Random stupidity

[AnnaKen1910]

I know this is a freaking vent, but I need it, and if you don't want to read it, then stop now and hit the back button on your browser!

I'm torn between anger at myself and anger at the male gender. I'm mad at myself because I just seem to keep ending up with these sorry-azz guys that can't keep their word if their life depended on it. I've had more freaking first dates in the past eight months than a call girl looking for a john, and they lead NOWHERE! I get the standard "I had a great time, can't wait to see you again", a few texts that DON'T lead to a second date and then NOTHING! I'm not looking for marriage again, not now, heck, I'm just trying to figure out this whole dating thing all over again. I'm just sick of the "come here, no get away" game I seem to be getting. Heck, I thought that was MY role, for cripe's sake!!!!

I was happily married for just over sixteen years, and I still would be if my husband hadn't died of brain cancer. I had his blessing to move on, and I'm trying, but I never expected finding someone to just talk to and spend some time with would be so BLASTED HARD!!!!!!!!

 

[islandman]

My condolences on the loss of your husband.

 

[blobfish]

There's a guy on here named eyer that you might like.

 

[lovetoread]

Men suck.

I'm pondering changing teams.

 

[islandman]

Men suck.

I'm pondering changing teams.

Women suck too.

Have you tried an asexual person?

 

[AnnaKen1910]

Men suck.

I'm pondering changing teams.

I thought about that, but women just don't have the right equipment to satisfy me.

 

[islandman]

I thought about that, but women just don't have the right equipment to satisfy me.

What about a shemale?

The right equipment, but with the sensitivity of a woman.

 

[lovetoread]

Women suck too.

Have you tried an asexual person?

Unfortunately, Sheldon isn't available.

I thought about that, but women just don't have the right equipment to satisfy me.

Yea, that is a sticking point for me too.

 

[AnnaKen1910]

My condolences on the loss of your husband.

THank you. I'm grieving less, or the pain of it is less.

 

[AnnaKen1910]

What about a shemale?

The right equipment, but with the sensitivity of a woman.

Nah, even boobs would get in the way...

 

[PoppingTom]

... I never expected finding someone to just talk to and spend some time with would be so BLASTED HARD!!!!!!!!

Maybe because you want to force it.

I know I've got easy talking, but most people don't like desperation, don't like over-talking, don't like bad feelings. You don't need to hide your feelings, but it deters if them comes too irksome, I think.

 

[kiwi_submissive]

I gave up on the dating thing. Turns out most of the guys that asked me out on dates were actually in relationships and only wanting to get laid. According to a few of them they were in "open" relationships it's just that the partner didn't want to know about it.

These days it's not worth my time or effort in actually getting ready and meeting the person and making inane small talk all all the while thinking how am I going to get out the awkward no I don't want to sleep with you conversation at the end of the evening.

 

[Squibbs]

I know this is a freaking vent, but I need it, and if you don't want to read it, then stop now and hit the back button on your browser!

I'm torn between anger at myself and anger at the male gender. I'm mad at myself because I just seem to keep ending up with these sorry-azz guys that can't keep their word if their life depended on it. I've had more freaking first dates in the past eight months than a call girl looking for a john, and they lead NOWHERE! I get the standard "I had a great time, can't wait to see you again", a few texts that DON'T lead to a second date and then NOTHING! I'm not looking for marriage again, not now, heck, I'm just trying to figure out this whole dating thing all over again. I'm just sick of the "come here, no get away" game I seem to be getting. Heck, I thought that was MY role, for cripe's sake!!!!

I was happily married for just over sixteen years, and I still would be if my husband hadn't died of brain cancer. I had his blessing to move on, and I'm trying, but I never expected finding someone to just talk to and spend some time with would be so BLASTED HARD!!!!!!!!

Maybe it's not them?

Quit blaming others, asshole.

 

[AnnaKen1910]

I want to force it? I just want guys to be honest enough to say "this was nice, but I don't want to do it again", rather than text or call me a few times and then seemingly drop off the face of the earth. I don't talk about my late husband unless they ask, try to keep conservation about my children to a minimum, and ask lots of questions about them and their interests. Granted they generally know up front I'm a widow, not a divorcee', but I don't talk about details unless asked and even then I try to keep it low key. In all of those first dates, and I'd estimate about 20 in an eight month span, I've had ONE guy be honest enough to say he wasn't interested enough for a second date at the end of the first date. Did it sting? Sure, but less than being strung along for three or four weeks then dropped like a hot brick covered with fire ants.

 

[blobfish]

I gave up on the dating thing. Turns out most of the guys that asked me out on dates were actually in relationships and only wanting to get laid. According to a few of them they were in "open" relationships it's just that the partner didn't want to know about it.

These days it's not worth my time or effort in actually getting ready and meeting the person and making inane small talk all all the while thinking how am I going to get out the awkward no I don't want to sleep with you conversation at the end of the evening.

I hate small talk so much. It makes me want to punch people.

 

[blobfish]

I want to force it? I just want guys to be honest enough to say "this was nice, but I don't want to do it again", rather than text or call me a few times and then seemingly drop off the face of the earth. I don't talk about my late husband unless they ask, try to keep conservation about my children to a minimum, and ask lots of questions about them and their interests. Granted they generally know up front I'm a widow, not a divorcee', but I don't talk about details unless asked and even then I try to keep it low key. In all of those first dates, and I'd estimate about 20 in an eight month span, I've had ONE guy be honest enough to say he wasn't interested enough for a second date at the end of the first date. Did it sting? Sure, but less than being strung along for three or four weeks then dropped like a hot brick covered with fire ants.

Putting an apostrophe after an 'E' does not give it an accent.

 

[Spins]

You are not alone.

This is how dating works nowadays. Lots of options and no real need to settle down until "perfection" comes along.

It only takes one, though.

 

[AnnaKen1910]

Maybe it's not them?

Quit blaming others, asshole.

Hey asshole, go troll elsewhere! It's my thread, I explicitly stated it was a vent, so go troll somewhere, you pea-brained butt-wipe!

 

[blobfish]

Hey asshole, go troll elsewhere! It's my thread, I explicitly stated it was a vent, so go troll somewhere, you pea-brained butt-wipe!

*sigh*

 

[AnnaKen1910]

You are not alone.

This is how dating works nowadays. Lots of options and no real need to settle down until "perfection" comes along.

It only takes one, though.

Yea, and maybe I already had my perfection... I'd just like someone to talk to as an adult on a regular basis.

 

[kiwi_submissive]

What sort of dates do you go on? Are they the traditional dinner dates or do you go on more informal fun date. I found things like a walk on the beach or a game of minigolf alot easier to deal with and talk to the person.

 

[AnnaKen1910]

Putting an apostrophe after an 'E' does not give it an accent.

Pardon my inability to navigate the intricate workings of the iPad keyboard when typing a venting post due to my frustration with several members of the opposite gender.

 

[blobfish]

Pardon my inability to navigate the intricate workings of the iPad keyboard when typing a venting post due to my frustration with several members of the opposite gender.

1. Hold down the 'E' key until the options for various accents come up.

2. Choose which one you want.

3. Buy a dog and a dildo, or just a dog if you're not too picky.

 

[AnnaKen1910]

They have been mostly things like a cup of coffee and a stroll, very rarely it has been a meal and conversation, never a movie as a first date...that is essentially pointless due to the inability to talk during the movie.

 

[AnnaKen1910]

1. Hold down the 'E' key until the options for various accents come up.

2. Choose which one you want.

3. Buy a dog and a dildo, or just a dog if you're not too picky.

Frankly, if you are here to troll, you may leave, too. I have two dogs, a cat, and a dildo. I'm more interested in finding some to talk to at this juncture than someone to have sex with. As I stated in the original post, it was a venting thread, and if you can't understand that, then please take yourself and your now irritating suggestions elsewhere.