RE: Happily Married, Sexually Frustrated
Not long ago, I started the "FL Directory - Happily Married, Sexually Frustrated" Thread. Since that time, I have been quoted as an inspiration to others, starting their own threads in other areas of the country. Some have raised the question, how can you be happily married, yet still seek outside sex. It's a valid question, but before you judge, remember each individual's circumstances are unique. In response to a post on my thread, here is my situation. I know I am not alone. ac1246@hotmail.com
"Well Foxy, I can really only speak for myself. I won't try to make a moral justification for an extramarital affair, because I can't. I have wrestled with these feelings for years, but have not yet acted upon them. I love my wife and family and would not want to hurt or lose them. Nor do I want to divorce my wife simply because of lack of sex. A marriage is much more than just sex.
I have been a good husband, and a good provider. I have cared for the kids, up in the middle of the night giving medicine and babas, and changing diapers. I have coached me kids sports and been a devoted father. But here is my story. My wife has some health issues. Not life threatening, but she will be on medication the rest of her life, that unfortunately, destroys all sex drive. And while she does occasionally "accomodate" me, it is a chore for her. She just is not into it. There is no passion, no feeling. And while I could perhaps live without the sex, the thing that hurts most is that the affection is gone. I miss that the most. A gentle caress, a kiss, a hug. All gone.
So you see, I am not here just to cheat on my wife in quest of cheap sex. In my mid forties, the loss of intimacy leaves a emptiness in my life. And perhaps, there is a sweet and gentle woman out there in a similar situation, that we might fill this emptiness for each other."
Not long ago, I started the "FL Directory - Happily Married, Sexually Frustrated" Thread. Since that time, I have been quoted as an inspiration to others, starting their own threads in other areas of the country. Some have raised the question, how can you be happily married, yet still seek outside sex. It's a valid question, but before you judge, remember each individual's circumstances are unique. In response to a post on my thread, here is my situation. I know I am not alone. ac1246@hotmail.com
"Well Foxy, I can really only speak for myself. I won't try to make a moral justification for an extramarital affair, because I can't. I have wrestled with these feelings for years, but have not yet acted upon them. I love my wife and family and would not want to hurt or lose them. Nor do I want to divorce my wife simply because of lack of sex. A marriage is much more than just sex.
I have been a good husband, and a good provider. I have cared for the kids, up in the middle of the night giving medicine and babas, and changing diapers. I have coached me kids sports and been a devoted father. But here is my story. My wife has some health issues. Not life threatening, but she will be on medication the rest of her life, that unfortunately, destroys all sex drive. And while she does occasionally "accomodate" me, it is a chore for her. She just is not into it. There is no passion, no feeling. And while I could perhaps live without the sex, the thing that hurts most is that the affection is gone. I miss that the most. A gentle caress, a kiss, a hug. All gone.
So you see, I am not here just to cheat on my wife in quest of cheap sex. In my mid forties, the loss of intimacy leaves a emptiness in my life. And perhaps, there is a sweet and gentle woman out there in a similar situation, that we might fill this emptiness for each other."
