Re-naming a submissive/slave

[Mr Blonde]

Sometimes a submissive/slave will be given a new name in the context of a relationship.

If you are a submissive/slave, have you ever been given a new name? At what point in the relationship did it happen? How was the name selected? What did it mean to you to have this new name? What did you find exciting or interesting about this idea?

If you are a dominant/master, what were your motivations and expectations? How did you pick the new name and what did it signify to you? Do you have thoughts about the right time or level of relationship for a name change to occur?

This is a subject that came into my mind a few days ago. I have no experience on the topic but thought it would be a conversation worth exploring.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Yes, Catalina is my slave name which I have had since becoming his property. It fills me with a sense of joy to know he wishes to give me this name as it came from visions he had for a long time of who his slave would be. What do I find exciting about it? That he had visions of me and us before he ever knew who I was or that I even existed....it gives me an added sense of reassurance and permanancy, and a sense this was destined to be.

Catalina

 

[WriterDom]

This works better with slaves than cats. I renamed my rescued cat Athena. Her name before was Patches. Now she won't answer to either.

 

[sommerfugl]

This works better with slaves than cats. I renamed my rescued cat Athena. Her name before was Patches. Now she won't answer to either.

She is beautiful! I love cats!

Lol ... I don't think cats ever really listen, they just tolerate us.

 

[sensuousgirl]

If you are a submissive/slave, have you ever been given a new name? At what point in the relationship did it happen? How was the name selected? What did it mean to you to have this new name? What did you find exciting or interesting about this idea?

Hello all, I am new to posting, but not new to Lit. I have not been in a relationship for over two years, since my darling Master passed away. He changed my name the day that he collared me. He selected the name based upon how he saw me, and how he felt about me, but I loved it instantly. The name suits me well, and now just about everyone calls me that.

The part of the name change that was so appealing to me was that he picked it, and that it was so special to him. I felt very much like he was naming me at my true 'birth' as a slave, his slave. I still use the name today, though it does on occasion carry great sadness.

sg

 

[evesdream]

No i've never been re-named formally. In a long distance but exciting relationship a few years ago I got re-named twice online, before and after meeting my friend face to face for the first time. Admittedly it wouldn't have been as identity jarring as hearing myself re-named in the air-vocal chord-eardrum way, right to my face, but at the time it was something, and I was only just beginning in the way of the perv.

Since embarassment and degradation is kind of my 'thing' and his too, both names were ridiculous, bordering pornographic, and I wouldn't have chosen them for myself. But since they were only ever used in online correspondence it was fun and totally based on my co-operation, so it was easy to get over my own ego and to play around.

Since then I do fantasize about it as a reality but not romantically. The excitment of the idea comes from being forced to see myself through the lense of the literal meaning of the name, and through his eyes, since he thought of it. Bearing the reactions of others hearing the name, and knowing that they know what it implies is part of it too.

 

[s'lara]

i don't know. i think the idea of renaming a submissve is alluring in that it takes the ownership a step further (similar to a tatoo or slave barcode). Still, i would have a hard time with the loss of my name.

lara

 

[evesdream]

i don't know. i think the idea of renaming a submissve is alluring in that it takes the ownership a step further (similar to a tatoo or slave barcode). Still, i would have a hard time with the loss of my name.

lara

This is true for me too. Maybe, I should have also added I only ever conceive of accepting re-naming on a temporary, if intense, basis. Even permanent last name changing a little daunting, like a loss, not a gain.

 

[JooJoo]

i'm not sure if this counts, but my friends irl all call me kitty, and then when i became a submissive online i told him about my nickname, so he calls me kitty too... the name got started when we were trying to decribe each other in 1 word for an english assignment, someone put down "kitten" for me (cause kittens are helpless and stupid -.-;; and the name just kinda stuck i guess

 

[Scarlett_t2]

I came up with my name for my "pet" many years ago not knowing until recently why. During many sexual episodes I would call him or refer to him this perticuliar name. At first I felt very naughty but not having explored this lifestyle yet I let it go as that, something naughty and fun. I always noticed how it helped in the excitment of our times together when I verbally refered to this. Now after exploring and learning of course it all made sense and I love the feeling it gives me to call him his "name". To me it is exciting that he has given me the power to call him as I see fit. The excitment in his eyes when I use but a mere word sends me over the top. Something so small yet so powerful. The simplicity of it all.

Now as far as he goes, he asked me what he sould call me. I gave him a name. I had thought about this along time and was pleased with my choice but, it just didn't fit. During a very exciting scene he whispered in his desire another name which I like very much. It just seemed to fit me. This was very exciting for me because I got a glimpse of how he sees me. It reenforced my strength and our trust.

Scarlett

 

[Mr Blonde]

Thank you for these replies. They have given me something to think about.

Any other comments?

 

[Quint]

Yes, I have a name. He knew it the second I brought up the subject, and I knew it was right at the same time. I hear it a.) when I'm about to take more than I believed myself capable of, b.) when I've done a superlative job of pleasing him, or c.) when I've fucked up big. In other words, whenever it matters. Surprising in a relationship that deals more with capricious whim than ritual, but it is very precious to us nonetheless.

 

[sasha_fem22]

Well, a Master calls a slave whatever he wants to, of-course. With a sub, these things are worked out between them. My name here is not my sub name.
I changed my name once because a Dom told me to, but I had the choice of refusing.
Also, some subs might like their Master to give them their sub name as some of the women here have said.

 

[SweetDommes]

We have pet names for our boy, and we will have them for our future boy(s), but our boy's name is still the same. We may call him bitch, slut, boy, sweetie, ghosstie, whatever ... but his name is still his name. We don't always call him the same thing, and we still use his real name.

Because of what we are looking for, we feel that giving him/them a new name is counter-productive. We want our boys to keep the personality that they had before we owned them - we may do some behavior modification, but it is still the same personality. If we change their name, it separates them from the person they were before we owned them. We have friends who bought a slave from another friend - the first one had changed the sub's name to "mint" and when our other friends bought her, they changed it to "desi" to symbolize that she was a different person than she was before (she truly is a different person - I like her much better now than I did before) and to intensify the fact that she is owned and not her own person anymore. We don't have a problem with that - it works for them - but it is not what we want.

 

[Limbhugger]

I am simply and rightfully, "pet". That one simple word explains it all in my mind. It is at once simple yet frustratingly complex.

I crave my Miss T.

 

[cutedemon]

We were surfing a site one night, chatting on MSN and I came across the name He now calls me and it just seemed right. It makes my knees go weak just hearing him call me by a secret name and knowing how much love and trust is behind it.

 

[Four_Inch_Heels]

Hhmmm.......renaming My boys is intriguing to Me.

I now call them pet, or baby....when in play it becomes slut or bitch. I do sooo enjoy seeing them glow with pride when I use a "pet" name with them.

 

[lark sparrow]

Sometimes a submissive/slave will be given a new name in the context of a relationship.

If you are a submissive/slave, have you ever been given a new name? At what point in the relationship did it happen? How was the name selected? What did it mean to you to have this new name? What did you find exciting or interesting about this idea?

Yes, I have been given a new name. After a committment had been made. She offered it to me at the time of the committment. She thought of the name entirely on Her own. It meant belonging to Her, being "claimed", a new beginning, simply put. See last answer, plus the naming of how She experienced me.

 

[Mr Blonde]

Thanks again! I have still been thinking and this is something I will explore in the future.

 

[lizzie anne]

names? play?


o---kay.

here i go...
my Ma'am gave me, my slave name,...but it too has been changed. when She and i first talked, online, back in 2002, i used a male name, online, and of course, my given.
She named me a kinda cutesy name, to show affection, and i kinda, got a bit miffed over it,..not knowing any better.
when i got here, r/t,.....in 2003,......i still had a male slave name,...now----i am using, as you see, a female name, She came up with, for my transitioning from a he to a she. it, does, help, in my head, to use/think of myself/refer to myself, in the feminine way.
esp. since my ''top side'' is pushing out, little by little.
i even see those 2 lil mounds now under my t shirts. it is a bit difficult to wonder what folks think/feel, when a macho dude walks into the store/v.a. hospital where ever....with 2 lumps showing on his chest..small yes, but now noticeable.

ok, thats me here.
lizzie anne
sissy to Ms Ann-#377109

 

[Etoile]

I have never been officially renamed, but it is a mark of ownership that appeals ot me greatly and I would love to be given a new name. Daddy calls me certain pet names that nobody else does, but my "real" name is still my original real name. Actually, Daddy almost never calls me by my real name...it's always slut, bitch, cunt, or one of the more affectionate pet names that have been used on me.

 

[mellian]

i would never really accept to be called other than melanie or my net name mellian.

-mellian

 

[shyly curious]

bump ... ing for a good reason ...

 

[MissIntrigue]

I thank you- you are such a good sub...now we need a special name instead of sub....

 

[Limbhugger]

Along the same lines...

Do any of the board's Mistresses dress up their boys and give them girl names for such occassions?