Question, Men - pleasure vs orgasm

[Oldscallywag]

Hi

Well I reeckon as long as she has had pleasure I can - and have coped without but would rather not!

Of course guys can "cum" without orgasm u know

xxc

 

[Jenny _S]

Come on. The answer is simple if you look at the question in it's simplest form : Is cumming the same thing as pleasure?

Well, did it feel good? Then the answer is YES!

 

[SkyyAngel]

Re: SkyyAngel...

well, if u lived closer, I wud've loved to find out if it's indeed me or if you're just really good..

of course, u wudn't go back unsatisfied either..

Heh heh....thanks senator.

I've always wondered about that though. I mean...I've nevr recieved head so I have no clue if I can actually cum from just that or not. I KNOW it'll be real pleasurable...but don't know if I can orgasm. I mean, when I mastrubate I usually have to get my dildo out and put it in as well as fingering my clit to get me off. Not necessarily hitting my g-spot or anything...just something filling me. So...still curious as to whether I can cum from oral sex just as I'm curious about why some guys can't cum during oral. Like I said...is it really that big of a (epidemic) problem??

 

[wideeyedgrin]

Re: Giving head and no orgasm...?

I've given head to 4 different guys and I've been able to get them all off every single time. (Not all at once though...not THAT kinky!! ) Is it really that big of a problem or am I just really great at giving head?

I think its more of a timing thing than anything else. Maybe its a technique also.

 

[cinnpanabar]

Interesting subject. I used to just enjoy getting head as foreplay as I never could cum from it. I always had success giving head and have gotten quite good. That was until I met a woman, who taught me that it's all in the technique. She was so good she could pull me through orgasm after orgasm. I would better her money she couldn't arouse me after exhaustion had set in and she not only did, but forced me to come. All orally. She was incredible. I suspect it's a talent you have to learn. Perhaps...want to learn.

 

[Oldscallywag]

Re: Re: SkyyAngel...

Heh heh....thanks senator.

I've always wondered about that though. I mean...I've nevr recieved head so I have no clue if I can actually cum from just that or not. I KNOW it'll be real pleasurable...but don't know if I can orgasm. I mean, when I mastrubate I usually have to get my dildo out and put it in as well as fingering my clit to get me off. Not necessarily hitting my g-spot or anything...just something filling me. So...still curious as to whether I can cum from oral sex just as I'm curious about why some guys can't cum during oral. Like I said...is it really that big of a (epidemic) problem??

SkyyAngel there is definitely something wrong with your technique!

If you have given good head to 4 guys and never had ut in return there is something very wrong!! Can I volunteer?

Go for it Angel

XXC

 

[SkyyAngel]

Ha ha nope there's nothing wrong with my technique.

One guy was just an asshole and wouldn't do that sorta thing anyway...said it was gross cause that was where I got my period and all that. Yeah...he only got head once and I never touched him after that. Idiot.

Another guy offered but I was extremely uncomfortable about it and didn't get much further than kissing around my belly button before I made him stop.

All in all I think it's just been the men I've been picking rather than my technique. Although...I think I've gotten better at picking them cause this one seems to be a real keeper!! And he'll definately get the pleasure of popping that cherry as well as that pesky backdoor cherry I've been trying to get rid of.

 

[Oldscallywag]

So the position is filled?

That is a damn shame!!

XXC

 

[deyv]

Having sex, oral or otherwise, without getting to experience the orgasm is like having a rollar coaster ride break down while you're climbing the hill.

That being said, I enjoy concentrating on bringing her to orgasm before I concentrate on my cumming myself.

 

[sexplorer35]

I think the orgasm is only as important as you let it be. I was with a girl a few years ago, and we'd already had a couple each. We were going at it for a third time and I realized I wasn't going to be able to cum again (that doesn't happen often!) so I just concentrated all of my efforts on her. In the end, she was close and was begging me to cum. For the only time in my life, I faked it (I was wearing a condom) and she went right over the edge. Her pleasure was most important to me, and if that was what she wanted, I wanted to accommodate her.

 

[Jaded1]

I was reading through MistressRain's "another question" thread, and it seems as though most people answering were saying that they didn't like head because they didn't cum?

Does anyone think that pleasure is synonymous with orgasm? Who out there doesn't enjoy a good romp unless they climax?

-Chicklet

Hi, Chicklet...

Being a sensualist by nature I have learned that pleasure is souly in the mind! The erogenous zones on the body are merely sensors that record stimulation providing the mind with pleasure. Is it necessary to reach climax while enjoying pleasure? The answer is no! However, if you are deliberately taking a lover to extreme pleasure. Once her body tighten and she starts trembling violent you pretty much can be assured that she is on her way to her first orgasm... The true fun is when you hold her right there on the very edge. Her mined drowding in the pleasure her body is experiencing. Unable to re gain control as you take her from one orgasm to the next for hours on end. After as she lies there in your arms you get to feel the numerous mini orgasm her body reacts to as the mind re lives what just
happened ....

I repeat it is not necessary to reach orgasm to experience pleasure...

However, if I stopped cold in my tracks right before any of the female lovers I have know had the opportunity to cum. I would be very affraid to close my eyes when I went to sleep....

Jaded1, CT

PS. Why wouldn't you want to drive a partner staight up the walls....

 

[BirdsWife]

Re: Re: Question, Men - pleasure vs orgasm

Being a sensualist by nature I have learned that pleasure is souly in the mind! The erogenous zones on the body are merely sensors that record stimulation providing the mind with pleasure. Is it necessary to reach climax while enjoying pleasure? The answer is no! However, if you are deliberately taking a lover to extreme pleasure. Once her body tighten and she starts trembling violent you pretty much can be assured that she is on her way to her first orgasm... The true fun is when you hold her right there on the very edge. Her mined drowding in the pleasure her body is experiencing. Unable to re gain control as you take her from one orgasm to the next for hours on end. After as she lies there in your arms you get to feel the numerous mini orgasm her body reacts to as the mind re lives what just
happened ....

What a great post to wake up to.

 

[Jaded1]

Re: Re: Re: Question, Men - pleasure vs orgasm

What a great post to wake up to.

Then there is always the morning after replay...

But, I think that's a nice subject for another thread...

Jaded1, CT

 

[ApplesMcgee]

good question...

.....

 

[Rubber Biscuit]

Re: good question...

In all honesty, as long as she enjoys her experience, then I'm all good. Making my woman orgasm is better for me to feel than my own. Don't get me wrong, it still feels good in the end, but I enjoy feeling and watching hers much more.

I have had many encounters that I did not get myself off. Sometimes I even prefer to save it up, when I know we are having another chance at it later. Makes for bigger explosions sometimes

PowrDragn

I absolutely agree with you. Being the reason that SHE gets off is an enormous turnon. Heck, if she gets off once or several times, and I don't, even though it's okay with me, she'll want to reciprocate. Mutually enjoyable guilt has its benefits, too!

 

[James G 5]

Well, I seem to get a LOT of sex or sex play but hardly EVER get to get off, for one reason or another
I have trouble getting off from head, but a LOT of the reason is that most of my PARTNERS seem to have issues with doing it or getting me off by it & I have a complex now
And it seems that I meet people who like to tease but not carry thru
And that I run in to people who like to get off but not give in return

So I can enjoy the hell out of an encounter WITHOUT having an orgasm

But GODDAMN, once in a while it would be NICE

Ok, a LITTLE more often than once in a while

Once in a while is OK for pleasure without

And where the hell are the women who like to suck a guy till he cums & let him KNOW it, huh????