Relationship woes (longish post, sorry)
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Riley_James
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A lifetime of frustration
Hey there...
Know your pain...very well. I'm a 43 bi mwf who indentifies just as heavily with gay and bi men as you do with lesbians. We share a ton of the same characteristics, I'm always the shoulder to cry on and on top of that I play mom to whoever will have me...a true nurturer.
The first guy I ever fell in love with was gay and even though he used me as a beard with his folks and we dated, (and he said he loved me) we never had sex. He thought, I think that I always wanted to change him, when in reality I never would have. I loved him exactly the way he was and just wanted him to include me in his life somehow.
Part of the problem, I think, is society's view of what a proper man/woman relationship has to be, which is why you've posted here where we are more accepting of people's individualism. This community doesn't seek to judge or change anyone, just let people live and let live, the way nature intended, IMHO. I'm sure you find that the women you love don't understand your attraction any more than the rest of society, adding to the theroy that everyone has ONE mate or match in life. This too I believe to be a falicy. There are many ways to love another human being and many ways to show that love.
In a fairy tale (no pun intended) world, we would all be free to give as much love in life as we possibly could. At least in my fantasy world, we would.
PM me if you want to talk more about this.
Riley
Hey there...
Know your pain...very well. I'm a 43 bi mwf who indentifies just as heavily with gay and bi men as you do with lesbians. We share a ton of the same characteristics, I'm always the shoulder to cry on and on top of that I play mom to whoever will have me...a true nurturer.
The first guy I ever fell in love with was gay and even though he used me as a beard with his folks and we dated, (and he said he loved me) we never had sex. He thought, I think that I always wanted to change him, when in reality I never would have. I loved him exactly the way he was and just wanted him to include me in his life somehow.
Part of the problem, I think, is society's view of what a proper man/woman relationship has to be, which is why you've posted here where we are more accepting of people's individualism. This community doesn't seek to judge or change anyone, just let people live and let live, the way nature intended, IMHO. I'm sure you find that the women you love don't understand your attraction any more than the rest of society, adding to the theroy that everyone has ONE mate or match in life. This too I believe to be a falicy. There are many ways to love another human being and many ways to show that love.
In a fairy tale (no pun intended) world, we would all be free to give as much love in life as we possibly could. At least in my fantasy world, we would.
PM me if you want to talk more about this.
Riley
