Questioning my sexuality...

[OneColdMonkey]

You'll have to excuse me if I ramble. I'm a bit.... Under the wisdom of plant.

Okay, check this out. I'm a straight guy. ...Maybe. I like women. I LOVE women. But I am very much analy fixated... A true fetish, you might say. That's right, I can't cum if the girl ain't got an asshole. That's creepy. Seriously though, I love anal sex and rimming, and have no problem if a girl wants to fuck me with a strap-on, fist me... Hey, whatever, it's a party. If she wanted me to give the strapon a blowjob, I'd do it. And I'd suck a real dick and fuck a guy or let a guy fuck me... But I'm not attracted to men. At least, not any I've seen. (Maybe Sean Connery?) But if he looked like a girl, but still had the male genitalia, I could still be attracted to them. I've masturbated over ladyboys before. (And some straight gay buttfucking, without any faces or anything, just a closeup.) But... I dunno. I'm down with male genitalia, but not the males. What's up with that? Am I bi?

Again, really sorry about the ramble and I'm sure the grammar. I needed maybe a smidge of courage to post this. It's the first I've ever talked about it.

 

[Raimondin]

You'll have to excuse me if I ramble. I'm a bit.... Under the wisdom of plant.

Okay, check this out. I'm a straight guy. ...Maybe. I like women. I LOVE women. But I am very much analy fixated... A true fetish, you might say. That's right, I can't cum if the girl ain't got an asshole. That's creepy. Seriously though, I love anal sex and rimming, and have no problem if a girl wants to fuck me with a strap-on, fist me... Hey, whatever, it's a party. If she wanted me to give the strapon a blowjob, I'd do it. And I'd suck a real dick and fuck a guy or let a guy fuck me... But I'm not attracted to men. At least, not any I've seen. (Maybe Sean Connery?) But if he looked like a girl, but still had the male genitalia, I could still be attracted to them. I've masturbated over ladyboys before. (And some straight gay buttfucking, without any faces or anything, just a closeup.) But... I dunno. I'm down with male genitalia, but not the males. What's up with that? Am I bi?

Again, really sorry about the ramble and I'm sure the grammar. I needed maybe a smidge of courage to post this. It's the first I've ever talked about it.

First of all Welcome. Well, you 'did' mention you had somewhat of an attraction to Sean Connery, but at the same time you state you're fixated with male genitalia, even willling to blow and get fucked by a strapon, but then more in the form of "ladyboys" (as you call them) or trannies. My question to you then is have you ever actually 'attemped' to have sex with a man? I'm a gay man, (and I'm certainly not the "bi" expert here ), but in my humble opinion it sounds like maybe it's time you approach the idea of trying it. You're "are" attracted to male genitalia, so that's definitely a start. And maybe break the ice here once and for all, and break down this sort of 'cycle' of denial. There are a lot of Bi people in this forum who can probably give you a lot more 'clarity' than I can.......But in my opinion?....I think Yes...

 

[OneColdMonkey]

Hey, ladyboy is a technical term. Really. ...I heard it on TV.

And no, I haven't really tried anything with any males... I don't know any gay guys, and the one time I went to a gay club in town there didn't seem to be any takers... (Of course, my friend outed me as straight during the drag queen review... I couldn't believe it. Outed in a gay club. )

 

[Etoile]

Personally, I'd say you're a straight guy who knows what he likes: a woman with a strap-on. There's no reason to think that just because you love cock means you're bi. Hell, I'm a dyke, and I like cock too. I just don't like the real thing attached to somebody! So you know what you like: being penetrated, giving fellatio...and women. But if you don't like guys, then you're probably not bi.

 

[John Doe]

Personally, I'd say you're a straight guy who knows what he likes: a woman with a strap-on. There's no reason to think that just because you love cock means you're bi. Hell, I'm a dyke, and I like cock too. I just don't like the real thing attached to somebody! So you know what you like: being penetrated, giving fellatio...and women. But if you don't like guys, then you're probably not bi.

I concur.

 

[Kincky_McFeely]

Very, very interesting to hear this. I'm in a bit the same position myself. I don't know if I'm bi or what either. I would love to try it with a guy, or more accurately with some cock, but I don't want a relationship with a guy and don't look at guys and think, 'wow, he's hot'.

I too went to a gay bar and got nothing. When I was a teenager and in my early twenties I guess I was boyishly pretty because I always got hit on by gay men. It never bothered me, was kind of flattering actually.

The closest I've actually come was in a threesome with a girl and another guy. She was taking us both at once and our cocks were rubbing together through her and our balls were slapping together. Wow, I get hard just thinking about that.

So I don't know what I actually am, not that it would make a difference if there was some name for it. I'll continue to enjoy women, but if that opportunity comes along again I'll try to grab the cock.

McFeely

 

[OneColdMonkey]

Personally, I'd say you're a straight guy who knows what he likes: a woman with a strap-on. There's no reason to think that just because you love cock means you're bi. Hell, I'm a dyke, and I like cock too. I just don't like the real thing attached to somebody! So you know what you like: being penetrated, giving fellatio...and women. But if you don't like guys, then you're probably not bi.

That's what I've pretty much always thought. But I just wonder... If I like the phallus, does that say something? After all, it isn't really as easy as 'gay' or 'straight'. Few people are purely one or the other. It's more of a 1-10 scale...

...Okay, so I guess I'm just at the point of the scale where I enjoy cock, but I'm attracted to women. I guess nobody ever said life had to make sense! Maybe I should stop thinking about it, and just start having fun with it if I ever meet a girl who's down.

EDIT- But, if I ever did meet a guy I was attracted to, I'd totally go for it. I think part of my confusion may just be the fact that I haven't experimented?

 

[Raimondin]

That's what I've pretty much always thought. But I just wonder... If I like the phallus, does that say something? After all, it isn't really as easy as 'gay' or 'straight'. Few people are purely one or the other. It's more of a 1-10 scale...

...Okay, so I guess I'm just at the point of the scale where I enjoy cock, but I'm attracted to women. I guess nobody ever said life had to make sense! Maybe I should stop thinking about it, and just start having fun with it if I ever meet a girl who's down.

EDIT- But, if I ever did meet a guy I was attracted to, I'd totally go for it. I think part of my confusion may just be the fact that I haven't experimented?

Yeah, that's exactly what I meant in my first post. That maybe it 'was' time you did experiment. And sorry if I came on or sounded presumptuous...You say that "few people are purely one or the other"...Well, believe me, I'm 110% Gay, from day one!...At one point in my life I had actually wished I 'was' bi-sexual, it might have been a little easier for me to meet the rest of the world half way. So I experimented. Meaning, I tried being with a woman or women a few times or more and so help me I couldn't get the fucking dick up had you given me two viagras...In the end we always ended up talking about window treatments or slipcovers or whatever....In my case it wasn't because I was in doubt of my sexuality, but more of just playing around on my curiousity. But I 'still' had to do it. Know what I mean? And I stopped trying to make it "make sense", as you stated above...I don't know if this gay man's 'one-sided' perspective will help you, but I think you're probably right! Just start having fun with it...

 

[OneColdMonkey]

No offense, don't worry about it. ^^

Ah well. Too bad I don't know any guys who'd be in to it.

I don't think I could ever actually get into a relationship with a guy though. (Not denying the possibility, just saying I can't see it from here.) It'd have to be all about the sex. (That would be one nice thing about other guys. Talk about having the same agenda. ) Also, I've heard that a lot of gay guys are either just the 'pitcher' or the 'catcher'. I'd want both! I don't see how you can both have the same equipment and not want to do the same things with it! ;-)

 

[Raimondin]

No offense, don't worry about it. ^^

Ah well. Too bad I don't know any guys who'd be in to it.

I don't think I could ever actually get into a relationship with a guy though. (Not denying the possibility, just saying I can't see it from here.) It'd have to be all about the sex. (That would be one nice thing about other guys. Talk about having the same agenda. ) Also, I've heard that a lot of gay guys are either just the 'pitcher' or the 'catcher'. I'd want both! I don't see how you can both have the same equipment and not want to do the same things with it! ;-)

Yeah, Ok that's cool....Anything is possible, but whether it's probable is another story. But you definitely heard Wrong re gay guys being either just the "pitcher" or the "catcher" ....Which I think you meant either "Top" or "Bottom"We're also both...And we do "get both"....Called "Versatile" in gay language...But no offense taken...

 

[OneColdMonkey]

But no offense taken... [/B]

Well, that's good. The last thing I wanna do is come in here and piss a bunch of people off. ^^;;;

And I always did think that sounded kinda silly. Glad to know it's not true.

"Alright, flip over! It's my turn."
"Nuh-uh, honey. It's over."
"But... My turn!"
"That WAS your turn!"
"I thought that was YOUR turn."
"You're not very good at this whole gay thing, are you."

Just didn't ring true to me. ;-)

 

[TexFriend]

You'll have to excuse me if I ramble. I'm a bit.... Under the wisdom of plant.

Okay, check this out. I'm a straight guy. ...Maybe. I like women. I LOVE women. But I am very much analy fixated... A true fetish, you might say. That's right, I can't cum if the girl ain't got an asshole. That's creepy. Seriously though, I love anal sex and rimming, and have no problem if a girl wants to fuck me with a strap-on, fist me... Hey, whatever, it's a party. If she wanted me to give the strapon a blowjob, I'd do it. And I'd suck a real dick and fuck a guy or let a guy fuck me... But I'm not attracted to men. At least, not any I've seen. (Maybe Sean Connery?) But if he looked like a girl, but still had the male genitalia, I could still be attracted to them. I've masturbated over ladyboys before. (And some straight gay buttfucking, without any faces or anything, just a closeup.) But... I dunno. I'm down with male genitalia, but not the males. What's up with that? Am I bi?

Again, really sorry about the ramble and I'm sure the grammar. I needed maybe a smidge of courage to post this. It's the first I've ever talked about it.

I'm pretty much in the same boat you are. My gf and I have great sex, but often I catch myself fantasizing about cock. Often she comes home and feels like dominating me in bed which means the vibrator comes out to play. She'll fuck herself with the vibrator, and then make me lick it clean. Then she'll lube up my ass and fuck me with it while I orally please her. When all this is going on...I keep wishing it was a real cock and not a plastic toy.

A few years ago a guy I met on the net came over to my house so that I could experiment with these feelings. When we made it into the bedroom...he stripped me naked to give me a massage. He then turned me over, and started kissing me passionately. (sp?) Feeling his cock and naked body on me made me so hot. I rolled him over and took his cock in my mouth, and I loved every second of it. My girl roomate came home early, and I freaked out...so that's as far as it went. I've never tried to get together with a man since then, and haven't even spoken about it with anyone until now.

 

[Asuede]

Straight guy that enjoys male gentalia

Sort of sounds like a hot bed of apathy--in other words two things together that don't make sense. Instead of straight just say very sexual. A clit is a smaller version of a cock but it doesn't ejaculate. Being sexual doesn't mean you have to want another man to be married too and raise children with. It means that you can enjoy sex with either gender. If you like pleasing other people then the cum merely serves as an indication the the other guy likes what you're doing. Kissing him and and sucking his nipples and rimming are all the things you do to be sexual. So straight and heterosexual are sort of misnomers unless you definitely want to spend a married life with the same sex. That seems to me to be an anomaly to existence and life. We do have people that figure they are truly gay and want marry someomne of their own sex. It's alright. Most everyone else to one degree or another has to be just sexual to one degree or another; but still want a family or marriage between M and F. The reason guys like other guys to cum in their mouths and asses is that it makes them feel good to know they have made the guy cum in much the same way as when a woman moans and screams and scratches your back or humps your cok into their mouths asses or pussies and why they like to feel your cum and taste it as well. Swallowing is a gesture to the person cumming that the person sucking likes making you feel wanted. Then too, I guess the texture an d taste becomes part of being sexual. Don't worry about calling yourself straight and wanting to suck and fuck cock as well as clit. Do it because you like it and quit being defensive about it. Men used to deny that they sucked clit and licked pussy because it wasn't considered manly. Now if you don't suck clit you don't have a girlfriend. Men use to call other men who ate pussy "MUFF Divers" derisively. Now it is the mark of real manliness to be an artist in giving head to women. Times change as well as attitudes. Most womren would love to have two guys at once and should care less who sucks whom as long as they all enjoy the sex and she gets the added pleasure of a doublet.

 

[glnsveo]

But I'm not attracted to men. At least, not any I've seen.

i've never been in the same position as you are talking about but... i used to fantasize about getting rimmed and maybe a finger in my butt with my ex wife. i never thought about being gay or bi or anything other than a "normal" straight guy. i'm not saying i found it repulsive, it just never crossed my mind. after we seperated i started meeting new people and came across someone who is now a very dear friend. one day we were just conversating and he looked at me in the most peculiar of ways without emphasizing it. i don't know if he was trying to or not...but he got to me. at that very moment i fell in love with him. unfortunatly that is something that can not be, but it opened a very interesting door to my life. all it took was that one look from him and my feelings about other guys and sex is totally changed. now i find myself looking at guys and rating them...lol.

 

[Etoile]

I love all the great answers flying around this thread!

"You're not very good at this whole gay thing, are you."

bwahaha!

 

[Kincky_McFeely]

"You're not very good at this whole gay thing, are you."

Hehe. that's how I felt when I was in the gay bar.

 

[John Doe]

Hehe. that's how I felt when I was in the gay bar.

I still say you're that mailman from Mr. Rogers' Neighborhood.

 

[toey2]

the only way you can tell if your bi is if you try it. then youll know

 

[John Doe]

the only way you can tell if your bi is if you try it. then youll know

Or twice even. The first time might be a fluke either way.

 

[Raimondin]

Well, that's good. The last thing I wanna do is come in here and piss a bunch of people off. ^^;;;

And I always did think that sounded kinda silly. Glad to know it's not true.

"Alright, flip over! It's my turn."
"Nuh-uh, honey. It's over."
"But... My turn!"
"That WAS your turn!"
"I thought that was YOUR turn."
"You're not very good at this whole gay thing, are you."

Just didn't ring true to me. ;-)

No worries, Sean Connery was one of my pin-up guys when I was growing up.

 

[OneColdMonkey]

I love all the great answers flying around this thread!


bwahaha!

You are so cute. Can I just be a lesbian instead and forget all this mess?

 

[John Doe]

For the last day or so now, whenever I see this thread title, I picture this very nondescript guy with a sign around his neck that says "SEXUALITY." He's under hot lamps while two detectives interrogate him.

 

[Etoile]

You are so cute. Can I just be a lesbian instead and forget all this mess?

Heh! Thank you.

 

[Etoile]

You'll have to excuse me if I ramble. I'm a bit.... Under the wisdom of plant.

I only just caught this on the second reading. And may I just say...

WOO!

 

[OneColdMonkey]

Re: Re: Questioning my sexuality...

I only just caught this on the second reading. And may I just say...

WOO!

heehee. Yeah, I really just started smoking last summer. And I cried, where have you been all my life, you magnificent bastard!