Really rare question...

[indigo_prophet]

ok, so heres the deal...

even under complete anonimity, i am very shy about asking others about my situation. for some random reason, i was born with one hand. one arm stops right below the wrist, so i have a "nub" even though i hate that word for some reason. im a pretty sex-minded person, obsessed really, but don't have any experience. once i started seeing harder porn several years ago, i realized that my arm could be a god given tool for pleasuring women. but i have never even mentioned this to anyone except one person who was cool and joked about it to the point it got old.

my question is do you think this would freak most women out? normal people are scared by people like me just b/c were different.. it seems to be more deeply rooted than just mere racism. i think its just some basic coded reaction that people initially shy away from people with physical abnormalities. not all mind you.... most (and that is in MY experience, ok?)

i would love to try this though considering i can pretty much go on until my arm wears out and even do dp

but yeah, a general consensus would be interesting. please be honest or this doesn't help me out any.. im curious if i should ever mention this to a woman or would this make most of you too uncomfortable.

Thanks for reading my first and i look forward to responses..

btw, if it matters, my whole forearm is about 6" around and about 11-12" long
i realize for most smaller petite women, this might be terrifying.

 

[bisexplicit]

So, first of all, this is /not/ something you should mention to a potential dating partner right away.

It is something that is slightly unusual, and therefore should be broached with sensitivity. Also, you should give your partner the opportunity to express her feelings about that.

Not only petite women would be worried about something so massive - I believe most women would. So, if you come across a partner who is willing to try it, you need to be able to communicate if it does become painful for her.

Don't be discouraged if your partner is uninterested in this, because, most likely, she is interested in you, and it's just the idea of something so large being inside of her.

 

[bourbonslut]

don't focus on this at all. seriously.

any type of sexual engagement, 'usual' or not (and this can refer even to such things as anal sex, new positions, dressing up, etc) relies on establishing trust intimacy and a sense of sexual play and trust behind partners.

find the right partner by being a good person yourself (which you know for yourself). and the excitement of discovery of how to use your bodies will follow.

everyone is 'different.' i am not bullshitting you. people are different to varying extents, physically mentally and emotionally, but they are. some people are just more visibly so.

 

[indigo_prophet]

"Not only petite women would be worried about something so massive - I believe most women would"

hmm.. really? i would not have thought this. I mean that is the same size as my penis except twice as long. i always thought i was average size. is 7~8 x 6" not normal? i realize being gentle is always top priority unless the lady requests otherwise.

not really the responses i was expecting, but appreciated nevertheless.

yeah i'm kind of bummed out now because this is like winning something as a kid and not being able to tell anyone. its vitrually torture. i just wish i could openly say hey, i have the equivelent of two penises! wanna rethink that whole judging me by my looks thing?

 

[Eilan]

btw, if it matters, my whole forearm is about 6" around and about 11-12" long
i realize for most smaller petite women, this might be terrifying.

Six inches around really isn't that big, IMO, but I lost my virginity to someone with the girth of a Coke can, so I'm probably not the person to ask. At any rate, I doubt if you'll be able to find that many ladies who can take all 11-12 inches of your arm.

Keep in mind that a lot of women just don't get off on penetration alone, whether it's a penis, fist, arm, or dildo.

 

[SweetErika]

I might be up for it, but wouldn't be thrilled if you broached it too early or in a crude way. It's more of a "we're in a relationship and want to explore the possibilities" kind of thing. I don't see much difference in an arm or a hand or a dildo...I don't freak out when a partner fingers me, so an arm in place of a hand probably wouldn't be an issue either.

You'll likely find the right women will be interested in all of you, including your arm. Even if they don't utilize it for sex, it's still a pretty cool thing to have available for your partner's pleasure.

 

[TBKahuna123]

I have a cousin who was born with the same(or similar) condition. She's said before that htis is actually a benefit in her relationships because she knew that if someone wanted to date her that they were looking past her arm. She and her husband have been married for well over 30 years, BTW.

I think the best advice here might be to not rush into this with a potential partner. If your relationship progreses to the point where you are haivng sex, obviously your arm will be involved in a broader sense. At this point I'm sure you'll have talked about it, I mean it's not like something you can totally ignore. This would then be a good point to broach the subject, delicately of course. She may still have a problem with it, so don't get too upset of she does, just take it slow.

 

[indigo_prophet]

"I doubt if you'll be able to find that many ladies who can take all 11-12 inches of your arm"

Hah, no I would not think so, that wouldn't be my intention, that seems waay too rough. But yes, the responses are interesing. I wonder if I sounded a bit too excited over this. I agree with the whole serious relationship thing, I want to reserve this for the special one(s) So she gets something very few other women can have.

But yes, thank you for replying to such a weird post. It's nice to finally "talk" to someone about it.

Oddly enough some old dude in the grocery store last week was like "Hey! I bet the girls love you dont they?" and pointed to my arm! too funny.. i just cracked up. Reminded me of George Carlin

 

[vanelane]

Sounds like you have a healthy attitude. I think you'll find, when you have a lover in a serious relationship, that play with your arm will naturally evolve as part of your lovemaking. Sure, people shouldn't focus on your differences, but that is human nature. The one who loves you will love all of you, perhaps especially your arm, because it is the truly unique part of you. Were you my lover, I have no doubt we would celebrate and explore all the erotic possibilities you mention.

But seriously, don't talk about this to your dates.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Sounds like you have a healthy attitude. I think you'll find, when you have a lover in a serious relationship, that play with your arm will naturally evolve as part of your lovemaking. Sure, people shouldn't focus on your differences, but that is human nature. The one who loves you will love all of you, perhaps especially your arm, because it is the truly unique part of you. Were you my lover, I have no doubt we would celebrate and explore all the erotic possibilities you mention.

But seriously, don't talk about this to your dates.

A very healthy attitude, I'd say.

 

[Cathleen]

indigo_prophet, I applaud your courage to bring this question here. You are not whining at all, it seems to me you are very well adjusted and accepting of your situation. Welcome to Lit as well.

As you and others have said, there is a time and place for things. I'd think once you begin to become serious with a woman it's be natural for you to ask her how she feels about your arm, what she sees or if she sees any obstacles - real or imagined about everything, not just sexual activities.

I know physical differences can cause stares, avoidance and uncomfortable moments. I'd think as a relationship grew those won't be a problem for the two of you. Communication with each other about your thoughts, feelings and wants will naturally deepen as your relationship does too.

Keep being open, and keep sharing. Because of your courage to post this I know I'll be more aware of my behaviors or less nervous (can't find the right word there)... I guess I'll just be human as we all are.

This is another interesting thread, "Sex and the disabled", you and others might enjoy reading.
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=354668

 

[HandFan]

Okay, now that you've gotten all the cautionary advice on how to be delicate when bringing up the subject, which I'm sure you have already gone over in your head, and which I applaude people for posting, let me throw in my two cents.....

After reading your question I started to think about whether I myself would feel strange about having a sex partner with your condition offer to do what you are saying you could do with a girl. Personally, I wouldn't find it an odd offer, hell if people can fist each other happily, then why can't you offer to stimulate a girl you love in an somewhat similar fashion. I don't think there is anything wrong with you feeling like you may have, "something extra or special", to offer, because you clearly do. In all honesty, if that old man in the grocery store would say what he said to you, then you have to know that some woman has thought about or wonder the same thing too. I know I would!

When the time comes when you feel that you have a loving enough partner to make the offer to, I would say go for it, but don't be surprised if she is a little shocked at first. If your open and honest about what you are wanting to do, then she shouldn't fault you for your good intentions if she really cares for you.

Of course you should be physically careful with a willing girl that would want to do what your offering, but my question to you would be do you feel that you would be able to not injure yourself with doing such a thing? I would hate to think that my lover could harm himself by doing such and act for my pleasure. I would guess that you don't have a bone spur or any pain at the end of your arm. I do have a friend with a similar condition who has to be careful because the bones that are still in the end of his appendage are quiet thin and fragile, so please be careful for your own sake as well as hers.

So from one womans opinion I would say enjoy your extra advantage! and I hope you find a willing and honored partner to share it with.

 

[capricious_chic]

In all honesty - if you pick the pick the right kind of women they will think of it or broach the subject for you.

I agree w/others in that I wouldn't bring something like this up in the first few dates. However, after much shared intimacy and the safety of acceptance it should be an easy enough thing to bring into the equation.

Another thing - I wouldn't consider it a "God given gift for pleasuring women" simply because many women don't get off on penetration alone.

 

[indigo_prophet]

Thanks guys!

Your right Cathleen, it did take balls to post that.. but whatever.. this seems like a pretty open place and i figured some of the more active members wouldnt mind replying..

HandFan, nothing to worry about on my end as far as pain or anything.. i box regularly. im just patiently waiting...

im just looking forward to seeing how well i can stimulate the gspot.. based on the fact that i can rotate and move my wrist and have a "paw" of sorts.. i think i would be well suited for this but on any account, as long as i have an open and loving partner, i should be able to perform any number of new things.. i literally have a few tricks up my sleeve.

"Another thing - I wouldn't consider it a "God given gift for pleasuring women" simply because many women don't get off on penetration alone."

yeah capricious_chic, i kinda got carried away.. thats not how i really feel. i just feel is a neat little blessing of sorts. for me the real sexual organ is the brain and i have utmost respect for the opposite sex.

again, many thanks for the replies.

 

[vanelane]

i just feel is a neat little blessing of sorts. for me the real sexual organ is the brain and i have utmost respect for the opposite sex.

You are going to make some woman very happy.