Regrets?

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[HeavyStick]

best of luck to you

 

[Dietrich K.]

I regret not learning to play the piano when I was younger. Although I suppose it's not too late to learn.

 

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[scrymettet]

no its not to late.

It's never too late.

 

[JazzManJim]

My largest regret is that I never went to college and got my degree. I'd be in a different place doing a different thing right now, and I know in my heart that I would be quite happy. I pine sometimes for the years I lost not doing what I deep inside know I should have been doing for all those years.

But I'm fixing that.

And Emmy, I'm 34 and going back to school. Might as well start now, hon.

 

[calypso_21]

What is the point of regretting? To sit there and play the "What If" Game is a bunch of wasted energy. I can think of a ton of other things I would much rather be doing.

Negative energy is too prevalent nowadays. I've fed into it myself and as far as I'm concerned regretting is negative. If you want to review your life and experiences to make future decisions more calculated then I say go for it. But to regret it? Why bother?

If you would have done something differently...think "Can I still do it?" If so, then do it. That is not regretting. That is taking action.

 

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[scrymettet]

I can still get a degree

no, you will get a degree.
and I will send you roses when you will have it

 

[calypso_21]

Well I think regret can be the fuel for desire to get the thing you regret accomplished.
I can still get a degree, Dier can still learn piano.
It makes one think about it.

Too fast for me. I added to my post.

I still don't think that this is called regret. I think you reviewed the things in your past that you have not experienced and would like to. Regret to me is for things that you can NOT change.

"I regret I never followed through on my Senior Prom Night and discovered what could have been with that guy." I don't feel this way but that to me is an example of regret, I can't go back and change it. It is done.

If it is something I can still do, then I have no regret...I have what you said...desire.

 

[lilpriss]

I have only one regret, getting involved with a man who was married. But live and learn. It won't hapen again.

 

[truegentleman]

Regrets? no, not really.

There are things that I would have done differently, knowing what I know now.

Everything that has occurred in my life has helped shape me into the person I am today. Whether they were positive or negative experiences, they either add a little or take a little away from me and who I am.

 

[J.B.]

nothing.

Sure, sometimes I think back at some things that have happened to me in the past, but then I figure I'm where I am because of everything that's happened in my life.

 

[ksmybuttons]

Well I think regret can be the fuel for desire to get the thing you regret accomplished.
I can still get a degree, Dier can still learn piano.
It makes one think about it.

I agree with you Emerald. I have regrets. The main one is that I spent much of my youth being fearful. Testing the waters instead of plunging in. I now know when to go for it and when to remain quiet. I wish I had done it sooner, but reviewing my regrets gives me the impetus to go forward and do those things I might not have done before.

I began learning the guitar at 30. I didn't marry until I was 33. I had a child at 40.

You can do anything at any time you want.

Regret is only negative if you let it be...

 

[Agent99]

"I've had a few.

But, then again, too few to mention."

 

[MaggieH]

I regret not being willing to take a chance on love when i was in college...I never told him how much he meant to me, would never let him close. I lost him.

Then a few years later, I met my husband, and opened up to him. After 15 years, I found out he was leaving me for the bimbo he'd been sleeping with for almost a year.

Now I *think* I'm ready to start dating (I've only been on one date a few months ago, and that ended up with me being completely blown off)...or at least I *want* to be ready. But I find myself backing away at the first whiff of rejection, or even a risk of rejection... so I see myself doing the same things I regret doing 20 years ago, and I'm not sure how to keep myself from doing them again...

 

[slowfingers1]

CLIP..I see myself doing the same things I regret doing 20 years ago, and I'm not sure how to keep myself from doing them again...

Learn to trust yourself, realize that you've grown because of the experiences you've had.. or just be like the rest of us dumbasses and keep making the same mistakes over and over again

Slowfingers

 

[Guest]

My only regret at the moment is letting someone get close to me when my instincts were telling me otherwise.

He knew my worries, got me to let my guard down and then found someone else to pursue right here on the boards.

My only satisfaction is that what goes around comes around.

 

[MaggieH]

Learn to trust yourself, realize that you've grown because of the experiences you've had.. or just be like the rest of us dumbasses and keep making the same mistakes over and over again

yeah, that's what I'm afraid of *smiles*

maybe if i can't trust myself or anyone else i'm not ready yet...but maybe i have to just do it, and *that's* how i'll learn to trust myself and others....

 

[MaggieH]

He knew my worries, got me to let my guard down and then found someone else to pursue right here on the boards.

sounds like the same guy I went out with...*sigh*

 

[slowfingers1]

yeah, that's what I'm afraid of *smiles*

maybe if i can't trust myself or anyone else i'm not ready yet...but maybe i have to just do it, and *that's* how i'll learn to trust myself and others....

Hopefully realizing that you dont want to keep making the same mistakes will be enough.. good luck

 

[SexySlut2]

i believe to regret is to regress.

any choices made in life are made for reasons and while you may not agree with those reasons later in life, those choices and the outcome of them and the choices that inevidably follow are what makes you the person you are today.

My thoughts exactly!

 

[MaggieH]

thanks *smiles*