Red's Thread - come in and read a bit, post a bit, and lick a bit... okay... alot!!!

[lance gt]

The nerve? Really - - - I'm pretty sure I told you I didn't want fucked, that I've done the fuck thing and lately it's over-rated too. I gave you a book and everything, tryin' to help you out, but nope, you had to go all Domme on my ass without askin. Brat!

I'm pretty sure the "Get the fuck off me" was pretty straight forward.

Though liftin' that crop was pretty awesome.

Fair enough, lol Although, I am one shitty Dom. I care too much to be one. I can do somethings, like spank and play with floggers and such, but disrespectful stuff and unwanted pain is so not me.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Fair enough, lol Although, I am one shitty Dom. I care too much to be one. I can do somethings, like spank and play with floggers and such, but disrespectful stuff and unwanted pain is so not me.

I'm one shitty sub. Okay, not really. I'm a pretty decent sub, I admit it.

I am one shitty Domme though, but I'll write as best I can to appease the masses. Just don't ask me to be one in private or even in real life. It makes me sick to my stomach. I've tried, I was left violently ill and I felt like a complete and utter failure. It was probably one of the worst experiences ever in an online/phone relationship. But again, he asked, I tried and I failed (in my opinion).

 

[lance gt]

I'm one shitty sub. Okay, not really. I'm a pretty decent sub, I admit it.

I am one shitty Domme though, but I'll write as best I can to appease the masses. Just don't ask me to be one in private or even in real life. It makes me sick to my stomach. I've tried, I was left violently ill and I felt like a complete and utter failure. It was probably one of the worst experiences ever in an online/phone relationship. But again, he asked, I tried and I failed (in my opinion).

All depends on the parameters of the relationship. I won't do, what I know I can't do, regardless of whether it turns her on. I'll pass and let someone else be that role for her.
I write good BDSM and some of it is extremely brutal, but I could never in a million years do any of it.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

All depends on the parameters of the relationship. I won't do, what I know I can't do, regardless of whether it turns her on. I'll pass and let someone else be that role for her.
I write good BDSM and some of it is extremely brutal, but I could never in a million years do any of it.

I think I write BDSM very well for having not lived the life. I do more of the heart-to-heart side of it than I think many see coming with the lifestyle, but it is there.

I had never tried it. I did. I failed. I won't ever do it again. It's not in me to go beyond writing as a Domme for a story or maybe a quick sex bit on a thread.

 

[lance gt]

I think I write BDSM very well for having not lived the life. I do more of the heart-to-heart side of it than I think many see coming with the lifestyle, but it is there.

I had never tried it. I did. I failed. I won't ever do it again. It's not in me to go beyond writing as a Domme for a story or maybe a quick sex bit on a thread.

I write in it as a challenge to write out of my comfort zone. Oddly, I never write about what I actually do. I get requests to do Romance and such, but it's not something I can write an entire story about.

The first time I made a woman cry when using a belt, I felt like shit, even though that's what she wanted. She got turned on, I got turned off. It takes a lot for me to do something like that and I don't feel good about myself afterwards.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

I write in it as a challenge to write out of my comfort zone. Oddly, I never write about what I actually do. I get requests to do Romance and such, but it's not something I can write an entire story about.

The first time I made a woman cry when using a belt, I felt like shit, even though that's what she wanted. She got turned on, I got turned off. It takes a lot for me to do something like that and I don't feel good about myself afterwards.

I write out of my comfort zone on often. I did for Survivor the first year I entered it and really was happy with every story I produced that year. I forgo immunities and wrote at least one in every genre. Not this time around. I know I can write in every one, I don't need to prove it to myself again. I am loving the immunities I've won. lol

I like the fantasy of belts, whips, crops, to have them actually applied to my skin --- eh, I don't know. Wouldn't know unless tried though. So I wouldn't rule it out. I know I want it to be with someone who was mutually interested and didn't feel forced into experimentation. There is no fun, in my opinion, if both are willing.

 

[DonovanCrane]

Good morning, Ms. Red. I hope your day's off to a good start. Its always a pleasure to see you running around the boards. Your beauty (most of what I've seen is from your mind, expressed in your words) is certainly one of the highlights of these boards.

On that note, I'm sure you'll have no problem finding willing partners for any kind of experiment you want to indulge.

 

[sereneone4u]

Fair enough, lol Although, I am one shitty Dom. I care too much to be one. I can do somethings, like spank and play with floggers and such, but disrespectful stuff and unwanted pain is so not me.

I beg your pardon, Lance. Doms care and care very much. There are nuances to BDSM just like there is to vanilla relationships. I personally have never felt more cared for than a particular Dom/sub relationship that I was in.

So sez the noob subbish Serene.

Hello Red, I wanted to check on you and see how you were feeling today.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Good morning, Ms. Red. I hope your day's off to a good start. Its always a pleasure to see you running around the boards. Your beauty (most of what I've seen is from your mind, expressed in your words) is certainly one of the highlights of these boards.

On that note, I'm sure you'll have no problem finding willing partners for any kind of experiment you want to indulge.

Thank you very much.

I'm toying with a couple ideas, blade play and rope bondage, maybe even electro stimulation --- but recently and I mean like in the last 2 min. I came up with a great audio story idea that I believe will force me to disappear shortly after writing it to take care of um... personal business. Then sometime when I can find the privacy (which is hard with summer break) I'll have to read and record it. (I'm so looking forward to that)

I beg your pardon, Lance. Doms care and care very much. There are nuances to BDSM just like there is to vanilla relationships. I personally have never felt more cared for than a particular Dom/sub relationship that I was in.

So sez the noob subbish Serene.

Hello Red, I wanted to check on you and see how you were feeling today.

Doms care and care very much - I so agree with you on this. They are able to shoulder not only their burdens, but the burdens of those they are taking care of too. It is a great responsibility as is a sub's responsibility to read the needs of their Doms.

I am very glad to see you. You are a bright spot in my day and a reassuring light that makes me feel as if I am truly wanted here at Lit. Thank you for checking in on me. It means a lot.

I'm doing alright. Working on this cold but trying hard to whine about it. How are you?

 

[lance gt]

I write out of my comfort zone on often. I did for Survivor the first year I entered it and really was happy with every story I produced that year. I forgo immunities and wrote at least one in every genre. Not this time around. I know I can write in every one, I don't need to prove it to myself again. I am loving the immunities I've won. lol

I like the fantasy of belts, whips, crops, to have them actually applied to my skin --- eh, I don't know. Wouldn't know unless tried though. So I wouldn't rule it out. I know I want it to be with someone who was mutually interested and didn't feel forced into experimentation. There is no fun, in my opinion, if both are willing.

My thoughts exactly. I'll do things and experiment with my partner, that's what caring for another's needs are all about. I won't go past my comfort zone though, that's when things go wrong. I want to please my partner in any way she desires, but we have to be reading the same book, to be on the same page.

 

[Scentofawoman]

Ok I'm back.

50 words what you want to do to me? wow that is very special. I am taking that as a compliment.

yes. I had a very haunting dream. The images are clear in my memory. I trust the men on this thread that when i say no, I mean no.

 

[DonovanCrane]

Thank you very much.

I'm toying with a couple ideas, blade play and rope bondage, maybe even electro stimulation --- but recently and I mean like in the last 2 min. I came up with a great audio story idea that I believe will force me to disappear shortly after writing it to take care of um... personal business. Then sometime when I can find the privacy (which is hard with summer break) I'll have to read and record it. (I'm so looking forward to that)



Doms care and care very much - I so agree with you on this. They are able to shoulder not only their burdens, but the burdens of those they are taking care of too. It is a great responsibility as is a sub's responsibility to read the needs of their Doms.

I am very glad to see you. You are a bright spot in my day and a reassuring light that makes me feel as if I am truly wanted here at Lit. Thank you for checking in on me. It means a lot.

I'm doing alright. Working on this cold but trying hard to whine about it. How are you?

I'm sure that the rest of us will be waiting anxiously for that audio; then, we'll all need some private time, courtesy of the lovely and talented Ms. Red...

That gives me an idea: the audio chain story, each building on the pleasure offered by the previous installment. I wonder how well that would work. Of course, for all I know, it may already be a project indulged by someone, and I just haven't come across it, yet...

 

[lance gt]

I beg your pardon, Lance. Doms care and care very much. There are nuances to BDSM just like there is to vanilla relationships. I personally have never felt more cared for than a particular Dom/sub relationship that I was in.

So sez the noob subbish Serene.

Hello Red, I wanted to check on you and see how you were feeling today.

I won't disagree at all with that, Serene. I was explaining to Red that what a woman may want me to do, I have to be able to be comfortable doing it. Respect is key, obviously, but there has to be a good match between Dom and sub, to fill the needs.

 

[sereneone4u]

Thank you very much.

I'm toying with a couple ideas, blade play and rope bondage, maybe even electro stimulation --- but recently and I mean like in the last 2 min. I came up with a great audio story idea that I believe will force me to disappear shortly after writing it to take care of um... personal business. Then sometime when I can find the privacy (which is hard with summer break) I'll have to read and record it. (I'm so looking forward to that)



Doms care and care very much - I so agree with you on this. They are able to shoulder not only their burdens, but the burdens of those they are taking care of too. It is a great responsibility as is a sub's responsibility to read the needs of their Doms.

I am very glad to see you. You are a bright spot in my day and a reassuring light that makes me feel as if I am truly wanted here at Lit. Thank you for checking in on me. It means a lot.

I'm doing alright. Working on this cold but trying hard to whine about it. How are you?

I am glad I do that for you. I think the world of you and while I don't post much to you, I lurk quite often on your posts, lol. Not in a creepy way, in a caring, concerned and I dig you as another chick kind of way.

I could not be Domme either. It makes me physically ill also. I can definitely be assertive, but at some point I want to be overtaken in some way.

 

[SlvrTongueDevil]

I am glad I do that for you. I think the world of you and while I don't post much to you, I lurk quite often on your posts, lol. Not in a creepy way, in a caring, concerned and I dig you as another chick kind of way.

I could not be Domme either. It makes me physically ill also. I can definitely be assertive, but at some point I want to be overtaken in some way.

I must admit, Red's Thread has some of the most interesting discussions.

 

[Scentofawoman]

My view of being a dominatrix/Domme has changed as i have done more and more research into it, and myself. I am a sensualist and I like my partner to feel pleasure too. For me I think that I more on the dominant side then full domme. I want my partner to feel the pleasure I give. I think I have to really trust a man to be a full Domme the way I know I can be where the encounter is all about my need and what I want only.

 

[sereneone4u]

I won't disagree at all with that, Serene. I was explaining to Red that what a woman may want me to do, I have to be able to be comfortable doing it. Respect is key, obviously, but there has to be a good match between Dom and sub, to fill the needs.

You are right, Lance.

As with anything there needs to be a good match.

Just like I am very uncomfortable with being Domme. It just is not within me to do it and I am very much a pleaser.

 

[sereneone4u]

My view of being a dominatrix/Domme has changed as i have done more and more research into it, and myself. I am a sensualist and I like my partner to feel pleasure too. For me I think that I more on the dominant side then full domme. I want my partner to feel the pleasure I give. I think I have to really trust a man to be a full Domme the way I know I can be where the encounter is all about my need and what I want only.

I am that way with my sub tendencies.

I have to really trust a man to be full sub

It is few and far between that I am able to do that, but omg, it is so deliciously sweet it is painful in its pleasure.

 

[SlvrTongueDevil]

My view of being a dominatrix/Domme has changed as i have done more and more research into it, and myself. I am a sensualist and I like my partner to feel pleasure too. For me I think that I more on the dominant side then full domme. I want my partner to feel the pleasure I give. I think I have to really trust a man to be a full Domme the way I know I can be where the encounter is all about my need and what I want only.

Sitting back to enjoy the conversation.

And to contribute - primarily Dom, but have been convinced to switch on occasion.

 

[sereneone4u]

I must admit, Red's Thread has some of the most interesting discussions.

This is a great discussion.

I think a big part of it is the stereotype of the Dom and sub.

I do not have much experience with it and I have been lucky with the couple I have had experiences with and I have been stereotyping of the lifestyle myself. But I have never felt more complete, cherished and capable! Than when I was in a Dom/sub dynamic.

When I say Dom/sub dynamic, I am not talking of the common views of the whips and chains, I am talking of power exchange...it is what works for me.

 

[SlvrTongueDevil]

This is a great discussion.


When I say Dom/sub dynamic, I am not talking of the common views of the whips and chains, I am talking of power exchange...it is what works for me.

Yep ... I agree ... to me, that's the sexy part.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Ok I'm back.

50 words what you want to do to me? wow that is very special. I am taking that as a compliment.

yes. I had a very haunting dream. The images are clear in my memory. I trust the men on this thread that when i say no, I mean no.

I'm glad you trust them, they are a good bunch and if they don't listen to know, throw their ass on ignore and I'll deal with them as best I can, though as we all know in the end it is up to all of us to deal with asses in our own way - ignore is the best, I've learned.

I'm sure that the rest of us will be waiting anxiously for that audio; then, we'll all need some private time, courtesy of the lovely and talented Ms. Red...

That gives me an idea: the audio chain story, each building on the pleasure offered by the previous installment. I wonder how well that would work. Of course, for all I know, it may already be a project indulged by someone, and I just haven't come across it, yet...

I can hardly contain my personal level of excitement, because I think it's going to rock.

A audio chain story would be very different and I don't believe there are any out there like that. I do have a new chain story idea, but is FAR from what you just suggested, it could go over very well - your idea - mine is more like an "eh, maybe that would work." We'll see.

I am glad I do that for you. I think the world of you and while I don't post much to you, I lurk quite often on your posts, lol. Not in a creepy way, in a caring, concerned and I dig you as another chick kind of way.

I could not be Domme either. It makes me physically ill also. I can definitely be assertive, but at some point I want to be overtaken in some way.

I lurk you to in the same way and feel the same as well.

I must admit, Red's Thread has some of the most interesting discussions.

One never knows from one day to the next or one hour from the next what is going to be going on here. I like that.

My view of being a dominatrix/Domme has changed as i have done more and more research into it, and myself. I am a sensualist and I like my partner to feel pleasure too. For me I think that I more on the dominant side then full domme. I want my partner to feel the pleasure I give. I think I have to really trust a man to be a full Domme the way I know I can be where the encounter is all about my need and what I want only.

I can start out all Domme, but shortly into it, I know damn well I want him to take over. I can't carry it myself for too long. I feel foolish and inept.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

I am that way with my sub tendencies.

I have to really trust a man to be full sub

It is few and far between that I am able to do that, but omg, it is so deliciously sweet it is painful in its pleasure.

Trust it the biggest key factor to me displaying a very deep and private part of me - the true submissive part that knows exactly when that level of conversation or act has taken a turn. The sassy attitude or sauciness is dropped and in an instant I know my place. The complete giving of myself --- it's been a rare find for me to allow that to happen and a gut-wrenching experience when it ends.

Sitting back to enjoy the conversation.

And to contribute - primarily Dom, but have been convinced to switch on occasion.

Did you enjoy the switching? Or was it an "eh" thing?

This is a great discussion.

I think a big part of it is the stereotype of the Dom and sub.

I do not have much experience with it and I have been lucky with the couple I have had experiences with and I have been stereotyping of the lifestyle myself. But I have never felt more complete, cherished and capable! Than when I was in a Dom/sub dynamic.

When I say Dom/sub dynamic, I am not talking of the common views of the whips and chains, I am talking of power exchange...it is what works for me.

I am speaking the same - I don't mean the whip/chains/etc. I mean the deep one-on-one level of commitment and trust given to each partner.

I think people forget that the Dom is just as vulnerable as the sub. She has a lot of power too and can do just as much damage to their partner if they aren't 100% on the same page.

I have trusted only a small number of men to see that side of me - three that I can say I was in it for the long haul - 2 of the 3 I learned soon (but not soon enough) were more damaging to my soul than I ever realized. The 3rd - there aren't words to describe the level of respect, love and admiration I felt and still feel for him. He is a jewel among men.

 

[Scentofawoman]

I am that way with my sub tendencies.

I have to really trust a man to be full sub

It is few and far between that I am able to do that, but omg, it is so deliciously sweet it is painful in its pleasure.

I think it all comes down to each encounter you have with each individual. people are getting caught up to much in terms. yes we all like definitions, but there is fluidity in those terms too.



I hate being pigeon holed. hey this is what i think you are, this is what you are. For right now yes, i want to be perceived a certain way. And that is where i am right now. Maybe in a year I'll be shouting against the evils of BDSM and moving in to tantric sex and everyone just makes love and no power struggle.

 

[SlvrTongueDevil]

Did you enjoy the switching? Or was it an "eh" thing?

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Enjoyed it actually.