Rape Fantasy?

[Lost_Yonder]

Drawing upon a discussin in the "how to" forum, I can't help but wonder how many women have rape fantasies. I was once told by a former gf that most women do, but always found it hard to imagine. Obviously, I would like to tie this into a story I'm working on and thus appreciate any feedback - on their fantasies, realities, or just reflections...

 

[BurgerFuhrer]

My girlfriend frequents Literotica and her favourite story genre is non-consent/relectance...

 

[CuteBrat]

ive always had rape and non-consent fantasies since i was like 9 and obsessed with pirates. i was a little unclear what happened after they stripped me and tied me to the mast....but i know it totally made me feel tingly

 

[Monazwx]

I just wanted to say that I like Lost Yonder's av.
My 'rape' fantasies are more of the non-consent variety.

 

[Lost_Yonder]

I just wanted to say that I like Lost Yonder's av.
My 'rape' fantasies are more of the non-consent variety.

Unfortunately, I don't think I could stand on my head for so long, but it is a most intriguing position!

You raise an interesting point though about different modes of rape - being blackmailed by someone into having sex is different from being forced at knife point in a back alley as opposed to date-rape. All being rape, but perhaps each igniting different fantasies, different degrees of violence, different forms of power and manipulation. Just thinking out loud here...

 

[emap]

According to psychiatrist's most women have a rape fantasy of some sort or other, they have done survey's in the women's magazines as well.

See the problem here is it's not really a rape fantasy, it's just called that. What most women have as their rape fantasy is a big handsome man picking her up putting her gently on the bed tying her hands to the headboard ripping her clothes off, or taking them off gently it varies, mainly house wives want taken off gently and not married yet want ripped. After getting her naked he pleasures her with his tongue then slides in and passionately makes love to her. What most women have is a forced seduction fantasy.

Course some are weird and want a little more violent. Say, guy comes up behind her grabs her pulls her over to something to bend her over rips her panties off skirt up and shoves his cock in and pumps until he shoots. It's alot of fun really you should try it.

Course if you are gonna go there go commando, saves on the panty expenses.

 

[Carnevil9]

I always figured that rape fantasies are all about escaping guilt. If you do something willingly, you are doing it on your own volition and might feel guilty later. But if you are taken against your will, you can indulge in all the vile things you disapprove of, and not blame yourself afterwards.

 

[tinawill77]

I've had non-consentual/relutance fantasies since high school.

For me, it was more about my desire to be wanted/beautiful and the primal aspect that a man was so horny and filled with desire he was willing to break social norms and laws to get what he wanted whether it was physically or through underhanded methods. And naturally the men were also handsome. It is a fantasy after all.

There might have been an aspect of escaping guilt. I never really thought of that until Carnevil9 mentioned it.

 

[thatgirl2136]

I have had that fantasy since I was about 8 and didn't even know what it fully entailed....Something about being guilt free and being wanted so bad is what makes it hot for me.

 

[Roxxxy91]

I've had non-consentual/relutance fantasies since high school.

For me, it was more about my desire to be wanted/beautiful and the primal aspect that a man was so horny and filled with desire he was willing to break social norms and laws to get what he wanted whether it was physically or through underhanded methods. And naturally the men were also handsome. It is a fantasy after all.

There might have been an aspect of escaping guilt. I never really thought of that until Carnevil9 mentioned it.

Gotta say I agree with this.. Ive always had forced fantasies and put it down to this as well..

 

[sexyhornymom]

I've had these fantasies for a years and I can agree with the escaping guilt theory.

 

[Roamme]

Fantasies of being raped

Sorry I had to delete it

 

[Lost_Yonder]

this has been very enlightening, thanks all for sharing. the sense of escaping guilt i had never recognized before... guilt of what? guilt of liking rough sex with an agressive, dominant partner? guilt of just having sex? guilt of desires?

where does the guilt come from? is it that men create double standards for women, creating a norm of guilt towards sexual desires for them, thus creating rapable subjects???

 

[emap]

The guit part depends actually. For some it's guilt from enjoying sex, I beleive just catholics but maybe more, they are taught that enjoying sex is a sin, the only one who needs to get enjoyment is the man and you only do it to have kids.

For some it's because they are moms and harried and well enjoying themselves seems to be wrong because they got kids and responsibilites and not enough time in the day.

Course for some it's because hubby is a speedy so they don't get much enjoyment out of the physical act, they of course enjoy sex anyway but you know, actually cumming all over a guys dick seems like cheating.

 

[tinawill77]

I can understand the guilt associated with enjoying sex. I have some religious friends that feel guilty about liking sex, but I've gotten over that.

For me, the guilt has more to do with the double standard and how women are generally suppose to be more chaste than men. As Roamme mentioned, if you're forced to do something you can't be responsible so that relieves some of the guilt involved there.

 

[ericahope]

I don't have any rape fantasies by I do have some reluctance fantasies from time to time. I think rape is awful and I don't like stories about it. Reluctance, on the other hand, is more about a woman giving into something she wants deep down inside but doesn't want to admit to. There is something about breaking whatever taboo is preventing her from going all the way that is erotic to me.

I don't normally talk to other women or men about my fantasies so I have no idea whether other women have rape fantasies, but as for me, no.

Erica

 

[Wyatt]

From A Non Consent Author

I don't know if you will be surprised or not but when I submit a story in the nonconsent/reluctance category about 80% of my feedback is from the ladies. I write more blackmail type storylines as the grab and slam em stories don't appeal to me.

The thought of having a woman to do with as you please and blackmail her into submission seems to appeal to me...but it seems to appeal to a lot of my female readers too!!!

Strangely the negative feedback I get from my stories is generated by males. After writing several stories a woman has never complained about my storylines...

 

[Sean Renaud]

Just the fact that there are so many genuine rape fantasies amongst women, even apparently women who have expereinced it, to me suggests it might be something wired in them. Just like a lot of guys have the fantasie at the other end. Like I often wonder how much of what we are supposed to be has been stripped away by society and it's still all there. You know just like all those studies about boys and trucks and girls with dolls and if you give boys dolls they become ninjas not mothers and girls with trucks still have mama truck and baby truck not monster trucks smashing things.

I'm suddenly wondering if that whole thing about boys hitting girls and running away if they like them is simply because they aren't quite sure what they are supposed to do next. . .great now I'm disturbed.

 

[JRaven]

2 dollars worth of typing, 2 cents worth of info.

I used to have fantasies of being forced. Not rape. Rape is a voilent assault on a woman. But forced to comply. Blackmailed, tricked, forcfully told I had no choice, whatever. Taken, not raped.

Yes, guilt played a big part in the idea of being forced. I had kids, they had to come first, second was my husband, way the fuck down the list was me. Being forcfully taken... Well, I had no choice. I didn't cheat on my husband, the guy made me do it.

As for Catholics being taught that sex is bad, that seems to be a misconception. I went to a Catholic school. I was only taught to obstain from sex until after marriage. Before I got married, my husband and I attended Pre Cana ("before marriage") classes. In the class, we were taught many things regarding marriage. It's the church's attempt to reduce the number of divorces. In the class, we were told that within the marriage, any thing that was consensual, was good.

My husband and I have stretched that a little. We consented that it was okay for me to fuck Jack while he fucked Robin. Then it was, so long as the other knew, it was okay.

But, that's a whole 'nother story.

Jenny

 

[Roamme]

Guilt from...

this has been very enlightening, thanks all for sharing. the sense of escaping guilt i had never recognized before... guilt of what? guilt of liking rough sex with an agressive, dominant partner? guilt of just having sex? guilt of desires?

where does the guilt come from? is it that men create double standards for women, creating a norm of guilt towards sexual desires for them, thus creating rapable subjects???

All of what you said (wanting to be forced, from naughty desires, sex at all, wanting to be seen). I used to think I felt guilt because of sex outside of marrage is a sin but I still feel guilty at times having sex with my husband. I want to be good but I crave to be bad. I feel guilty for having that craving and fantasies that are not just with my husband.

 

[Fantasies_only]

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[jessiefitzgerald]

I like the force and lack of control.

For me, the rape fantasy (which I have acted upon with my partner multiple times) is about him being in control. Him being forceful. Him being a wild and untamed thing that gets what he wants when he wants it. I don't have guilt issues but I do enjoy being out of control, helpless even. I'll admit to having graphic and genuine rape fantasies but they don't equate to something I want to happen. I frequently partake in the slam-bam approach with MH because I'm uber-obsessed with the dominant man that takes what he wants. I get what other people feel, the guilt and the being desired part, but for me I know that it is about him. I want my partner to have just what he wants on all his own terms: that's more erotic to me than pleasing myself.

Just my two cents...

 

[dominika]

Rape is not about sex (other than STD transmission and pregnancy). It is about (usually) men demanding their dominance over a woman (or man) with the subtext that the rapist's physical strength is mightier than both the victim's emotional and physical strength.

I'm not trying to stop your wonderful fantasies about being taken roughly by a stranger, but the fact that you are discussing something you secretly desire means it cannot be rape. To call these fantasies "rape" belittles the crime that rape is, and only reinforces the misguided excuse that some men have that "most women secretly want to be raped".

 

[littlebabyclit]

I'm female and I have fantasized about being overtaken/forced/ravished but not actually violently raped. I have equally fantasized about forcing/ravishing men myself. I'm an equal opportunity fantasizer.

I don't mind watching videos that are all the way to borderline gross/tasteless simulations of "rape." That's probably because I overwhelmingly (with exceptions of course) don't much like others of my own sex and I like to see them getting forced and fucked and men having their way with them. I like watching men take what they want...with or without consent.

 

[LusciousLoralie]

Oui, je vouloir tu à violer moi!

I find that a Jeremy Irons avatar is quite apropos for this thread, as I have a strange urge to be taken by him very forcefully. This urge came from seeing him in Dead Ringers and of course, Lolita. His two characters are extremely similar in the way that they appear to be meek and mild but actually have very lecherous (and occasionally sadistic) intentions. I don't know why but I absolutely adore the idea of a man being a bookish bore on an everyday basis but being a total animal when we're in bed. Well not actually in bed but maybe on the kitchen counter, in the shower, on the living room floor, in the back of the library, on the stairs, up against a window, or up against anything to be honest.