Reading the signs….

[Gr82meetu2]

Had an interesting situation yesterday.
I’ve been getting my back lasered lately to try and look better on the beach in the summer.
I work as a firefighter, and am in reasonably good shape.
The woman that was lasering my back is the same age as me and fit and good looking.
A lot of times our department will have a firefighter calendar where we try and raise money for charity.

She asked me if I’ve ever been in the calendar and I said no that’s usually for the younger guys. I’m 56.

She said she wished that I would go on the calendar that way she would have someone more her age to masturbate to.

I didn’t even really know what to say, but that felt like some flirting. I have her phone number and I think I should follow up and text her, but I’m not sure what to say.

 

[sixfoot4]

Had an interesting situation yesterday.
I’ve been getting my back lasered lately to try and look better on the beach in the summer.
I work as a firefighter, and am in reasonably good shape.
The woman that was lasering my back is the same age as me and fit and good looking.
A lot of times our department will have a firefighter calendar where we try and raise money for charity.

She asked me if I’ve ever been in the calendar and I said no that’s usually for the younger guys. I’m 56.

She said she wished that I would go on the calendar that way she would have someone more her age to masturbate to.

I didn’t even really know what to say, but that felt like some flirting. I have her phone number and I think I should follow up and text her, but I’m not sure what to say.

Offer her her own personal picture of her fireman, ask whether she would like it with, or without 'hose'...

 

[Gr82meetu2]

That was a pretty obvious flirt though right?

 

[sixfoot4]

That was a pretty obvious flirt though right?

Then book another session.

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

Not into lasers but love her comment.

 

[lifeis2short2b]

Tha was a pretty obvious flirt though

Are you in the fire department or high school ? " Do you think she likes me ? " You got her number! You never should of left with out acting on that comment.
You can look good on the beach all you want. You got no game.

 

[Britva415]

that felt like some flirting. I have her phone number and I think I should follow up and text her, but I’m not sure what to say.

It's probably too late. Since you didn't pick up what she was laying down, she probably clocked you as unconfident or insecure or just uninterested.

But maybe you can recover from this.

I wouldn't call her for anything other than to make your next laser appointment.

But:
Between now and your next appointment, here's what you can do.

First, when you're in a situation like that, you have to be able to close the deal. That means knowing what kind of an outcome you want, and being prepared to take the steps needed to move it in that direction. So, figure out what you would want to happen. You already have her number, so, you can't exactly just ask for that without sounding dumb. But there are ways to show her what your next step is. What will you want? A date? A hook-up? A quickie right then and there? Figure it out ahead of time and plan for how you're going to show her what you want.

Second, get ready to flirt. Even if you left a bad impression last time by not reacting, it might be possible to get her attention and interest again. You don't know if she thinks you're unconfident, insecure, or un-interested, based on how she threw herself at you and you ignored it last time. But even if she thinks that, if you show up and establish flirty energy and show her attention and interest, it could change her mind and get her thinking about you in that way again.

Third, Don't be afraid of striking out or of getting rejected. Start easy and subtle. Read the room. If you are flirty and you feel like it's going nowhere, oh well, too bad, just drop it, no harm done. Or maybe she'll play along but then when you tell her you want to call her later, or you ask her if she wants you to send that calendar picture of you, maybe she'll tell you "I have a boyfriend" or "I don't like you that way." Same thing - no big deal. It won't kill you. But maybe she won't do that - honestly, l think it's unlikely, though there are women who play games. If you flirt and she flirts back, then chances are, it's really on. If she reacts to the flirting positively at all, then chances are she'll be thrilled that you are interested and she'll say Yes to you contacting her for non-work reasons.

So, remind yourself of all three of those things between now and when your next appointment is. Do it multiple times. Visualize yourself knowing what you want, what to do, and succeeding.

Go in there prepared for anything - prepared for no interest from her, prepared for some interest from her, prepared for rejection, and prepared for success. But most of all be prepared to be the masculine one, to establish the flirty energy, and, if she's game, to move things along toward closing the deal.

I didn’t even really know what to say

In situations like this, "what to say" is barely important at all. What's most important is how you act. The feelings and the energy are way, way less important than the actual words.

Figure out what you want, and use your presence and intention to make her feel that. This is more about the way you're acting than the words you're saying - you can pick a woman up while reciting "row row row your boat" if you're good at this.

 

[Papi34]

Offer her her own personal picture of her fireman, ask whether she would like it with, or without 'hose'...

By far the best answer that could have been given but the time has passed

 

[sixfoot4]

Book another session!

 

[Gr82meetu2]

Book another session!

I did

 

[sixfoot4]

I did

We're all rooting for you!

 

[svengali_decL]

Book another session!

Yeah forget the naysayers and just on with it.
She's not going to burn you like the young ones cast off flames because they think they're impossible to ignore...