Rant and a question for lesbians

[Night_Jasmine]

I'm so mad right now, I could chew iron and spit out nails.

My best guy friend, who told my mother years ago that he'd go after me if a certain individual wasn't in the picture, tried to say tonight that he didn't think I was 100 percent lesbian. That if the right guy came into the picture, I'd go bi.

THE NERVE!! I couldn't believe it! I told him there were other things involved and that I wouldn't trust anything with a cock sexually.

*throws darts at his picture*

Has anything like this happened to anyone?

 

[lightsaver]

I'm so mad right now, I could chew iron and spit out nails.

My best guy friend, who told my mother years ago that he'd go after me if a certain individual wasn't in the picture, tried to say tonight that he didn't think I was 100 percent lesbian. That if the right guy came into the picture, I'd go bi.

THE NERVE!! I couldn't believe it! I told him there were other things involved and that I wouldn't trust anything with a cock sexually.

*throws darts at his picture*

Has anything like this happened to anyone?

Hi Jaz,
Seems to me that many people will often try to define sexuality according to what makes them more comfortable. So that they can feel better about what bothers them, about their own sexuality.
It is tactless and it hurts when friends do this. I stay clear of those who see what they want to see.
Arm's length does the trick for me.

 

[Night_Jasmine]

He got told off for it and part of my emotional reason for becoming a lesbian came out...when I didn't want it to. *sighs* But he says he's understanding it more now.

 

[lightsaver]

He got told off for it and part of my emotional reason for becoming a lesbian came out...when I didn't want it to. *sighs* But he says he's understanding it more now.

Good, good, good.

I am bi and have had male, female, straight, gay, lesbian friends inform me of my sexuality according to them. In most cases these were after 3 too many drinks. If I were smarter then, I would have charged them for my listening to what they had to say.
Mostly the friends that stuck with me and vice versa, accepted who I was, in the same manner that I accepted them. We just did.
And I think its a growing pain too in many regards.

 

[Night_Jasmine]

It is and he's the only guy friend I have. The others are women and they knew before I did. *giggles* He's the one that's accepted but questioned the hell out of it first. I know he means well but at the same time, I want to be accepted for WHO I am. Being a lesbian is only part of that...doesn't change my personality, my quirks, etc. It's just another facet, that's all.

 

[Wolfman1982]

NJ: don´t worry, let me be your guyfriend I won´t come on to you
Perhaps I would fall for you, but that still doesn´t mean, I would come on to you. I would still be your guyfriend

 

[Magnolia Wind]

Oh, haven't we all heard a story that if a nice guy comes along, we'll forget about women?

Or, hasn't somebody said to us at least once, "But you're such a beautiful girl, do you have a low self-esteem? Men find you attractive. You won't have a problem finding a guy."

That said, if that guy is really your friend, then I'm sure he meant well. I guess he wants you to be happy and being happy in the minds of most people means being with a guy. Sigh.

But we know better.

 

[Night_Jasmine]

NJ: don´t worry, let me be your guyfriend I won´t come on to you
Perhaps I would fall for you, but that still doesn´t mean, I would come on to you. I would still be your guyfriend

Good deal to me I'll take you up on it.

Yeah, it seems he was thinking that way. I managed to straighten him out fairly quickly. But it really hurt when it happened.

 

[Javagirl]

I swear, men!!

I'm a bi female (well somewhat new to it all) so I'm not sure if I am the best person to reply but here are my thoughts:

The thing that really bothers me with men when I tell them I want to be with a woman "separately" from a man is that it always comes around to "I'd love to watch you." or "what do you need that I can't give you?" Hello GET past the sexual, there's more to it than that.

No offense guys, but you just don't get it sometimes. I think it comes down to ego...I think your friend thinks maybe he'll be the one to "bring you around," so to speak.

It also bothers me that everyone has to put a label on each other--can't we just meet people we like and date them, have sex with them, kiss them, love them, etc...not based on whether they are male or female? Can't we just be intimate with a "person" as opposed to a gender or race or age (well, obviously legal ha!) for that matter?

Good luck with your friend...just be YOU and don't worry what he thinks

JG

 

[Night_Jasmine]

Yeah..I think they believe that if a person doesn't have 'outdoor plumbing' then a girl can't get off. Hell, I couldn't get off on the outdoor plumbing but I sure as hell can with another female. It's all in attraction - physical, emotional, and spiritual. I can't connect with a guy. Sorry, body doesn't work that way.

 

[Wolfman1982]

Good deal to me I'll take you up on it.

Yeah, it seems he was thinking that way. I managed to straighten him out fairly quickly. But it really hurt when it happened.

A deal is a deal NJ

 

[Night_Jasmine]

Sounds great to me!

 

[playwithlezli]

I'm a bi female (well somewhat new to it all) so I'm not sure if I am the best person to reply but here are my thoughts:

The thing that really bothers me with men when I tell them I want to be with a woman "separately" from a man is that it always comes around to "I'd love to watch you." or "what do you need that I can't give you?" Hello GET past the sexual, there's more to it than that.

No offense guys, but you just don't get it sometimes. I think it comes down to ego...I think your friend thinks maybe he'll be the one to "bring you around," so to speak.

It also bothers me that everyone has to put a label on each other--can't we just meet people we like and date them, have sex with them, kiss them, love them, etc...not based on whether they are male or female? Can't we just be intimate with a "person" as opposed to a gender or race or age (well, obviously legal ha!) for that matter?

Good luck with your friend...just be YOU and don't worry what he thinks

JG

It does seem to be tough to help a fellow understand that lesbian means two women together not "let's have a threesome."

 

[lightsaver]

Well said Javagirl

& lezli too

 

[Night_Jasmine]

I wonder if there will ever be a way to get them to stop thinking 'menage a trois' and let us be who we are?

I am myself, I am me. I am not him and he is not me, so how can he know what I think or feel?

 

[Wolfman1982]

I wonder if there will ever be a way to get them to stop thinking 'menage a trois' and let us be who we are?

I am myself, I am me. I am not him and he is not me, so how can he know what I think or feel?

Because simple things are hard to understand for alot of people. Where the more complicated things to some people is easy to comprehend .

But I understand both the easy/simple things. And also the complicated/difficult etc. things/matters.

But here is a thing, I think off. I keep things simple, even when it is advanced.

So to me a lesbian is a woman who loves, and sleeps with women. And no men there (with a few exceptions, I WON`T go into since it is personal info to some degree, where the subject is out of the question, period !) That is why I don´t say where I know it from, and why and all that.
But the "normal" lesbian is into vaginas and all what is female to them. That is the simple fact some MEN don´t understand, since they think with their cock instead of their head. But since there is no brain in their dick, then their hormones are running wild , and they get horny = a nobrainer

But keep things simple, even when it is complicated, since complicated things are just many simple things, put into a bigger perspective usually.

 

[Terra_Cide]

That is the simple fact some MEN don´t understand, since they think with their cock instead of their head. But since there is no brain in their dick, then their hormones are running wild , and they get horny = a nobrainer

TOTALLY AGREE!!!

That is probably the most truthful thing I have ever seen written in all of Lit. If there was a thumbs up emote, I'd use it.

 

[Wolfman1982]

TOTALLY AGREE!!!

That is probably the most truthful thing I have ever seen written in all of Lit. If there was a thumbs up emote, I'd use it.

Thanks I just wrote what I felt, and used common sense

 

[Tymeless]

i can't relate to this topic exactly on the terms that i'm not really technically a lesbian yet. but i can relate in the fact that i get told by people all the time your not really wanting to be a woman your a traitor to your gender you would be happier with yourself if you would just lose weight and buff up. yeah i'll be happier about my body because it looks better but i still wouldn't be happy because i'm not a woman. then i get lots of people that continually try to show me their cocks and even when i've told them i don't like cocks they continue to try and show them to me like i'm suddenly gonna want to suck it or masturbate to it. I dislike cocks i don't find them attractive in any way please for the love of god guys get your fucking hormones in check its fine to flirt and shit but when someone makes it clear they don't fucking like guys get over yourselves and let them be.

 

[Wolfman1982]

I just hope, everybody understands I am NOT your typical guy.

 

[Night_Jasmine]

The only person who knows you best is you, Tiffany. Don't let them say otherwise. I had to knock some sense into my friend and now, he's afraid he's jeopardized our friendship because of it.

We have to do what makes us happy. Right?

 

[Night_Jasmine]

I just hope, everybody understands I am NOT your typical guy.

Oh we know You're supportive and that's appreciated.

Tiffany - in your heart, mind, and soul, you're a woman and you don't like cock, so that makes you lesbian in my book. The rest will come in time.

 

[Tymeless]

Oh we know You're supportive and that's appreciated.

Tiffany - in your heart, mind, and soul, you're a woman and you don't like cock, so that makes you lesbian in my book. The rest will come in time.

thanks hun your words are encouraging

 

[Night_Jasmine]

Anytime

 

[Tymeless]

love your avatar btw whats it from?


and i'm here for you anytime.