Rape Fantasy?

[ToySoldier]

I've heard it before from other girls but I don't know how common it is. My girlfriend recently told me that she has had fantasies of it in the past but obviously she'd enjoy her thoughts more than real rape. So, I was thinking...if she wants it, is it worth trying? And if so, how? I'm quite honestly, terrified by the thought of what could go wrong. Has anyone tried it and do you have any pointers?

 

[Norajane]

Why would you suggest that to her?? Usually, men don't consider acting out a rape fantasy with a woman unless she specifically requests it, and even then, many won't do it.

This falls into the "really bad idea" category. As you said, a lot of things can go wrong, and I'm guessing you might not be prepared to deal with it.

IF your girlfriend wants to explore this fantasy with you, perhaps you might read some Lit stories together. There are many stories in the Non-Consent/Reluctance category that might be fun for her and would help you understand what she has in mind when she says 'rape fantasy'.

 

[TBKahuna123]

OK this is something I have been through and it was pretty traumatic for me. I had a girlfriend who actually asked me to "rape" her. Now I couldn't even begin to fathom this because I'm just too nice a guy. Just even hearing her say this made me physically ill.

What it turned out to be was that she just wanted me to fuck her hard, that she wanted to explore rough sex and for me to be in a dominate role. Still she called it rape because that's what she equated it to. Well that I could do and once we talked about what she meant, it was fine. So if I were you I would first discuss with her what about a rape fantasy appeals to her. Is is the rough sex? Is it the lack of control and being dominated? Why does this appeal to her.

Whenever you start ranging into areas like this communication is a must as the first step. Lay out the boundaries, have a safe word, etc. Make sure every base is covered before you try something and be prepared for it to all backfire in the middle, because it might. If you have discussed it all up front though, you have the best chance to make it a fulfilling experience.

 

[Eilan]

OK this is something I have been through and it was pretty traumatic for me. I had a girlfriend who actually asked me to "rape" her. Now I couldn't even begin to fathom this because I'm just too nice a guy. Just even hearing her say this made me physically ill.

Call me politically correct if you will, but I much prefer the term "nonconsent play," though regardless of the terminology that's used, it's not something that appeals to me or my hubby. Other couples' mileage may vary.

You might want to do a search of the BDSM board.

 

[rosebud5446]

i do this sometimes. it was a bit tricky at first, because, sometimes, i would tell him that 'no means yes later'... but then 'later' ends up being too late and no really means no. it really can be confusing, but it's a sensitive subject. so you need a safe word. this can get scary and realistic no matter how much she trusts so she may get scared that you might not stop even if she wanted you to in the middle of it all, so that is something to clear up with her. tell her that you are doing this for her, and if at ANY TIME she wants to stop, it is perfectly okay.

that's all the input i have at the moment

 

[Eilan]

i do this sometimes. it was a bit tricky at first, because, sometimes, i would tell him that 'no means yes later'... but then 'later' ends up being too late and no really means no. it really can be confusing, but it's a sensitive subject. so you need a safe word. this can get scary and realistic no matter how much she trusts so she may get scared that you might not stop even if she wanted you to in the middle of it all, so that is something to clear up with her. tell her that you are doing this for her, and if at ANY TIME she wants to stop, it is perfectly okay.

that's all the input i have at the moment

And this is exactly why "no" is not an acceptable safeword in this case. How is one's partner supposed to know exactly when no means yes and when it means no?

 

[FurryFury]

How many Lit forums have you posted this question in today?

Fury

 

[thirty]

I keep wondering why a man can even rape a woman.
For me, if a woman has no feeling, I can't get aroused, my penis can't erect.
How does a man penetrate a woman who total rejects? I don't think the vagina will be wet.

 

[FurryFury]

I keep wondering why a man can even rape a woman.
For me, if a woman has no feeling, I can't get aroused, my penis can't erect.
How does a man penetrate a woman who total rejects? I don't think the vagina will be wet.

And if it's not wet, which in fact it may be, then what, he can't enter her?

*looks confused*

She will be having feelings be that good, bad or a mix unless she is passed out or something feeling will occur.

Fury