Really Tight... Need some advice

[SexyD05]

Hello All... I have a problem!

I am a virgin and have an extremely tight pussy. I have a hard time using even the basic toys to penetrate myself during masterbation. I know having a tight pussy is not a bad thing, but I dont think I can even handle taking in a guy and I am at the point where I really want to and have a few guys who really want to! Do you have any suggestions on how to make penetration at least bareable until I am used to it? Any suggestion on toys that wouldnt be to hard for me to take in at this point? I would appreciate any and all suggestions!

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[SweetErika]

Have you had a pelvic exam?

How's the lube situation?

Are you completely relaxed when you're trying, or are you kind of tense, or even just a little worried/thinking about the difficulty?

How big are the "basic toys" you're using?

 

[Eilan]

Are you able to use tampons?

 

[SexyD05]

I'm able to use tampons, and maybe I am a little tense because I have had a hard time with penetration previously....... any suggestions?

D

 

[red_jane_doe]

I didn't try toys until after the first time that I had sex. It didn't hurt too much but it was a lot of work for him to get it in. When I tried to use a toy a week or so later, it was still very tight. I got onto my knees and lowered myself onto the toy which allowed me to use more pressure than just trying to use my hand to push it in.

 

[lizaveta]

I have the same basic problem, and it's definitely worsened by tension.

As SweetErika suggested, you should certainly start with your doctor to rule out anything out of the norm.

Assuming everything checks out there, make sure you are fully relaxed - and really turned on - when you take anything inside you. The more excited I am, the easier it is for my DH to penetrate me. That's part relaxation and part wetness, too. I also find that the initial discomfort tends to fade as the session goes on, so maybe perseverance will help as well. Lastly, the longer it's been since the last time I've had intercourse, the tighter things seem to be. Happily, this means more sex for me, so I'm not complaining too much.

Good luck to you!

 

[yoshimitsu]

Being a guy I haven't had to deal with this issue but I am wondering if something like a very small but plug might be good. I was thinking since it wouldn't be hard to just lay around with it kinda holding it's self in there it might slowly loosen things up a little. Otherwise I think the same thing would help with a small dildo. Just let it slowy stretch things out.
Warm bath would probably help.
A tounge might just be the right size

 

[KarlMartinK]

Disagree...

Sorry, but I have to disagree with the previous post suggesting that you try to stretch yourself out. I doubt that's the problem at all. Your pussy is probably already a sufficient size to accommodate normal sexual activity and some rationally-sized toys.

I have to agree with the earlier posts, which mention the amount of lubrication you have at the time you're trying to insert something.

I'd recommend starting with something small and a lot of lubricant and see what you can work yourself up to while you're by yourself.

The original posts about tension also seemed to be right on the money. I'm not an expert, but in my experience, some women have a problem with self-lubrication and tension (the psychological kind, not someont prying on your muffin with some device) makes it worse.

Sex organs are extremely sensitive, especially to the demands we place on them and as soon as we start to develop phobias or expectations, they just get worse. Relax and try it out while you're alone. Use plenty of artificial lubricant (and I wouldn't consider water to be a lubricant) that is safe for inserting into yourself.

I dated a girl who really liked it to be wet and sloppy. When she wasn't producing enough lubricant on her own, she'd get out a bottle of Lubriderm and pump several shots of it right onto my cock and we'd be slip-sliding away. Of course, I don't know how safe Lubriderm is for that kind of thing, but that's what she liked to use and she never seemed to have a problem with it.

Also, drink lots of water. This goes for all women. It may sound silly, but many of us are usually slightly dehydrated at all times. If your body is sufficiently hydrated, you will probably have an easier time lubricating yourself. I dated another woman who was always drinking water. When I was with her, she'd drink at least four glasses of water on any night she wanted to have sex with me. I finally figured that out one night, so I asked her about it. She said her doctor had told her to drink plenty of water any night she was going to have sex because the additional water would help her flush her system out and prevent bladder infections and the like. No problem there. She was always fresh and healthy.

Good luck...

 

[SweetErika]

Sorry, but I have to disagree with the previous post suggesting that you try to stretch yourself out. I doubt that's the problem at all. Your pussy is probably already a sufficient size to accommodate normal sexual activity and some rationally-sized toys.

I have to agree with the earlier posts, which mention the amount of lubrication you have at the time you're trying to insert something.

I'd recommend starting with something small and a lot of lubricant and see what you can work yourself up to while you're by yourself.

The original posts about tension also seemed to be right on the money. I'm not an expert, but in my experience, some women have a problem with self-lubrication and tension (the psychological kind, not someont prying on your muffin with some device) makes it worse.

Sex organs are extremely sensitive, especially to the demands we place on them and as soon as we start to develop phobias or expectations, they just get worse. Relax and try it out while you're alone. Use plenty of artificial lubricant (and I wouldn't consider water to be a lubricant) that is safe for inserting into yourself.

I dated a girl who really liked it to be wet and sloppy. When she wasn't producing enough lubricant on her own, she'd get out a bottle of Lubriderm and pump several shots of it right onto my cock and we'd be slip-sliding away. Of course, I don't know how safe Lubriderm is for that kind of thing, but that's what she liked to use and she never seemed to have a problem with it.

Also, drink lots of water. This goes for all women. It may sound silly, but many of us are usually slightly dehydrated at all times. If your body is sufficiently hydrated, you will probably have an easier time lubricating yourself. I dated another woman who was always drinking water. When I was with her, she'd drink at least four glasses of water on any night she wanted to have sex with me. I finally figured that out one night, so I asked her about it. She said her doctor had told her to drink plenty of water any night she was going to have sex because the additional water would help her flush her system out and prevent bladder infections and the like. No problem there. She was always fresh and healthy.

Good luck...

Great advice. I wouldn't use Lubriderm, nor would I recommend anyone else doing so (not that you said otherwise )...lots of things in lotions that could cause infections, plus most contain oils which will do a number on condoms and toys. There are lots of great, inexpensive lubes out there that are vagina- and latex-safe.

 

[christian1971]

Sorry another guys advice here. Have you also though about relaxing, you mite be tensing up your pelvic muscles and not realize it? That can also make you tight, I would also looking to more what the ladies said above. Using Lotions made for sex and toy and condom friendly. Or you just mite be small maybe at your next doctors appointment look into it. Hope for find what you need to help, and relax you mite be stressing over to much and when you do relax maybe things will be more passable.

 

[aka Lusty]

I agree with not trying vaginal dilation without medical supervision. You really should see your Gynecologist for a definitive answer.

 

[TBKahuna123]

It sounds to me like the same advice given to people wanting to try anal sex for the first time. Start small, work up in size slowly and rembmer that there's never enough lube!

the biggest factor I think is don't worry about it! The more our worry, the less relaxed, the harder it is to stretch. My wife has had problems with sex being painful when she is really stressed. We've also found that lubrication helps in these circumstances.

 

[SweetErika]

I'm not sure if this will help, but you could try getting control of those muscles by tensing and relaxing in a series. Close your eyes, and envision your body relaxing a little more each time, becoming more open and ready to accept whatever it is. So:
clench
relax, I'm a little relaxed
clench
relax, I'm more relaxed/open
clench
relax, I'm a bit relaxed and bigger than before
clench
relax, I'm very relaxed and open, and can feel myself getting ready
clench
relax, I can accept finger/toys/whatever without pain

It's counterintuitive, but pushing OUT as you try to insert something very slowly might also do the trick, or combine pushing with the exercise above.

 

[therockap1]

I was with a girl that had the tightest pussy, you could literally only fit one finger in. I had a very hard time getting in her without hurting her. But with time she got used to me. The main thing is to be relax

 

[LadyJeanne]

If you come before penetration, your body will be very wet and relaxed. So start with a massage, oral or fingers, and after your orgasm, then try penetration with lots and lots of lube. Go slow and ask him to stop when it hurts, so your body has a moment to adjust. Better yet, you try being on top and control the speed and depth in a way that's comfortable for you.

And have fun!