent getting to know this Dom or that only to find , whether on line or in real life, that they were jerks.

Ummm I was not asking for much.
A D/s relationship including companionship and respect for the long term

Is that too much to ask? Yep!

 

[bozinka]

I've been running my own little experiment using a variety of online BDSM, ALT, and "descrete" sites and services, and I've come to a clear outcome.

ANYONE CAN GO OUT RIGHT NOW AND HAVE SEX WITH A MAN OR MULTIPLE MEN... Shit, men will actually flock to you, (or me, a guy, without a picture or anything to show) but if you want to meet just ONE woman, be she big, thick or thin, tall, medium or midget, you'ld be better off fucking a meat grinder while grinding your scrotum on a cheese grater. If i hear one more woman complaning about how hard it is to get laid I'm gong to vomit on a random woodland creature in hopes my churning stomach acid fries its skull. Every woman out there is taken, or searching for another woman. Now a woman looking for a woman or women may have dificulty meeting someone, but that's for the same reason there are nowomen left for us single guys.

Don't believe me? just skim through the tread titles, notice the # of replies too, you'll soon notice that any mention from a woman interested in meeting, or exchanging photo's etc with a guy is flooded with anywhere from 10 to 10k replies, but the guys looking for women are usually void of all replies except their own. In fact, this tread will likely be viewed, and only replied to by guys with girls, girls who still think it's hard to get a guy (because they are too conservative to ask for what they want), or possibly guys who have had the same trouble I have encountered.

ARE THERE NO SINGLE INTERESTING WOMEN OUT THERE ANYMORE? ARE NO WOMEN INTERESTED IN MEETING A SINGLE GUY FOR.... WHATEVER?

And are there any DOMME women who don't weight more than my car? That's another trend I've discovered, Domme women an rarely in the thick to thin category. (sorry to any BBW out there, I'm not trying to be hurtfull towards y'all, it's just I want a woman my size, is that so wrong?)
In closing, GRRR. I hate this crap. All I want to do is meet a Domme in the Norman OKC area, and submit to serve and receives some TLC and discipline in return. Argh.....

I think this may be on the wrong thread... probably won't find any takers here in the Playground. Try the personals... or some such area.

But, I know... as a woman here on lit, we seem to get much more response than the guys. But, I think that's typical. Not to stereotype, but I do think more guys frequent places like this looking to meet people than women do. It's kind of a woman's game out here... and I for one love that.... LOL!

And, um, well.... I think from this post - perhaps you put people off? LOL... I understand you're frustrated, but to imply that the only people who have ever replied to you are as big as your car, whatever.. doesn't seem like something that will attract people to you....

It takes time. And it is fucking hard to get laid!!! It's not as easy as it seems bud.... And, you don't want to meet just ONE woman - be she big thick thin or tal medium or midget... no... because you've said as much.

Good luck on the search.... and remember, as it is a woman's game out there, we reserve the right to be a bit picky. And, if you don't find you're meeting any women, well, you might want to think why is that.....

 

[earthboundslave]

thanks to all who've replied thus far, a few things to get straight:

first off, PleasureMe, this is just a vent for my frustration, this "attitude" I have.. well i'm not sure if you're reffering to my overall attitude or my only wanting to be with a girl around my size. If it's my overall attitude, once again, it's just a vent, I'd scream out the window, but I'd prolly get the police out here faster than I'd find anyone to share in a disscussion or debate about the situation I've found online. If it's about the later, then ... well there's nothing I can say to that, it's a preference, not a set rule that cannot be broken, just a preference along with another trend I've found. Is there a direct link bewueen the two/ or is it mere coinsidence that the things I am interested in attract larger women? Perhaps I shall never know.
to MissTaken, as you may note, i didn't say women can get the cream of the crop, just that they can in all likelyhood, get something. anything. the thing that pissed me off about Alt.com was that when I mentioned submissive, I got a flock of MEN replying. I specifically noted that I AM A MAN, (which wasn't a problem for them) and that I'm interested in WOMEN, not men. I appoligise that the men you've encountered aren't what you were looking for. In my endeavors, I got only once reply from a woman. She had a kid, which didn't bother me, untill of course she always dissapeared and would not say anything due to (as per her reply next time we chatted) "kid" or "phone" we never even met, I had given her my phone number, she called a couple times, it seemed like we were compatible, but she was always too busy to even meet. I would have loved to have takend her out to a public diner and had a meal with her to see how thing swe in person, (as I'm sure you're aware, that can make a huge diff) but it never happened, and slowly we stopped speaking at all.
bonzinka, I'm aware this isn't the right thread to find a Domme, but that is not the purpose of the message, (refer to the whole "vent" thing noted above) I realize it's a woman's game out there. the whole thing about thinking as to why I'm not getting responses, I've thought about it, and I've determined that I don't know what is it a woman looks for in an online "ad". Either that or perhaps my lack of penis pix is my undoing... Do you women actually like having every response attached to a pic of dick? Should I snap a shot of my crotch and post it to et a reply? Throw me a bone here (no pun intended), other than my bad attitude, what might I do better?
*sigh*

 

[bozinka]

thanks to all who've replied thus far, a few things to get straight:

first off, PleasureMe, this is just a vent for my frustration, this "attitude" I have.. well i'm not sure if you're reffering to my overall attitude or my only wanting to be with a girl around my size. If it's my overall attitude, once again, it's just a vent, I'd scream out the window, but I'd prolly get the police out here faster than I'd find anyone to share in a disscussion or debate about the situation I've found online. If it's about the later, then ... well there's nothing I can say to that, it's a preference, not a set rule that cannot be broken, just a preference along with another trend I've found. Is there a direct link bewueen the two/ or is it mere coinsidence that the things I am interested in attract larger women? Perhaps I shall never know.

bonzinka, I'm aware this isn't the right thread to find a Domme, but that is not the purpose of the message, (refer to the whole "vent" thing noted above) I realize it's a woman's game out there. the whole thing about thinking as to why I'm not getting responses, I've thought about it, and I've determined that I don't know what is it a woman looks for in an online "ad". Either that or perhaps my lack of penis pix is my undoing... Do you women actually like having every response attached to a pic of dick? Should I snap a shot of my crotch and post it to et a reply? Throw me a bone here (no pun intended), other than my bad attitude, what might I do better?
*sigh*

Hi there. First... I personally know that, although I am not what you might call "a larger woman" hearing a term like that being used in your post would cause me to not take interest in you the way you are seeking. I don't know why... as I know that I have certain physical traits I prefer too.

As for the penis pix thing... It is my opinion that no, most women do NOT like them. I actually hate them (sorry guys.) I would much rather see a guy, in full dress, in half dress, hell, in just a pair of boxers, before I want to see his dick. I personally think that they all look about the same, and when I'm in the mood, sure, I like to look at it, etc. But, perhaps it's from being married to a guy who's constantly whipping it out - thinking it's funny, sexy, whatever... that I would rather not have it "whipped out" here either. I am much more into the whole guy. I prefer to talk to a guy, get to know him, before I decide if I like him or not. And, especially before I decide if I like his penis or not... LOL.

As for how to go about meeting a woman, I don't know. I would always suggest just be yourself. Here on Lit... read the threads, browse the boards, and jump into conversations - if you feel you have something to add... Make friends first. Without a doubt, once people on here start to get to know you, you WILL find a woman interested in like things... but it all takes time. You can't place an ad and expect to find a lady over night - especially a sub, as from what I understand, that requires quite a bit of trust, etc. Is that something you can really place an ad for? I would think it's the kind of thing that you'd have to get to know someone quite a bit first, before broaching that topic...

 

[The Plunger]

Explore your options, masturbation, blow up dolls, pocket pussies, and a variety of other things.

 

[earthboundslave]

I appreciate you wisdom bozinka, You'renot the first to say girls hate penis pix. And I would love to post some kind of pic on the web, but alas, i don't have a webcam/digital cam or a scanner to transfer them to the web.
However, about the term "larger women" .. what exactly should I call a large woman? BBW? Large? festivly plump? It seems everytime I hear a new term, it eventually becomes offensive, or not welcoming. Oh well.
As per can a person really put out an ad to be submissive? I'm not sure, though I've seen it done before, I don't know if it works. I've always figured Dom/me's look for subs and subs look for Dom/me's. Perhaps I'm mistaken again.

And to the Plunger, thanks, i do explore every option I'm given, though there is only so little dommination an inflatable doll can assert over you, unless you know about some inflatable dolls I sohuld know about, in which case, pray do tell...

 

[MissTaken]

Hmmmm

Well, first

No to the penis pics.

Second: What is it about alt? Even though my ad was specifically a fem sub seeking a Dom male, I got responses from couples wanting to be dominated, men wanting to be dominated and only a few male Doms.

Hmmm I wonder if there is a glich in the system or if there are just that many jerks out there.

Third: I look for a profile that says something about the person aside from his sexual preferences. I like chatting with men who wnat to know about me, aside fo sexual preferences. (I think there is a pattern developing )

 

[bozinka]

I appreciate you wisdom bozinka, You'renot the first to say girls hate penis pix. And I would love to post some kind of pic on the web, but alas, i don't have a webcam/digital cam or a scanner to transfer them to the web.
However, about the term "larger women" .. what exactly should I call a large woman? BBW? Large? festivly plump? It seems everytime I hear a new term, it eventually becomes offensive, or not welcoming. Oh well.
As per can a person really put out an ad to be submissive? I'm not sure, though I've seen it done before, I don't know if it works. I've always figured Dom/me's look for subs and subs look for Dom/me's. Perhaps I'm mistaken again.

And to the Plunger, thanks, i do explore every option I'm given, though there is only so little dommination an inflatable doll can assert over you, unless you know about some inflatable dolls I sohuld know about, in which case, pray do tell...

Not sure what to say about the weight issue, but why must you say it in the first place, I guess. Later, after talking, you can ask for a pic, etc, and decide if that's the person for you. But to put it in your ad is a little, well, off putting....