Remote control bondage

[IAmYourBitch]

I like to be the submissive one but unfortunately my "dom" (if you can call it like that) lives in England and we only see eachother every couple of months. I have a small safe which can be opened by a 8 digit code, now here's what we do:
I give her a new code when I start to remember too much of it (it's been going on like this for a while) and then I put on handcuffs. In the start it was only handcuffs, then I also started to tie my feet. A couple of weeks ago I gave her a list of "punishments" like don't give me the code if I don't obey in certain things like she controls the speed of my masturbation, control when I cum, have to tie myself to the bed (with or without vibrator on certain places) or even a "simple" thing as asking the code nicely and having to add please at the end of the question (which I have a lot of trouble with saying after she made me go slow, then faster, then make me stop right before I cum) Often she will just give the code in the end anyway (up to my frustration) and to make things worse (for me) last week she said I was involving her too much, she is fine with me tying myself up but doesn't always want to be in charge of the code so I started experimenting with programs that encrypt the code file for some time. Now is my question, do any of you do the same and does anyone have any ideas about things I need to undergo before I get the code (when she's up to it to hold the code) oh and by the way, I'm in a skype call with her about 99% of the time so she can monitor what I'm doing!
Other things she demands me to do are:

Force me to show certain body parts on cam (while cuming)
make noise while cuming
Tie myself to the bed, hands and feet (sometimes she will get naked or put on an outfit and demand me to watch, sometimes even when she uses her vibrator while leaving me with nothing I can do about it)
Leave me handcuffed until the morning
Make me cum multiple times

Any new ideas are welcome and if I do them I'll post how they were, I am into (sofe) pain but more when we are actually together, I tried using clothspins but I don't really like to use those.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Yeah, I can imagine her worry-- if SHE loses the code, you're screwed-- and it's her fault for losing it. I would not want that either. This is your fun after all, much more than hers.

Another way to keep a set of handcuff keys away for specific amounts of time is with ice. You can freeze them into a block of ice, for instance, and wait for it to melt.

A rather elegant method that I've heard of, is to put lots of ice cubes into the toe of a stocking, slip the key ring over the stocking as well, and tie the top to something too high for you to reach.
When all the icecubes have melted the ring falls the rest of the way down the stocking and falls to the floor-- or into the bucket of icy cold water!

To control the time, she can tell you how many icecubes you have to put in.

 

[IAmYourBitch]

it's not as much she is afraid to lose the code, she has it on her laptop and on her phone so IF the internet might die on either side she can still sms it and another thing I do lately is put my other laptop out of reach from me and let a a timelock program run on that on a time that far in the future so it would still be a punishment if something might happen and I would have to wait for it to decode the code file again so plenty of safety options there.
I also have tried ice and put a key in there but the problem is I can't attach it to something on the ceiling so I would have to make it so I can always reach, which would lead to me being able to make the ice melt faster which wouldn't take long.
We also had a talk last night, when I wanna do some bondage I'll tell her and she'll decide if she wants to be in control or not, if not I'll just have to go with the timelock program, she did agree on her telling how long it will take before the code gets visible to me.

 

[Primalex]

Sorry, can we go back to the start - who is the submissive in this relationship?

 

[Stella_Omega]

As so often happens, he's confused "bottom" for "sub."

But since he has his partner, it doesn't matter.

I am curious though, OP-- She gives you the chance to self-abuse in front of an audience. What do you do for her?

 

[IAmYourBitch]

I'm just on cam with her through skype so she's the only audience. The answer to the question what do I do for her, when we are actually together (once every couple of months) she likes to tie me up and tease me with everything possible and in the end make me come or let me free so I can hump her. Outside that time it's only possible this way, she says she likes to see me squirm and hear me make noise when I come (sometimes when I don't make enough noise she demands me to do it again and make more noise) and for me it's not as much the self abuse, there's times when I just have the feeling I want to be tied up and not being able to get free before someone else decides I can, a form of punishment. Sometimes I handcuff / tie myself to the bed when she's gone for a while or when she's gone to sleep with the hope she won't give the code (even when I'm asking for it) but give it at the time she wants. When we're together and I tie myself to the bed when she's not there it almost always ends up that when she comes home she'll blindfold me and drop candlewax on me because that really makes me squirm.
To make a long story short, it's the squirming and noise that she likes and I don't think I have more to offer when we're not together irl.
And about the bottom/sub one, I didn't actually read into that very well, she does make me let her say I'm her bitch and sometimes I would like that she would demand/make me do more humiliating things. I used to go go out and wear diapers in public (and I still sometimes do) and cloth myself in girl clothing, she could make me do things like that more often imo but as far as our relation goes I think it's more bottom/top instead of sub/dom