Questions

[eversobeautiful]

I'd prefer only informational replies and nothing vulgar please.

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I'm female so you know.

For butt blugs and nipple clamps... I realize what they are and you do with them but why -- are they arousing to the female or is it just for bsdm? Is it a pain thing - do they hurt?

Vibrating eggs -- ever heard of them, do they work well, stimpulating?

This is humilating to ask but .... do they have manual for FEMALES on masterbating, using things like that? I'm not stupid, I know the basics but...

Last question.... can anyone recommend books with spanking in them and I dont mean a whole book with it and neither do I mean a book where a guy is beating the hell out of a female.

Thanks...

 

[girl]

Hello Welcome to Lit

For butt blugs and nipple clamps... I realize what they are and you do with them but why -- are they arousing to the female or is it just for bsdm? Is it a pain thing - do they hurt?

Plugs: A lot of women find them very arousing. I suppose it depends on whether you're very anally inclined. I don't mind a plug occasionally, but I don't like them too often. My best friend, on the other hand, loves them.

Nipple clamps: The types of clamps range from very heavy to delicate, so you'd be able to find the type that best suits you pretty easily. Consider whether you like nipple play. Do you like your nipples pinched lightly? squeezed a bit? The continuous stimulation by clamps can be very very arousing. Just remember you shouldn't wear them for more than about 20 minutes at a time.

Clamps are generally seen as a BDSM toy whereas plugs are pretty universal. But it's just a label anyway, so, to me, it doesn't much matter.

Vibrating eggs -- ever heard of them, do they work well, stimpulating?

Ohyes. These are sooo much fun You can find a really good one at The Stockroom.

This is humilating to ask but .... do they have manual for FEMALES on masterbating, using things like that? I'm not stupid, I know the basics but...

I'm sure they've got tons of them. Check Sexuality.org. That's a link to a specific page, but you can do your own search on female masturbation on their search page and get tons of links to informative articles.

Last question.... can anyone recommend books with spanking in them and I dont mean a whole book with it and neither do I mean a book where a guy is beating the hell out of a female.

Are you looking for fiction? How-to? It's a really big field.

girl

 

[SexyChele]

Well, here are my opinions...

1. Anal plugs: I enjoy them. They give the feeling of fullness that you would have if you had a cock inside of you. If you like that fullness, then you would like a plug. Some women really like it, others don't. Plugs come in different sizes, from very narrow to very wide. Depends on personal preference. I like them. I know of other women who don't.

2. Nipple clamps: One of my personal favorite toys. If you don't like your nipples played with roughly, you probably won't like these. For me, the harder the better. I particularly like to have my nipples bitten hard, but it is difficult to keep that consistency up and do other things, therefore, the clamps. Some (like mine) have a screw that allows you to increase or decrease the pressure. But again, it depends on how you like to have your nipples played with.

3. Vibrating Egg: My most favorite toy! I got mine right here at Lit. It's relatively small, and I insert it into the anus. I can hardly feel it there, until the vibration is turned on - then it vibrates my whole lower body. When you insert an egg into the anus, and then a man penetrates you vaginally, it is as though a vibrator is running along his cock. Only problem is - who gets control of the vibrations! But again, some women are just not into anal play, and this can be more of an irritant than a pleasure.

Sorry, but the last 2 I simply do not know. As far as masturbation goes, it was trial and error for me - just figured out what felt good and kept doing more of it.

With spanking, I was lucky to find a man who knew what he was doing, and we just experiemented a lot!

 

[cymbidia]

For butt blugs and nipple clamps... I realize what they are and you do with them but why -- are they arousing to the female or is it just for bsdm? Is it a pain thing - do they hurt?

Vibrating eggs -- ever heard of them, do they work well, stimpulating?

If you can begin to think of "pain" as "sensation"
-and-
sensation as a continuum from "extremely unpleasant" to "wildly wonderful"
-then-
you can begin to understand the wide range of reactions to things like butt plugs and nipple (or labia) clamps.

Pain is a common word and commonly means sensation that we don't want, yuck, ptooey, no good, fucking bad stuff - right? However, your idea of what's painful and mine might differ in some important places so it's pretty handy to use the term "sensation" when referring to sensational matters of a sexual nature.

That said, i agree with all the previous posters offered you in terms of shedding light on the wonderful sexual toys known as butt plugs and clamps.

Your question "are they arousing to the female or is it just for bsdm?" is a curiosity to me, though. I get aroused while doing BDSM sex play. The two go hand-in-hand for me and many like me. To think that those of us who "do" BDSM are somehow hating every minute of it is... well, i'm sorry, but it's laughable. We LOVE what we do with our partners. We crave the heights of sensation, and all of us seek different levels of sensation and different kinds of seansation too. We're very happy in our BDSM sexuality... and aroused, too.

Plugs and clamps and eggs are not "a pain thing", darlin'.
They're very definitely sex things.
They're pleasure things.
They're communication with our partners things.

This is humilating to ask but .... do they have manual for FEMALES on masterbating, using things like that? I'm not stupid, I know the basics but...

You're never stupid to ask a question when you want to know, darlin'. Never. (MastUrbation is, however, spelled with a "u" in there, not an "e".)

Here are some links offering high quality info on this subject:
http://www.sweetdreamz.com/adultguide/female_masturbation.htm
http://www.planmyfamily.net/masturbation.asp
http://www.clitical.com/
http://shack.bianca.com/shack/goodvibe/masturbate/index.html

Last question.... can anyone recommend books with spanking in them and I dont mean a whole book with it and neither do I mean a book where a guy is beating the hell out of a female.

Fiction? How-to? What do you want...?

A few links to spanking fiction:
http://www.pinkflamingo.com/Erotic Novels/spankingfiction.asp
(www.pinkflamingo, btw, is a good all-purpose kink-friendly mostly-BDSM book site.)
http://www.herwoodshed.com/
http://www.vickiblue.com/vickifiction.html
http://www.goodkitty.com/spanking/

A few good nonfiction books containing how-to info on spanking (all are probably available through amazon.com):
Jay Wiseman, SM 101; A Realistic Introduction
Lady Green, The Complete Spanker

more info on spanking can be found here: http://www.sexuality.org/l/bdsm/spanresc.html

Any other questions?

 

[Aaron26]

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