R-E-S-P-E-C-T find out what it means to me

[KillerMuffin]

What is respect?
How do you apply your respect to other people?
What must another person do to earn your respect?
Can you respect people you can't stand?
Do you respect people you don't like?
How is your respect applied here as opposed to out there?
Do you think that you are due respect? How much? Why?

 

[Svedish_Chef]

Eat me, muff

Respect is for the weak.

Course I never get any so what would I know.

 

[Astro]

Respect must be earned thats the most important thing. I can respect people I dont like but is tends to be respecting them for a certain thing - their knowledge of genetics etc rather than the whole person. Respect is not for the weak, the moment you do not respect your enemy in war, your dead.

 

[Wiggles]

I respect every person from the get go. Everyone has a right to be, to act the way they want, to do the things they do.

They actually have to earn my disrespect. If they are disrespectful to others, to themselves, in their actions, they lose my respect.

To regain it again is a hard task. They must prove themselves over time, through their actions.

This is a very general statement, and really it goes on a case by case basis. But these are my general rules for respect.

 

[MunchinMark]

I'm like Wiggles in terms of respect. People start out with respect. Then they either loose repect or gain extra kudos by their words or actions.

I think that most of my friends have lost respect in my eyes and then gained it at a later time. Just to show that they behave like normal people...ish, they do hang around with me.

 

[cellis]

I respect every person from the get go. Everyone has a right to be, to act the way they want, to do the things they do.

They actually have to earn my disrespect. If they are disrespectful to others, to themselves, in their actions, they lose my respect.

To regain it again is a hard task. They must prove themselves over time, through their actions.

This is a very general statement, and really it goes on a case by case basis. But these are my general rules for respect.

What she said...

I try to approach everyone with an open mind... everyone has the right to be who they are...

 

[Desert Amazon]

 

[Quiet_Cool]

Wow! Good topic.
I disagree with a lot of what's been said here, or at least one thing that has been repeated several times. People do not always have the right to be who they are and do what they do. Sometimes (meaning often) people carry things further than they have a right to go with it. For instance: Everybody flirts on an innocent level, and that's usually okay, depending on your situation I guess, but when a married man screws around on his wife, rights are no longer an issue.
Just wanted to get that out of the way.
I'm like Astro in that my respect must be earned. And it's hard to do that, i'll admit, but it's also hard for me to rearn other's respect, so what goes around and all that. I will not, however, treat someone i don't know with blatant and unnecessary disrespect.
Everybody does something to earn it, but does that balance with what they do to lack in deserving it is the real question.

 

[Calamity Jane]

Respect must be earned. To give it blindly, just because a person happens to be exist tends to negate the immense respect I have for others.

I cannot respect someone who refuses to take responsibility for their life and their actions... who repeatedly makes the same mistakes, without learning anything... or who deliberately behaves in a negative way toward others with little or no provocation...

I respect people who possess honesty, compassion, empathy, strength in their beliefs, an ability to stand up to me and my beliefs... there are more reasons.

None of that can be known about a person we're meeting for the first time. That isn't to say that I treat strangers with disrespect. I don't. I was raised better than that.

I can respect someone I don't like, if we're terribly far apart in our views, and there's no way to forge a freindship, I've been known to say "I admire and respect their drive, but I just can't hang out with them."

Once a person loses my respect, it's a near impossible battle to win it back. If you lie to me once, I have no reason to believe you wouldn't do it again.

 

[sch00lteacher]

I am so sick of that word

I hear it all the time from high school kids. They use it in a different context that we do (older adults).

To too many kids respect means fear, they do not want you to respect them. They want you to fear them. They feel powerless in real life and this is a way to gain that 'power'.

A gun can earn you respect. You do not disrespect someone carrying a gun. Because they will shoot your ass.

Being a THUG earns you respect, because it brings fear. Who isn't a littl afraid of a young person all Thugged out? Does this mean I respect them, no. But they take it that way.

When respect means fear, you can not allow anyone to disrespect you. If you do you lose face. And fear.

Try telling any of this to a 17 year old. They don't want to hear it.

I agree with those who say that respect, real respect, must be earned.

 

[Caria Knight]

I think there are different degrees of respect.

A basic degree of respect (which I approach all new people with). They are individuals and our views and beliefs may not be the same but they are entitled to them.

A respect for one's abilities & achievements. It takes time and hard work to reach goals.

A respect for the whole person. This is the one that really needs to be earned.


Anyone can loose these degrees of respect as well. I've never liked the saying "Respect your elders" and when confronted with it in my past I've always replied "They will be treated with the same respect that they show me".

 

[patient1]

What is respect?
How do you apply your respect to other people?
What must another person do to earn your respect?
Can you respect people you can't stand?
Do you respect people you don't like?
How is your respect applied here as opposed to out there?
Do you think that you are due respect? How much? Why?

It might be love, admiration, fear, or a combination of those elements.

In a new situation, I treat others as peers, until I know them as individuals. Sometimes I lose respect for the individual, & only my respect for their rights, freedoms, or authority remain. Sometimes the better I understand them, the more I respect them for their character, accomplishments, virtues &abillities.

Actually, I'm not this flirtatious in Real Life. I consider many of the remarks I make in that regard disrespectful. Of course people aren't flashing me in RL this frequently, either.

The only respect I feel I'm due is what I call common courtesy, the same as the next person.