question on anal

[bigdave1961]

I would love for my wife to use a starp on me. What are the ways to get her to? What ways are ther to keep it clean while doing it?

 

[artsmom]

Are you talking about a strap on and mistyped it?

 

[SweetErika]

Have you asked if she'd be interested in trying it?

There's no way to "get" someone to do something they're not up to, unless you force/coerce them, and that's likely to ruin your relationship.

As for keeping clean, we've never had a problem. We only do anal play when the person has had a bowel movement earlier in the day, and use plenty of lube when we do. We also use condoms for easy clean up.

 

[Mansa Musa]

I would love for my wife to use a starp on me. What are the ways to get her to? What ways are ther to keep it clean while doing it?

Piss her off enough, and her eyes will light up when she sees you holding a bottle of lube and a strap-on.

 

[Yang4yin]

If you're concerned about staying clean, there are 2 basic approaches: condoms or enemas. If you don't like the idea of having the enema beforehand, put a condom on the strap-on.

The timing will also have an impact on whether there's anything "dirty" inside you. Except for about an hour before a bowel movement, you should be safe.

Use plenty of water-based lube!

 

[helix27]

Piss her off enough, and her eyes will light up when she sees you holding a bottle of lube and a strap-on.

haha that made me chuckle.

 

[bigdave1961]

Thanks Erika , i have thought about showing a video with girls doing guys to she what she thinks. Any thoughts on that? She has used a finger on me while giveing me head. But ill try talking to her.

 

[helix27]

maybe after a session when she has used a finger on you bring up the fact that you enjoy that stimulation... and ask her what she would think of using a strap on with you. let her know its something that you would like to try. wait till after the session though. when you two are done and laying there togther.

 

[SweetErika]

Thanks Erika , i have thought about showing a video with girls doing guys to she what she thinks. Any thoughts on that? She has used a finger on me while giveing me head. But ill try talking to her.

Talking, rather than showing her porn, would be my approach, but you know her best, obviously.

Also, you may want to start with a butt plug or anal vibe, rather than a strap-on/dildo. Maybe ask her how she'd feel about getting some anal toys for you (and for her, if she likes anal stimulation herself; unless the toys can be sterilized by boiling/dishwasher or a bleach solution, or you use a condom every time, you can't use them on both of you). A strap-on can be intimidating and difficult to use for some - it's more of an advanced toy, in my mind.

 

[A_Kefka]

If she is cool with fingering you then she knows you like the feel and is ok with that. You should just talk to her about it. Also, if she isn't into the idea right away, might make her more comfortable if you just did toys first and worked up to the strap-on, but you would know better how she would react.

 

[alltherage]

Ask her?

 

[AlecBond]

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