Questions for Mistresses

[delicate_yielding]

I have two pretty simple questions that I'm very very curious about...

When you're dominating another woman (it must be different from dominating men right?),
1) what do you enjoy doing to her most?
2) what's something she can do to please you even more?

For example, when you're spanking me, would you like it better if I
a. stayed perfectly still
b. screamed in pain
c. cried, struggled, and begged for you to stop
d. moaned in pleasure and pretended (some people don't need to pretend XD) to enjoy it

For the record, I would like doing any of the four hehe
Does it make you hotter to have perfect obedience or a little rebelliousness and/or reluctance?
I know everyone likes different things, and it's always a good idea to be spontaneous, but I'd really like to hear your thoughts. Just little things like above!

Please let me know your opinions. Whatever comes to mind

 

[Noira]

Hmm, if I was dominating ANYONE and into spanking them, I'd want a mix of b and d. I'd feel mean if someone was crying and pleading for me to stop (I WOULD stop) and would get bored if they didn't do anything.

Gender doesn't make any differences for me. I'm a switch, by the way, and in my dominant moods... it's split pretty evenly depending on situation, mood, and the time of the month ahahaha... right now it's after my period so I'm in a nicer mood than I am before... well, I consider myself to be a romantic/nice person most of the time. XD And I haven't dominated another woman. Pity, I think it'd be more fun than being a domme for a guy. I hate the cliche domme stereotype that I'd get pinned with if I admitted I'd like to do it--SOMETIMES. But not always, that's the problem... heh... but yeah, I've only RPed with women, not IRL. =(

I dunno, you might get more responses in the BDSM boards...

Perfect obedience bores me. I don't find it arousing. I find the tension and banter arousing, now. XD Mmm, sexual tension. At least the kind that's mostly in fun...

I like people to enjoy it with me rather than just cooperating.

 

[SweetErika]

Being with a woman has a different feel, period, but apart from that different basic energy, I don't find it different than dominating men.

I want my partner to do whatever comes naturally to them, unless I tell them otherwise (e.g. I wouldn't be happy with ear-splitting screams or a lot of backtalk). A genuine response is important to me and pretending is a complete turn off.

I'm happy with some reluctance/rebelliousness, but again, it has to be genuine. When it comes to certain things, like doing simple tasks/chores/the mundane, I'm more likely to want compliance/obedience.

Your other questions are way too broad; the answers would depend on my partner, mood, expectations, what we are doing at any given time, etc.

 

[delicate_yielding]

Your other questions are way too broad; the answers would depend on my partner, mood, expectations, what we are doing at any given time, etc.

Okay, you got me! I was just trying to trick some stories out of you

 

[SweetDomme_29]

I have two pretty simple questions that I'm very very curious about...

When you're dominating another woman (it must be different from dominating men right?),
1) what do you enjoy doing to her most?
2) what's something she can do to please you even more?

For example, when you're spanking me, would you like it better if I
a. stayed perfectly still
b. screamed in pain
c. cried, struggled, and begged for you to stop
d. moaned in pleasure and pretended (some people don't need to pretend XD) to enjoy it

For the record, I would like doing any of the four hehe
Does it make you hotter to have perfect obedience or a little rebelliousness and/or reluctance?
I know everyone likes different things, and it's always a good idea to be spontaneous, but I'd really like to hear your thoughts. Just little things like above!

Please let me know your opinions. Whatever comes to mind

Oh kitten! Don't you have a Domme to train you and help answer your questions? Tsk..Tsk... A sub should never be left in your situation: lost and confused.

Well, first of all dominating men is far different than dominating women. Dominating men requires more of a direct approach. Women on the other hand tend to be more intuitive and thus don't require as much direct instruction.

Nothing brings a Domm more pleasure than a good spanking. The desired reaction from you depends on three factors: the occasion for the spanking (is it a reward or punishment?), the tool used, and your level of training (experienced, fully trained subs tend to have a higher treshold of pain).

Any Domme worth Her salt will know when you are pretending. Just a warning: never pretend! It is the easiest, most effective way to invoke a Domme's wrath.

As for the rest of your questions, an experienced sub would be expected to hold perfectly still during punishment but would be allowed to moan in pleasure during a reward spanking. On the other hand, most inexperienced subs are incapable of holding perfectly still during a spanking. It is the Domm's responsibility to bring them to the level where they can muster that amount of controll.

Some Dommes allow Their subs to beg during punishment. Personally, I tend to be more linient with female subs who beg than male subs. (I have a soft spot for my little kittens. their soft pleas melt my heart

As far as crying goes, it is a form of release so cry if it helps.

If a sub is screaming in pain than he/she is being pushed beyond his/her treshold. All subs must have a safeword. Screaming in pain should never substitute for a safeword.

I hope this is helpful to you dear

 

[LadyC]

Since I only dominate one woman and only for a brief period, I'm surely not an expert, but I usually treat Kay as my pet, a puppy kept on a leash. Though I have used a riding crop and a bamboo cane on her firm behind, I prefer to bend her over my lap and spank her. I love to hear her gasp when I slap her ass really hard, and I also enjoy the spasmatic jerk of her body when my palm strikes her flesh.

I also love to "force" her to go down on me under my skirt while I am sitting in an easy chair. Or I may straddle her head on my knees and friction my pussy against her mouth, occasionally, shifting forward to have her tongue my anus. During this, I will ignore her pussy, and only when she has performed her duties well, will I masturbate her to an orgasm. I also have a rubber dildo which I use as a puppy toy and play fetch, tossing it and watching her scamper after it on all fours, then bring in back to me in her mouth like a good puppy.

 

[fairy princess]

Since I only dominate one woman and only for a brief period, I'm surely not an expert, but I usually treat Kay as my pet, a puppy kept on a leash. Though I have used a riding crop and a bamboo cane on her firm behind, I prefer to bend her over my lap and spank her. I love to hear her gasp when I slap her ass really hard, and I also enjoy the spasmatic jerk of her body when my palm strikes her flesh.

I also love to "force" her to go down on me under my skirt while I am sitting in an easy chair. Or I may straddle her head on my knees and friction my pussy against her mouth, occasionally, shifting forward to have her tongue my anus. During this, I will ignore her pussy, and only when she has performed her duties well, will I masturbate her to an orgasm. I also have a rubber dildo which I use as a puppy toy and play fetch, tossing it and watching her scamper after it on all fours, then bring in back to me in her mouth like a good puppy.

ok...I have to cum now just from just hearing you describe that!

 

[SweetBaybeeGirl]

Oh kitten! Don't you have a Domme to train you and help answer your questions? Tsk..Tsk... A sub should never be left in your situation: lost and confused.

Well, first of all dominating men is far different than dominating women. Dominating men requires more of a direct approach. Women on the other hand tend to be more intuitive and thus don't require as much direct instruction.

Nothing brings a Domm more pleasure than a good spanking. The desired reaction from you depends on three factors: the occasion for the spanking (is it a reward or punishment?), the tool used, and your level of training (experienced, fully trained subs tend to have a higher treshold of pain).

Any Domme worth Her salt will know when you are pretending. Just a warning: never pretend! It is the easiest, most effective way to invoke a Domme's wrath.

As for the rest of your questions, an experienced sub would be expected to hold perfectly still during punishment but would be allowed to moan in pleasure during a reward spanking. On the other hand, most inexperienced subs are incapable of holding perfectly still during a spanking. It is the Domm's responsibility to bring them to the level where they can muster that amount of controll.

Some Dommes allow Their subs to beg during punishment. Personally, I tend to be more linient with female subs who beg than male subs. (I have a soft spot for my little kittens. their soft pleas melt my heart

As far as crying goes, it is a form of release so cry if it helps.

If a sub is screaming in pain than he/she is being pushed beyond his/her treshold. All subs must have a safeword. Screaming in pain should never substitute for a safeword.

I hope this is helpful to you dear

It’s wonderful to see someone who really knows what She is talking about! Thank you for taking the time to be so helpful and give such useful guidance.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I see your point about being direct with men and maybe more subtle with women.

It probably depends on if either gender wants sensual or harsh domination too.