Questions about "Swingers" - New Here

[Jeffwho]

Hello All,

We have just found the "Literotica" site and Love it.

I have a few questions for and about "Swingers".

Me and my wife have been playing online with the web cam for about 6 months. She likes showing off her body and seeing me and other men enjoying the "show". We always play together. We have played with only single men and couples, she is not bi. We are both 34, honest, fun, not jealous , enjoy live and enjoy a great sex life. We are thinking of trying the swinging life style.

Questions:
What is a soft swap and full swap (full swap I think know that one)?
We definitely enjoy being exhibitionist and voyeurs, would the acceptable behavior with in the "swingers community"?
Neither of us are bi, for her would that be a problem (No should me No)?
We are thinking a "club" would be the way to start, suggestions (we are in central Florida)?
Considering we are not sure of what we are looking for, If we were to meet a couple for dinner and we get along great, would it be acceptable to meet a few more times?

Thanks for any all input.

We will be posting some picutes this weekend

 

[Rubyfruit]

Hi Jeff,

My husband and I have been swinging, on and off, for about 7 years. I'll try to answer some of your questions.

I think soft and full swap can be defined differently by different people. Soft could mean only that both couples have sex, with their own spouses, in the same room - for voyeuristic and exhibitionist fun. It could mean swapping for oral, but not intercourse. Full swap could mean anything from having intercourse with the other couple to going off in separate rooms with each other's spouses. It's something you would want to discuss with the other couple ahead of time.

Most, but not all, swingers are exhibitionist and voyeuristic in nature. Many enjoy public sex or group sex and don't mind being watched.

While many of the women who swing are bi (or come to be), not all are. It would not be a problem that your wife isn't bi.

To find clubs in your area, look on the net. Put in key words "swinging central florida" in any search engine and you're bound to find the clubs. We're new to our town and did that to find the clubs here.

I think a club is a great place to start. You can sit back and enjoy the action, get a feel for the people, scene, etc. You can even simply have sex with each other - if the public sex thing turns you on. If you are approached for sex, simply politely decline, saying that you are there for the first time and just want to watch tonight.

Everybody I've met swinging has been nice, polite and respectful. Nobody is going to force themselves on you.

Play safe and have fun!

Ruby

 

[Rubyfruit]

Here's a link that should get you and your wife started, Jeff.

http://www.eswingers.net/fl-clubs.htm

Ruby

 

[petrel]

Dear jeff
i don't know what clubs there are in florida but if my local one is anythign to go by they are a really nice bunch of people. My club hosts general fetish nights too and anyone is welcome from the scene. I have never been approached in a threatening manner and most people have been happy to accept me saying that i am there as a fetishist not as a swinger. I actually felt more relaxed there than i have done in lots of other clubs.

 

[Jeffwho]

Thanks for all the info Rubyfruit and Petrel

I do think that the club is the best way for us to start out. Maybe next weekend we will try one out.

I did like your comment Rubyfruit:
"While many of the women who swing are bi (or come to be),"
I would like that

I will post on our first time, good or bad

Thanks Again!