Question, please

[mugman]

I'm threesome or moresome curious. To those that have experienced a 3 or moresome, my question - how was it the first time? Was it MMF or FFM or? With friends, loved ones, or strangers? Also if you enjoyed your experience, did you try to repeat? I guess what I'm asking is are you still wanting group or was it a one time thing? Is it soooo good that monogamy is not doable now? I'm really curious (& not getting any younger).

 

[mugman]

Appreciate any help.

If it's too personal you can PM me. Honestly curious in So Cal.

 

[gypsywitch]

I've talked an MMF of mine around here before. It was hot. The guys weren't into each other though. I didn't actually get off but I didn't care. They were very cool people and had a great time. There was an innocence about it for all of us. I'm not with either of those guys now.

 

[mugman]

Gypsywitch?

Perhaps you would enlighten me as a "haven't been there yet, hopefully" curious male. What I'm interested in, apparently the MMF met your desires, correct? My question is have you repeated or do you think that once was enough? Can you try a moresome & go back to one on one monogamy?

 

[gypsywitch]

Well that was many years ago and we didn't do it again. It was a spontaneous thing inspired by the three of us watching an old cowboy movie while eating popcorn on my waterbed. The great marijuana may have reduced our inhibitions somewhat.

There were some emotional issues after the fact that would make me hesitate perhaps. For one; we never talked about it much at all anytime afterwards. I think we all were processing who we were becoming or saw sides of ourselves that we didn't know very well. I was living with one of the guys and the other guy was my best friend. The best friend and I had never done anything sexual together before. Several months later when I broke up with that guy for completely different reasons, the best friend thought he'd be next up to bat. He was pretty bummed when I wasn't interested. We still remained great friends though and he ended up being the best man at my wedding to the man I'm with now.

So my main issue with a three-some in my future has to do with the emotional stability of all involved. My hope is to find a nice couple for some MFF fun which I've never enjoyed before. There are the pre-conversations involving everyone's medical status which to me... if people have a hard time talking about that or are shy about buying condoms or whatnot then its probably not the time yet.

I can't have anything that might threaten my income property or my family, so creating a situation with someone perhaps becoming obsessed is also a concern. My court mediation experience this year with a real stalker was not very satisfying since I can't get a restraining order against him because he hasn't done anything "bad enough" YET. That's the life I live now with a nut showing up too often. Its not a sexual issue that I'm aware of, but the guy has some weird head trips over race and I'm a performer of arts from the Middle East.

Sometimes I feel that the world is just too weird now and that I can't trust anyone anymore. Hope remains constant that the right people will come along. It almost happened last year, but things fell through due to the couple's need to relocate to the east coast very quickly. It was the first time I'd talked to a woman who was totally into me being with them. A guy friend here at Lit just dug me and he basically asked permission for us to be together and his wife said she didn't want miss out on the action.

My man now isn't into being with other people at all for these types of reasons, but I am "allowed" to pursue my freedom as long as we are being very safe. I think he has concerns about me forming a sexual relationship with a woman, but he hasn't openly voiced feeling threatened by it. His choice is to view or read porn that is more hard core than my tastes, though he appreciates that I am a very kinky girl.

 

[mugman]

Thank you gypsywitch

Thank you so much for the honest info. I'm in a relationship with a fine lady. She is not interested in women at all, but I still have a strong curiosity about 3 (or more) somes. My fantasy is two women & myself (but 2 men & 2 women would be nice, I'd consider 2 men & 1 lady also). I really want to try this, but not jeopardize my relationship. I would prefer that my SO be involved, but I don't know. I would never go behind her back (or put her in jeopardy healthwise), so my fantasy will remain just that for now. How did your SO deal with your desire for group? Is he present (or will he be)? Is one on one sex not enough for you now? Do you always think about more? Or wish for more? You also said your previous experience hasn't been repeated but you wish it to happen again - why? Also in the previous time the guys were not into each other, so they pleasured you (& you them), but they had no contact with each other? This was discussed before hand, or it just played out that way? Thanks agaian for thr honest info.

 

[Miss Oatlash]

Mutt and I have had one MMF, one MMFF, and one MFF. I know we'd both love more.

BUT...be honest with your SO about what expectations you have. You have to have a very secure and honest relationship with someone in order to do this without hurting each other.

Here's a few pics of our fun: Group Gropes

Good luck!

 

[Harrowborg]

when i was going out with my ex gf we had a mmf near to the end of our relationship, athough it wasn't for that reason. she wanted to try double penetration and she knew i was bi curious so invited a friend of hers to join us. it was a bit weird, simply cause it was all our first time trying it so didn't really know quite what to do. i guess some people like instinctively know and others don't. anyway, ended up doing double penetration which was interesting and i had a little kiss and cuddle with him. interesting experience. suppose the bonus point was when i was feeling a little tired could just lie back and let them get on with it while i had an occassional touch of the nearest fleshy part.

 

[gypsywitch]

Thank you so much for the honest info. I'm in a relationship with a fine lady.

Just keep on remembering how great she is.


She is not interested in women at all, but I still have a strong curiosity about 3 (or more) somes.

So you feel perfectly secure watching another man or woman have sex with her then. Maybe she could be coaxed into writing a story to turn you on or tell you about some fantasy she has. There are probably some films that aren't too hard core that would have something like that. See how she responds to the visuals. Tell her you think its exciting. Her response could vary from day to day.


I would never go behind her back (or put her in jeopardy healthwise), so my fantasy will remain just that for now.

That's the main deal right there. Men in particular, but woman too, enjoy some sort of fantasy life that isn't at all possible for various reasons. Sometimes it just not worth it to try it for real. Talking about some fantasy that couldn't be real is a fun way to get someone talking about things that may have elements of a real possiblity.


How did your SO deal with your desire for group? Is he present (or will he be)?

He was worried about it being with "total strangers." We don't have any close friends right now that we'd be willing to come out about this to. I'm more social whereas he's more private. He wouldn't be present and we agree that we can take care of our own body with respect when we have alone time. Anything that could cause some sort of harm is what is to be avoided.


Is one on one sex not enough for you now? Do you always think about more? Or wish for more?

Well he's a little older and has some aches and pains from past car accidents so he does the best he can with me. His alone time is understandable since he doesn't have to please anyone but himself. My alone time is something that has just evolved in the last couple of years. Its easy for sex to not be that big of a deal, but sometimes we just get the hornies.

Well... I gotta go for now.

 

[Nabokov]

I have had a few 3-somes. The first was a MFF where a couple girlfriends and I had some fun. It was fun but I kinda felt like I was on the outside looking in. One of my female friends was really interested in getting it on with the other.

Later, I hooked up with a married couple I know a few times. There I was more involved, although there was no MM activity.

Overall, I enjoyed both and would love to do it again. I agree with Mutt that you have to be careful that you have a solid relationship if you are doing it with your significant other.

 

[LemonClover]

Mutt and I have had one MMF, one MMFF, and one MFF. I know we'd both love more.

BUT...be honest with your SO about what expectations you have. You have to have a very secure and honest relationship with someone in order to do this without hurting each other.

Here's a few pics of our fun: Group Gropes

Good luck!

Those are amazing pictures.

I've never had a threesome, but I want to try it. I really like the idea of watching two bisexual men enjoy each other.

 

[gypsywitch]

Do you always think about more? Or wish for more?

As a woman I don't always think about more, but I do wish my man wasn't broken. My fantasies involve large, strong men with animal desire and beautiful women who look and act like women. The odds of finding a beautiful couple isn't very likely and I'm very much into personality and attitudes. I wish for a less uptight society since I am Pagan but disease is a realistic fear.


You also said your previous experience hasn't been repeated but you wish it to happen again - why?

The man I was with at the time didn't create an opportunity like that again and we just sort of laughed it off as a get drunk and screw experence. Soon after that I got into a twenty-two year long relationship with the man I'm with now. Though I was with a gorgeous man from Trinidad for a few months while we were seperated for a couple of years, that man and I were just animals and never even discussed other partners though he probably would have been into it. I've never really been all that into women sexually but am not grossed out by the thought of being with one. The right one hasn't hit on me yet and I've not tried to hook-up that way. Privacy is huge with me so...


Also in the previous time the guys were not into each other, so they pleasured you (& you them), but they had no contact with each other? This was discussed before hand, or it just played out that way? Thanks agaian for thr honest info.

Nope, nothing was discussed in advance and things just went from a tickle attack to my best friend saying he was getting turned on, to my man saying that my friend should take off his clothes, to us all ripping off our clothes. I went down on my friend and my guy did me from behind. My friend hadn't had oral ever and my guy got off on watching us as he pumped me. They both got off fairly close to each other and they did not made any attempt to pleasure me nor did I ask for it. It might have lasted a half hour total. We just sort of cleaned up and went about or business after that.

My fantasy could probably be found in great historic works of art. Healthy men and women bathing and lounging while feeding each other and taking on the various pleasures of the flesh.

*sigh* Sounds wonderful.

 

[mugman]

Exactly!

Thank you all for the answers & info, Gypsywitch, your last remark about art depicting enjoyment of the flesh sats it all. That's what I want to experience. I don't want to make love to someone other than my lady, but to experience a group enjoyment of the flesh. That does soung perfect!

I don't think I would have a problem with another man, per se. But, I would be hesitant to try penetration (either giving or receiving) with a guy. Anything else, I think would be possible. I would want my lady to be included (another woman would be great too). Not so much her being done by another man or woman, but what's good for the goose... I want her to have her fun too. All together!

It's too bad, gypsywitch, they didn't reciprocate in kind. But it seems this type of experience is sometimes not satisfying to all involved. Is that correct? Those that have experienced group, do you desire to repeat?

Thanks for any answers you can provide. I'm just an old late-blooming sex maniac in So.Cal.

 

[zartol]

Be Honest...

I have had a few relationships with married couples. And they have been excellent. The reason they were excellent is because we were all 'adults', in the same age group, and very honest with each other.

For my part, being bi, it was important to be with a couple who had at least bi on the male side (with a woman accepting this). Also we all needed a complete understanding of what the limits were... was anal okay with both, was there an understanding about safe sex, what was their resoning behind getting involved with another person, did they want someting ongoing or just a 'trial', and (important) how much experience did they have. Talk with both the man and the woman (or partners, whatever) so there is no misunderstanding. You must have ground rules or someone will get hurt or disappointed.

I have turned away from having a 3some because 'something' didn't seem right. This is a good thing. Don't force a situation. The right moment is truly worth it.

IMHO 3somes are very different than group sex (orgies). A lot of good info has been given by others. Heed it and enjoy.

 

[none2_none2]

I remember having an MMF when I was young. It was back when I was getting tired of the gay relationships being nothing but sex -- love/commitment seemed elusive. I had no experience with women as I guess I kind of saw them all as nuns. The story is interesting, but I'll cut to the chase.

The couple was like a short guy early 40's, the lady in her late 40's early 50's. I wouldn't call him bi even, he just LOVED touching, feeling, watching another penis in/on/around his wife. I tried fucking her, but it was difficult because I was so use to fucking a tight male ass. I can't judge all women on one experience, but it was SO loose that I just couldn't get off. I was nervous and would have liked to do a double vagina penetration, but it just didn't seem to work out. They still enjoyed having me around, but eventually I pulled out and let him fuck his wife.

I wish I could have fucked his ass while he was fucking his wife. I think she would have enjoyed that too. He was one of those DJ's at the races. Once he was in the saddle it was a sprint to the finish line. I think if I could have fucked him, I was large enough (stature not cock) that I could have slowed him down and gotten him to enjoy the trip -- not the rush to the finish line. At least in my 3m experiences, the top in the fucking would tended to mellow out once I either fingered him or mounted him which would keep him from that sprint mode that some guys get into at the beginning.

One question I would have would be do women really enjoy men that just sprint to the finish line from the moment they penetrate?

I'll never understand guys that prefer sucking over fucking. Perhaps it's those guys that rarely get off that can enjoy it. For me, I cannot stand when they get tired after a few minutes of sucking and start to use their teeth. Also, you can't bottom out much because the guy cannot breath. Also, I'm not a jack rabbit. I just cannot see how some guys can stand getting their face pounded. You'd think it would break their nose. Don't get me wrong, oral is very erotic; it's just not orgasmic. Nothing for me could ever beat the sensation of a guys ass contracting around my cock as he gets off at the same time either spontaneously, or by a hand or another orafice of either gender. If I were single and looking, that would be the kind of MMF I think would be the hottest.

I would also agree with zartol about 3-ways not always feeling right. With my past experiences with 3M, the best ones were where all three were strangers. It just seemed for me that lots of them were the other two were a couple, you run the risk that someone might get a little emotionally hurt. I guess it just depends on how open an honest the couple part of a trio is.

 

[mugman]

Good info...

Much good information. Thanks again to all that have responded. My choice would be a FFM ideally, I'm not seeking another guy. But I'm not hypocritical either. I'm just very curious. Sex was always a 'chore' with my ex, but after 10 yrs. of celibacy & a new lady... WOW! I really luv my lady, she rocks my world, but I just want to try whatever. Does that make sense? I guess it will remain a fantasy, as my SO is not so inclined (& again I won't go behind her back or jeopardize our relationship in any way). Anyone fulfilled their fantasy & were disappointed? What problems arose? It seems to be more of a spontaeous happening, not planned? I guess I don't hang in those circles, I just can't see those circumstances coming together with anyone I know now. How does one meet those so inclined? Thanks for any light you can shed.

 

[mugman]

Bump for more experiences, please

If you've had the good fortune to actually experience a three or moresome, any real life experiences you can share would be greatly appreciated. I guess the fantasy is soooo good I want to hear the reality. Thanks for any more help you can lend.