Real love can't be turned on and off like a light switch...

shell seeker2

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Many have been burned, so here's your chance to vent. A friend on another thread said this and I thought it might envoke a good venting thread! Enjoy!
 
shell seeker2 said:
Many have been burned, so here's your chance to vent. A friend on another thread said this and I thought it might envoke a good venting thread! Enjoy!


Two years since she left, and I still think about her most days. I know it's over, but a part of me will always burn for her.

:rose:
 
yourcharms said:
Two years since she left, and I still think about her most days. I know it's over, but a part of me will always burn for her.

:rose:

I know what you mean. However, I am much happier now that I have moved on.:kiss: :rose:

There is no one way to deal with a break up.
 
I have no venting to do but I wanted to post my pleasure at seeing such a creative name for a thread. I think someone should seriously consider t-shirts or bumper stickers with this phrase.
 
right there with ya! Someone had a really good idea, wouldn't you say? That comment really got me to thinking! It doesn't look like very many are contemplating it though. oh well
 
I am Shell, I am. I just made a post on the Defining Love thread before seeing this............

I could vent away but actually am losing the energy to think about him right now. I think that is a good thing too. He probably lied to me - geez I can't believe I even say probably!!! He did lie or else he wouldn't have be able to just switch that light off.

Someday I will give my heart again - and it will be to the right man. I do know they are out there, I just need to learn how to make sure they are good.

:rose:

btw Shell, welcome to Lit. I have enjoyed your postings on the Defining Love thread.
:rose:
 
I dont think real love can be switched off.... I know I cant stop the feeling.. nor do I want to! :heart:
 
btw Shell, welcome to Lit. I have enjoyed your postings on the Defining Love thread.
:rose: [/B][/QUOTE]

Thank you Cathleen for your welcome. I have really enjoyed posting here. I hate that you were lied too. I have to say though, I agree with Dream. You can't just turn on and off your feelings regardless of how hurt or betrayed you feel. Do you think some guys are just extremely fearful of the unknown? I'd like to lean that way, but damn!
It's nice meeting you and I hope we can chat again soon!:rose:
 
Saoirse said:
I dont think real love can be switched off.... I know I cant stop the feeling.. nor do I want to! :heart:

I don't think "true love" can be switched off either. How would anyone know if they were or weren't in the real thing?
 
shell seeker2 said:
btw Shell, welcome to Lit. I have enjoyed your postings on the Defining Love thread.
:rose:


Thank you Cathleen for your welcome. I have really enjoyed posting here. I hate that you were lied too. I have to say though, I agree with Dream. You can't just turn on and off your feelings regardless of how hurt or betrayed you feel. Do you think some guys are just extremely fearful of the unknown? I'd like to lean that way, but damn!
It's nice meeting you and I hope we can chat again soon!:rose: [/B]
Shell, I hate to be lied to as well. I don't think this particular situation has much to do with fear - I think he played with my emotions - perhaps I believed too hard.

I am tired of the lying - I just don't understand that behavior.
 
Cathleen said:
Shell, I hate to be lied to as well. I don't think this particular situation has much to do with fear - I think he played with my emotions - perhaps I believed too hard.

I am tired of the lying - I just don't understand that behavior.

I think that happens alot and just not in love. Many different people lie about many different things....for many different reasons.

Can love be turned off and on like a light switch? No really, but the emotion can be by some people. The love is still there, just not to be seen on the surface.
 
Cathleen said:
Shell, I hate to be lied to as well. I don't think this particular situation has much to do with fear - I think he played with my emotions - perhaps I believed too hard.

I am tired of the lying - I just don't understand that behavior.

Well then, my suggestion without the sugar coating is leave him at the curb and don't stop driving! You will find someone who deserves you and appreciates you!:rose:
 
shell seeker2 said:
Well then, my suggestion without the sugar coating is leave him at the curb and don't stop driving! You will find someone who deserves you and appreciates you!:rose:
Hell Yea!!!
:D
 
Real love lasts a lifetime and then some.
Sometimes that REALLY pisses me off....wish it would just go away.
Brinky
 
The core to moving on is forgiveness. I was in what I thought was a "forever" type of relationship. No idication she was displeased or anything, then those magical words "I'm to different now" came about and smashed what was built to last.
When I dedicate myself to someone my heart is really attached to it. Hopeless romantic some say. I'd say I'm hopelessly hopefull that I'll find the one true person I can really enjoy life with in many aspects.
:rose: to all you ladies that were burned
 
Well Shell seems you took the words right out of my mouth *grins* but i have to say i like it i shall stop in here and there
 
brinkeedinkee said:
Real love lasts a lifetime and then some.
Sometimes that REALLY pisses me off....wish it would just go away.
Brinky
I agree. But when things are good, isn't it wonderful?
 
Nikkitta said:
Well Shell seems you took the words right out of my mouth *grins* but i have to say i like it i shall stop in here and there

glad to have you. Look forward to chatting with you.
 
Kindhart said:
The core to moving on is forgiveness. I was in what I thought was a "forever" type of relationship. No idication she was displeased or anything, then those magical words "I'm to different now" came about and smashed what was built to last.
When I dedicate myself to someone my heart is really attached to it. Hopeless romantic some say. I'd say I'm hopelessly hopefull that I'll find the one true person I can really enjoy life with in many aspects.
:rose: to all you ladies that were burned

I agree with you Kindhart I think sometimes we are going along in a relationship and ppl just seem to change and gradully drift apart. You can see that happening and that the inevitable is just a matter of time. But when you both have been sooo happy and have done everything you can to make each other happy and there are no signs that anything is wrong and all of sudden one just decides that they want to end the relationship whether it is just that their feelings have suddenly changed or something outside the relationship causes them to, it hurts. It hurts like hell and if you (the one that is being left) doesn't know or understand why it is hard to forgive and move on with your life. You may forgive the person for walking out on you or for hurting you, but unless you can understand the reason why they did it in the first place you will not be able to learn from that experience and to move on with life and possibly another love. Just my opinion.
 
People and feelings change....

that's part of life.

But, what really disturbs me.......(and it's prevalent on the net)

......is the amount of deceptions, omissions, and lies........


Each time something happens, your trust quotient declines some.

IMHO.
 
Re: People and feelings change....

redrider4u said:
that's part of life.

But, what really disturbs me.......(and it's prevalent on the net)

......is the amount of deceptions, omissions, and lies........


Each time something happens, your trust quotient declines some.

IMHO.

How very true that is redrider.
 
tonitits said:
I agree with you Kindhart I think sometimes we are going along in a relationship and ppl just seem to change and gradully drift apart. You can see that happening and that the inevitable is just a matter of time. But when you both have been sooo happy and have done everything you can to make each other happy and there are no signs that anything is wrong and all of sudden one just decides that they want to end the relationship whether it is just that their feelings have suddenly changed or something outside the relationship causes them to, it hurts. It hurts like hell and if you (the one that is being left) doesn't know or understand why it is hard to forgive and move on with your life. You may forgive the person for walking out on you or for hurting you, but unless you can understand the reason why they did it in the first place you will not be able to learn from that experience and to move on with life and possibly another love. Just my opinion.
I agree with you both. It's especially hard when you don't know why or it's out of the blue. I've been on that end before. We got past it, but I still questioned what the problem was with ME. Come to find out it wasn"t me at all.
Communication is key. If there is good communication both will know where the other is coming from and there wouldn't be any surprises. Am I wrong?
 
Re: People and feelings change....

redrider4u said:
that's part of life.

But, what really disturbs me.......(and it's prevalent on the net)

......is the amount of deceptions, omissions, and lies........


Each time something happens, your trust quotient declines some.

IMHO.

I agree that it's part of life and that it's disturbing the amounts of deceptions, omissions, lies, etc. Some people just aren't as sure of themselves. Your trust quotient declines with the other party. I don't automatically trust others, it comes gradually. Most times due to a deception it takes me longer to trust myself to trust someone else.
 
shell seeker2 said:
I agree with you both. It's especially hard when you don't know why or it's out of the blue. I've been on that end before. We got past it, but I still questioned what the problem was with ME. Come to find out it wasn"t me at all.
Communication is key. If there is good communication both will know where the other is coming from and there wouldn't be any surprises. Am I wrong?

No I don't think you are wrong. But in my case I thought we were both communicating and open and honest about everything. Then something happened and made him scared, outside of the relationship and made him question life itself. So maybe, I don't know, that is what triggered it, but it was right out of the blue.
 
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