Restraint?

[seela]

It all revolves around SS&C or RACK, depending on your personal preference. As far as the BDSM scene goes, you don't do things like that, period. If you do, you are going against the basic safety rules set in place.

Sure, there will always be those who do that, as well as those who test the envelope itself. But they are the exception. Handcuffs come with two keys. You only need one. Put one in a safe place where it's easy to get to. Shit, you can even purchase spare keys. Get several and put them around the house.

We've all heard the stories of an embarrassed couple driving to the police station. And stupidity is common, when sexually aroused humans are involved. It's one of the reasons safety rules are necessary.

Yup. You're absolutely right. My situation, though, had nothing to do with BDSM or being sexually aroused and everything to do with being young, stupid and spending a Sunday afternoon joking around with a group of friends.

I'm not really a fan of bondage or restraints of any kind so that's the biggest reason for not getting new cuffs, and I wasn't trying to warn anyone about the dangers of handcuffs. I was merely sharing an anecdote.

 

[DVS]

Yup. You're absolutely right. My situation, though, had nothing to do with BDSM or being sexually aroused and everything to do with being young, stupid and spending a Sunday afternoon joking around with a group of friends.

I'm not really a fan of bondage or restraints of any kind so that's the biggest reason for not getting new cuffs, and I wasn't trying to warn anyone about the dangers of handcuffs. I was merely sharing an anecdote.

I knew this before my post, but just took your anecdote and incorporated it into a BDSM situation that very well could end in the same way. It does happen too often and your story, while not BDSM or even sex related, shows how a small lack of thought can end up with an uncomfortable, if not dangerous result.

Oh, and by the way...I am very much into BDSM and even more into bondage. Your post didn't sway me one bit from cuffs.

 

[seela]

Oh, and by the way...I am very much into BDSM and even more into bondage. Your post didn't sway me one bit from cuffs.

I would have been surprised if that would have happened.

One of these days I'll come here with my thousand questions about electro stuff and you'll be my man then, so I can't afford to turn you away from BDSM! *evil grin*
I'll do a search first, though, to see if my questions have already been answered.

 

[where]

I second making sure you have the keys. And I would also recommend not tossing the keys around on the balcony with your friends as a stupid joke, because it just might happen that the keys will fall to the wrong side of the balcony railing.

The cuffs were the exact same model that the police here use, so we called the local police station and asked if they would be willing to open the cuffs. Luckily, they said it's ok and off to the police station we went. It was absolutely humiliating. Luckily I was fully dressed, none of us were drunk and the whole thing with the handcuffs had been just a stupid, childish joke instead of a scene gone awry.

Interestingly, the nice officer who freed me told me, that I wasn't the first person who had to be freed from the handcuffs by the police. Apparently stupidity is common.

I never got another pair of handcuffs again.

some people of course would find that sexy. for me, I wasn't prepared to drive 40 miles with a bed frame.

It all revolves around SS&C or RACK, depending on your personal preference. As far as the BDSM scene goes, you don't do things like that, period. If you do, you are going against the basic safety rules set in place.

Sure, there will always be those who do that, as well as those who test the envelope itself. But they are the exception. Handcuffs come with two keys. You only need one. Put one in a safe place where it's easy to get to. Shit, you can even purchase spare keys. Get several and put them around the house.

We've all heard the stories of an embarrassed couple driving to the police station. And stupidity is common, when sexually aroused humans are involved. It's one of the reasons safety rules are necessary.

i was/am vanilla. we'd never heard of SS&C what the hell is RACK?

 

[seela]

some people of course would find that sexy. for me, I wasn't prepared to drive 40 miles with a bed frame.


i was/am vanilla. we'd never heard of SS&C what the hell is RACK?

I love humiliation, but that was something else... Mostly because it wasn't BDSM or sex even to begin with and was a stupid accident that happened when joking around. Come to think of it, if it would have been intentional, my reaction would have been different, but I digress.

RACK = risk-aware consensual kink.

 

[Homburg]

i was/am vanilla. we'd never heard of SS&C what the hell is RACK?

And SS&C is "Safe, Sane, and Consensual."

 

[CNYCarol]

Definitely go for safety. If you are going to use ropes, have emergency shears on hand to cut her out in the case of an emergency. The straps they sell in the adult shops are nice because you can get them out fast if you need to.
and no it doesn't make you a freak. It makes sex so much more exciting. Make sure you establish the "safety word" before you start, just in case

OK, this may sound stupid, but why a safety word?

 

[seela]

OK, this may sound stupid, but why a safety word?

Some people say stop even if they don't really want the other person to stop what it is that they're doing. A safeword that has nothing to do with the situation can be used in those cases so that it's clear when it's really time to stop. Just pick a word and when it's said, things halt. Many people use traffic lights, green = all's good, yellow = slow down, red = stop.

If the person can't speak, then you might want to have a safesignal of some sort. Dropping something or snapping your fingers are pretty common.

 

[monicalynne68]

OK, this may sound stupid, but why a safety word?

because when doing BDSM things can get pretty intense. The girl is going be screaming and sometimes it's difficult to tell if they screaming in pleasure or in pain. If it gets too intense, the girl needs a safety net

 

[DVS]

Not a stupid question at all. It's necessary to know these things. A safe word is also for when there is a problem with something that only the submissive is aware of. This works together with the ability to quickly get the submissive out of any bondage. The safe word can be less than effective, if the submissive is so bound up that it's near impossible to get him/her out of it in time, depending on what emergency the safe word was used for.

Something like a leg cramp, bound too tight causing circulation to be cut off to a hand or foot, the need to urinate, or in a worst case scenario, a medical condition, such as a heart attack can necessitate a speedy removal of any bondage. All of this is the responsibility of the Dom/me, in the event the safe word is used. You don't just tie someone up and have your fun. There is also a job to do when you decide to Dom someone.