Question

[Guest]

Hello, all. I have a question for you that will perhaps (ok, most likely) show just how new and perhaps naive I still am about sex, but as I don't know who else to ask, I thought I'd bring it here.

I was talking to the guy that I'm dating (we were exclusive, but broke up, but still intend to date and have sex when we're in the same state as we live pretty far apart) and he wants to know what he can do to be better in bed. He wants a secret that will drive women crazy and make them want to come back. He is very shy in bed, and never really talked about it with the other 2 women he's been with as they were prudes, I guess. Me, on the other hand, am not , so he always asks me stuff like this but I'm never sure what to tell him. I've been with only one other person (and I was his first as well), and although I'm open to a lot of things and read literotica all the time, I'm still not sure what exactly is the best thing to tell him. I'd love to make him more aggressive and less insecure in bed, as well, but that's difficult to do as I won't even see him again until March. One other thing, neither have brought me to orgasm. Just thought I'd throw that in there.

I'd appreciate any thoughts you might have for me.

 

[girl]

Tell him that the one 'secret' that will drive women wild in bed is an attentive partner. Someone who realizes that every woman is different, will react differently and will want different things. Someone who pays attention to her body, how her breathing picks up when he does certain things or how her tummy quivers when he touches that certain place.

I fooled around with one guy who had been told, apparently, that women just love to have someone blow in their ear. So he did. I think it's annoying (at best) and he just didn't get it, even when told.

Try to avoid that.

My .02,
girl

 

[funwdi]

I agree with girl. Tell him to watch body language and pay attention to every part of your body. Good advice, by the way.

 

[Aaron26]

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