Rape Roleplay

[tremornc]

Ive always been interested in it, for as long as i can remember. But its just something ive came to think that i was weird for, or just something that id never find someone else interested in . Well i had a rather short lived relationship with a girl that was really into it. So heres my question, How many ladies here are "into" that? or atleast considered it?

 

[AngelicAssassin]

So heres my question, How many ladies here are "into" that? or atleast considered it?

Do a quick search in this and the child forum for the terms rape and roleplay. Many posters, women included, have answered your question. If you have the time, peruse the library in the sticky at the top of this forum's page as well.

 

[John Doe]

Begging your pardon, but many people in the BDSM community prefer the term "surprise sex" roleplay.

 

[dolf]

Begging your pardon, but many people in the BDSM community prefer the term "surprise sex" roleplay.

*almost wet myself laughing*
ty stupi, that'll keep me giggling for days.

 

[YinandYang]

Begging your pardon, but many people in the BDSM community prefer the term "surprise sex" roleplay.

Heehee...yes suprise sex does it for me. The fact that i willingly submit after the initial 'surprise' means the quote above is the term I would use. The brain is a powerful sex organ I beleive, more powerful than any physical genitalia. The feelings of anticipation, fear (in a nice way)...and suprise is a wonderful conbination to get the physical side on top form! I once did a scene with my then partner where we were walking home from the pub, we had to go through a tiny wooded area (I live in the middle of nowhere, which is how I like it lol) I realised he had instigated a silly tiff, and recognised in his eyes this was the start of role play. It went along the lines of him trailing behind, leaving to walk home alone etc etc....then the scene started. It was a very powerful moment for me, because it was a mind fuck! (those are the best). BUT....at the same time, I knew exactly what was going to happen, just didnt know where, when or how. That was the element of surprise.

 

[Desdemona]

Begging your pardon, but many people in the BDSM community prefer the term "surprise sex" roleplay.

Looks like there's a fuckin' PC term for everything. LOL

 

[serijules]

I've always fantasized about it with men, which sometimes makes me feel oddly guilty because I HAVE been raped when I was younger, long before any BDSM thoughts were in my brain, and there was nothing enjoyable about it at all. So desiring "rape roleplay" (surprise sex? sounds like a birthday party...) always kind of made me feel like I was saying that I wanted to be raped, which is absurd. I still need that element of consent and safety to be there, which certainly wasn't present in the real situation.

I think maybe I just like really rough sex, and I always have, even before the incident. The only time I fuck men is if my Domme desires is, so there is that element of being used or raped in that for me, although it's never nearly rough enough for my tastes, which is why the thought of a more rape-centered roleplay is appealing to me. The thought of sex with men in any other way other than forced or used doesn't appeal to me at all.

I am going to insert the Fuck Dance Banana here now because it just seems appropriate.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

I am going to insert the Fuck Dance Banana here now because it just seems appropriate.

Sorry darlin', that's not a fuck dance, especially with the topic at hand.

This is a fuck dance ... http://img.villagephotos.com/p/2003-8/363868/X3banana2.gif

 

[curiousjen]

Rape roleplay is something we have talked about doing, but not actually done yet. I have always been fascinated by rape, I guess it's the classic feelings of powerlessness and domination. A lot of the stories I read and write are about non consent/reluctance and for me it's a situation that never fails to get my juices flowing.

Having said that, the fantasy comes with a fair amount of guilt attached. I had friends who have been raped, and seen the devestating effects that the event has had on their lives. Not only that, but I am also well aware that there are a few scumbags out there who believe that because of the prevelance of the non consent fantasy, all women are actually gagging to be raped, and so therefore, they go ahead and actually do it. I know its not my fault, and there are a few bad eggs in every basket etc etc but that fact makes me guilty, like maybe the blurring of the boundries is not such a good thing after all, and some things just shouldn't be messed with. Maybe this is an area that is black and white, and shouldn't be made grey.

But then I get horny again, and the fantasies come back and I express this in my stories and my poems (and like i said, maybe even in roleplay soon) and on and on the cycle goes.

I'm a passionate believer in being true to myself, and this is a fantasy that I've had for a long time, so I'm not going to start whipping myself over it and I'm not judging anyone who does. All i'm trying to say, its problematic and still slightly taboo for me, as it is for a lot of women, which is possibly what gives it its greatest power.

 

[serijules]

Sorry darlin', that's not a fuck dance, especially with the topic at hand.

This is a fuck dance ... http://img.villagephotos.com/p/2003-8/363868/X3banana2.gif

I feel so enlightened! Thank you

 

[bridgeburner]

Jen,

I am not ragging on you --- I think it's shitty to rag on people for having a conscience, but I want to point out something.

No one believes that people who enjoy zombie movies have any desire whatsoever to be eaten alive by the walking dead.

The very idea is ludicrous and everyone knows it. No one would make such a suggestion --- except someone convinced that playing AC/DC records backwards will summon Satan.

Now, I know what you're thinking, "Zombies aren't real and rape is."

Well, okay fine, but murder and war and terminal illness and death by misadventure are all real and nobody suggests that we want those things to befall us simply because we loved Saving Private Ryan, or Pulp Fiction or My Life.

Humans have violent and ugly impulses hardwired into our brains. They aren't going away and denying them or believing that we've somehow evolved past them is willful ignorance. The way to go about things is to acknowledge that we have such desires but recognize that however much a body might desire to do something, that doesn't make it okay. We need to draw a clear, hard line between fantasy and reality.


People who blame media or outside stressors for their lack of proper behavior are just making excuses. I don't care how short her skirt was or how big her tits or how many pornos you rented last night, at no time were you unaware of the illegality of assaulting the woman. At no time did you truly believe that what you were doing was sanctioned by law so you can blame whatever you want but you knew the rules, you chose to break them and now you will suffer the consequences.

We've become so enamoured of the "uncontrollable impulse" we act as if we can be provoked by our televisions into committing atrocities that we ordinarily would never consider.

Bunk. Total bunk.

People who can't differentiate between fantasy and reality shouldn't watch television, or read books or go to the movies or listen to Fox News.

For those of us who know the difference, we shouldn't be censored or oppressed because of the failings of the few nor should we feel guilty about our fantasies.


-B

 

[curiousjen]

Bridgeburner

I do agree with the things you say. Perhaps I wasn't clear enough: Not for one minute would I actually advocate censorship of non consent fantasy- not here at lit or in any other media. I passionatly believe in free speech and a free media etc etc but I guess what I am trying to say is I somehow can't stop feeling guilty about it all (blame it on the christian upbringing!).

But in a twisted kind of way, maybe the guilt makes the subject even more potent and powerful in its hold over me. When I come and sit down rationally, (and my SO points out to me the truth just as you did) I know theres no way I can hold myself responsible for a few fucked up people, and the actions of the majority should not be dictated to by a few warped minds.

Like I say, its just a problematic area, and probably rightly so.

 

[bridgeburner]

But in a twisted kind of way, maybe the guilt makes the subject even more potent and powerful in its hold over me. When I come and sit down rationally, (and my SO points out to me the truth just as you did) I know theres no way I can hold myself responsible for a few fucked up people, and the actions of the majority should not be dictated to by a few warped minds.

Like I say, its just a problematic area, and probably rightly so.

I tend to agree with you on that point--- so long as we continue questioning our sanity we're likely suitably sane. It's only those who don't question or ethics-check their actions that pose a real danger.

I also think you might have something with the titillation of the forbidden or taboo. If nothing were considered shameful or outside the norm, we'd lose a lot of erotic zing from it. It's one of the reasons that I don't get too hopped up about the repressive nature of Catholic sexuality. As long as they're saying it's dirty then they're making it even more fun for some of us to indulge in. ;->

-B

 

[shy slave]

Begging your pardon, but many people in the BDSM community prefer the term "surprise sex" roleplay.

Made my week never mind my day

 

[tremornc]

hm

Originally Posted by Stuponfucious
Begging your pardon, but many people in the BDSM community prefer the term "surprise sex" roleplay.

I apoligize.
This is purely a fantasy for me, not something id ever even consider doing with someone other than a partner, and even then its not something i feel like i could share with just anyone. Its just something that has interested me for a while, and only actually done once, with safe words. For me it is about the control, and complete trust. The struggle for me was half the fun heh, and she seemed to enjoy it herself. Live ive said =) im still very new to all of this and i apoligize if i somehow offended anyone . Take care.

 

[TaintedB]

I'm into it. In fact, most of my stories were banned on lit because they had so much of "that" in them.

Rape Roleplay is problematic though, for other than ethical reasons. If you value your life and your health, you do it with someone you know and trust. And if you do it with someone you know and trust, you're giving them permission ahead of time to do you and so it's not really rape. There's a few thin lines you can walk but they all have drawbacks.

 

[Volz]

I'm into it. In fact, most of my stories were banned on lit because they had so much of "that" in them.

Rape Roleplay is problematic though, for other than ethical reasons. If you value your life and your health, you do it with someone you know and trust. And if you do it with someone you know and trust, you're giving them permission ahead of time to do you and so it's not really rape. There's a few thin lines you can walk but they all have drawbacks.

Would you care to elaborate a bit more?

This is a big fantasy of mine, though I've never actually considered making it real. Not sure how well I (or my partner) could handle it to make it 'real' and how well we could handle possible implications of making it real.

 

[TaintedB]

Would you care to elaborate a bit more?

This is a big fantasy of mine, though I've never actually considered making it real. Not sure how well I (or my partner) could handle it to make it 'real' and how well we could handle possible implications of making it real.

Sure, I can elaborate but I don't think the answer will be too helpful for your situation. I am assuming you are a woman, by the way, simply because you have a flower in your avatar. So these suggestions are for a woman. If you aren't female, you'll find these even less helpful, I think.

When I think about making a rape fantasy come true, there are only a couple of ways I can think of that would make it feel like "real" rape (I know what real rape feels like, btw). One would be to go to one of those places online, websites or chatrooms, where people into rape roleplay meet up and have the briefest possible contact with a stranger there who was interested in and regularly did real rapeplay (not just online fantasy stuff). Give him your address and your schedule and let him do the rest. This is extremely edgy and borderline stuff, obviously,--trusting a complete stranger--and I'd only recommend it to somebody who really really needed to have this sort of experience. It would be very real and some people do hook up for rape-fulfillment that way but the woman runs an awfully big risk.

A second way I've thought of making a rape "feel" real is something you could do with your partner if they didn't know what you were up to. It also is a little edgy and might have some bad emotional consequences though, but if you really know your partner and think they could deal with it and deal with you OK this way it might be worth a try. If you have the sort of relationship where you are free to refuse him sex, start refusing it. You aren't interested, you have a headache, you've got some emotional problems, whatever. No sex. For days or even weeks. At the same time you tease him meirclessly. (It is a him, right? If it's a her, I'm not too sure how this would work--women respond differently to sexual frustration than do men.) Skimpy sexy outfits that he loves, rubbing you body against him, touching him in sexy ways, describing hot fantasies you have, showing him sexy pictures, posing lewdly for him, anything you can think of to turn him on but when it comes time to give up the ass--don't do it. If you run out of reasons just refuse, and even laugh at him if he gets frustrated (see what I mean about edgy?) The idea here is to drive your partner wild enough with lust that he finally has to have you and rapes you against your expressed will. Being a remorseless cocktease, however, is quite a game to play on someone and it may make him express emotions toward you that you'd wish you hadn't awakened. He might also feel guilty aftewards. Really depends on the man.

Ok, I thought of one other suggestion. Once again edgy, but when you're talking about making rape roleplay realistic I don't know how you can not venture close to the edge. While someone that you know or even love raping you is probably not going to feel like rape because it's a mutual fantasy you both are exploring or because you're sub to him anyway and will do anything he wants sexually, how about exploring him bringing someone along, preferably someone you've never met as that would make it realer, to rape you along with him? This other person doing you, this stranger, is not your regular partner and probably not someone you'd consent to giving youself to of your own choosing. That could be thrilling for you or it could be horrific, or maybe a bit of both.

 

[Marquis]

I'll tell you what I do.

I get a willing partner intentionally pissed off at me to the point that she does not want to have sex. Then I rape her.

Obviously I have to know her well enough to know I'll get away with this, but they usually figure out what I was doing by the time the sex is underway. Oh well, at least it starts out pretty genuine, like TB said, there are always drawbacks in either the authenticity or the safety. It helps to start a fight over something so unreasonable that it is obviously a ploy after the fact.

 

[sincerely_helene]

Ive always been interested in it, for as long as i can remember. But its just something ive came to think that i was weird for, or just something that id never find someone else interested in . Well i had a rather short lived relationship with a girl that was really into it. So heres my question, How many ladies here are "into" that? or atleast considered it?

I could never quite wrap my head around the concept of "rape roleplay." Many of my fantasies and stories involve being forced, but to actually act it out with a partner seems too contrived to really do much for me. I would likely giggle and spoil the whole thing.

 

[Marquis]

I could never quite wrap my head around the concept of "rape roleplay." Many of my fantasies and stories involve being forced, but to actually act it out with a partner seems too contrived to really do much for me. I would likely giggle and spoil the whole thing.

Giggle???

You're fucking with busters aren't you?

 

[sincerely_helene]

A particularily robust child? Or was that some new style gansta' slang?

 

[Marquis]

A particularily robust child? Or was that some new style gansta' slang?

Buster?

Hardly new. Synonyms you may be familiar with: chump, loser, wanker, L7

 

[sincerely_helene]

In that case: yes.

But I don't particularily feel my dating history is relevant to the topic at hand.

 

[Marquis]

There are men out there that would not make you giggle. Sorry if I brought up a sore issue (ok, not really).