Questons for other plus sized women

[Crazy_Jezabel]

What do you do to make yourself feel sexy and not self concious? I need some suggestions. I've been married to my husband for 2 years now and he always tells me I'm sexy, but I'm still not quite feeling sexy myself.

Do any of you like to have sex on top and if you do how do you keep from your back hurting? When I have sex on top of my husband it turns me on, but get no pleasure from it because my back hurts and I don't really feel penatration.

 

[Night_Jasmine]

Honestly, I haven't been able to figure that one out either. Lingerie makes me cringe simply because it's so darn hard to shop for and I hate how I look in it.

I only felt sexy and beautiful once..and that was due to the look in my partner's eyes and how I was described. I hope like hell I find that again.

 

[bouncingbetty]

I'm not plus size, but I think all of us (women) need to get over what others seem to think is "normal beauty." By that I mean what magazines, film, etc portray as beautiful (skinny). Honestly, as long as my husband thinks I'm beautiful or sexy - that's all I need. We (women again) look at ourselves more critically than others do - - we're harder on ourselves.

 

[AboutFace]

Well - I am a plus sized woman. I am very happy with myself, and feeling sexy is directly linked to that. I don't really like a lot of lingerie - but I never have. I prefer tshirts or regular nightgowns. I don't try to be something that I'm not, and the comfort that brings me, allows me to show my lover who I really am. If I have to worry if he will find me sexy or attractive, maybe that isn't the person for me. What's inside is MUCH more important.
As for being on top, I've found the most comfortable way for us is to have him propped up on a few pillows, but not quite sitting up straight. In this way, I don't have to bend over too far and it doesn't hurt my back. I love the way this feels. I can feel the penetration and great rubbing on my clit. I've never failed to have an orgasm that way.

 

[Crazy_Jezabel]

I got the pillow suggestion from someone else. I haven't tried it out yet, but I will. I want to see if that works for me.

 

[parapanta]

yes,plz try ..and share what u had with us.....

 

[kittykateater]

Well - I am a plus sized woman. I am very happy with myself, and feeling sexy is directly linked to that. I don't really like a lot of lingerie - but I never have. I prefer tshirts or regular nightgowns. I don't try to be something that I'm not, and the comfort that brings me, allows me to show my lover who I really am. If I have to worry if he will find me sexy or attractive, maybe that isn't the person for me. What's inside is MUCH more important.
As for being on top, I've found the most comfortable way for us is to have him propped up on a few pillows, but not quite sitting up straight. In this way, I don't have to bend over too far and it doesn't hurt my back. I love the way this feels. I can feel the penetration and great rubbing on my clit. I've never failed to have an orgasm that way.

Great suggestion, AboutFace. Let me give a man's perspective...when I'm sitting up, my back propped against pillows, and my wife (who's a 1x in lingerie) straddles my legs, I get to see all of her nakedness, and my mouth is in perfect position to enjoy her nipples as she slowly bounces and rocks on my lap. And it's a perfect position for me to cup and kneed her ass cheeks as she rides me. More of my body is supporting her this way, too: my legs and my belly...and her knees are supporting her too. She'll usually put her palms flat on my chest for even more support. She never complains of back pain in that position, so it sems to work well for her. And I don't really feel her weight on me, just her tightness slipping down over me. Like you mentioned, M likes to rub her clit on me before she slips herself down over me (and I love that rocking over the length of my shaft without me entering her...makes me feel she's very hungry for me, makes me feel irresistibly sexy). While she mostly controls the pace of riding me, I sometimes put my hands on her hips and lift and lower her over me, to show her the pace I'd like, to either speed it up or slow it down. This position is perfect for being able to control the pace like that.

Hope that works for Jez and her Dutch hubby.

KKE

 

[Dirty_Angel26]

I am a plus size woman(although hubby will beg to differ on that) My hubby never fails to tell me how beautiful and sexy I am to him. The best part of it is it is not just words, I can look in his eyes and see the look on his face and know that he actually means it. He prefers me to wear clothings that reveals my curves and not hide them. Not tight clothing but clothing that actually fits. We go to adult stores together and pick out lingerie and toys. I normally don't care for lingerie eiether but seeing the look on his face when I wear it is enough for me to get over my insecurities about my body.