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Ms. ELL said:
No one answer for this.
Some guys are mostly talk and frightened by a woman who knows what she wants.
Some guys would be thrilled......... (me!)
As far as the old sex partner, depends on how you used to talk before. If you were direct, be direct... Tell him he still turns you on and you would jump him anytime!! That will eat away at his mind, and crotch for a while!
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and to add to that a few cents worth more
As stated talk. But not just that you still find him atractive and desirable, but tell him exactly what's on your mind and don't leave any room for doubt, that I feel goes for every women and men as well. For the most part each feels that if we speak of what we want or want to try that something is going to offend or raise doubt in the others eye so we go thru life remaining quiet and that is a huge mistake I feel.
Also share that fantasy(s). If you want spanked, a 3some, bondage or whatever it is, tell him cause he might very well have the same ones, and then you can decide to keep them as a fantasy or maybe live them out. Along that line, should either have a fantasy that the other doesn't share, try and be open enough to at least play into it during sex cause afterall it's just a fantasy so if he wants you with another women, talk about it during sex, tell him you'd suck her nipples or whatever and let him hear your voice say it cause if this is one of his just get ready for a wild ride. Same thing if he ask if you have one and you say you wanted another guy at the same. Maybe hell would freeze over before it would actually happen but hearing your voice talk about it in the heat of passion could result in a mind blowing orgasm for you both.
To many people say that love will keep a relationship together that "it's more important then the sex, well that's bullship. If the sex isn't good someone is going to go looking.
And do you have and/or use adult toys? Do you let him help use them on you? To many guys fear toys and feel lacking if their used, and that too is bullshit. Don't hide them if you do, bring them out and get him involved, and talk, never forget to talk.
As stated talk. But not just that you still find him atractive and desirable, but tell him exactly what's on your mind and don't leave any room for doubt, that I feel goes for every women and men as well. For the most part each feels that if we speak of what we want or want to try that something is going to offend or raise doubt in the others eye so we go thru life remaining quiet and that is a huge mistake I feel.
Also share that fantasy(s). If you want spanked, a 3some, bondage or whatever it is, tell him cause he might very well have the same ones, and then you can decide to keep them as a fantasy or maybe live them out. Along that line, should either have a fantasy that the other doesn't share, try and be open enough to at least play into it during sex cause afterall it's just a fantasy so if he wants you with another women, talk about it during sex, tell him you'd suck her nipples or whatever and let him hear your voice say it cause if this is one of his just get ready for a wild ride. Same thing if he ask if you have one and you say you wanted another guy at the same. Maybe hell would freeze over before it would actually happen but hearing your voice talk about it in the heat of passion could result in a mind blowing orgasm for you both.
To many people say that love will keep a relationship together that "it's more important then the sex, well that's bullship. If the sex isn't good someone is going to go looking.
And do you have and/or use adult toys? Do you let him help use them on you? To many guys fear toys and feel lacking if their used, and that too is bullshit. Don't hide them if you do, bring them out and get him involved, and talk, never forget to talk.
Ms. ELL said:
It is a major turn on for me but there are men that like to stick to the basics and don't feel comfortable exploring.
As far as how to tell him? Get a chance to talk to him, mention how much you missed your play with him. That will sure do it unless he's either totally stupid...or does not want to pursue that again for whatever reason.
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It's a turn on for me. As far as the ex sex partner goes, just let him know you would like to re-live some of the sexapades from the past and take it from there.
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originally posted by Ms. ELL
Thats a tough one ELL! My best advice is be honest! Just tell the person your still interested! In my case I'm a guy who loves trying anything at least once and it dosent bother me to let the ladie lead the way. Why havent guys figured out this is so much easier to figure out what your partner likes! So like is said be honest and open if the person rejects you it probably not ment to be!! If they are you are in for a good time!!!
originally posted by Ms. ELL
Thats a tough one ELL! My best advice is be honest! Just tell the person your still interested! In my case I'm a guy who loves trying anything at least once and it dosent bother me to let the ladie lead the way. Why havent guys figured out this is so much easier to figure out what your partner likes! So like is said be honest and open if the person rejects you it probably not ment to be!! If they are you are in for a good time!!!
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originally posted by Ms. ELL
Thats a tough one ELL! My best advice is be honest! Just tell the person your still interested! In my case I'm a guy who loves trying anything at least once and it dosent bother me to let the ladie lead the way. Why havent guys figured out this is so much easier to figure out what your partner likes! So like is said be honest and open if the person rejects you it probably not ment to be!! If they are you are in for a good time!!!
originally posted by Ms. ELL
Thats a tough one ELL! My best advice is be honest! Just tell the person your still interested! In my case I'm a guy who loves trying anything at least once and it dosent bother me to let the ladie lead the way. Why havent guys figured out this is so much easier to figure out what your partner likes! So like is said be honest and open if the person rejects you it probably not ment to be!! If they are you are in for a good time!!!
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originally posted by Ms. ELL
Thats a tough one ELL! My best advice is be honest! Just tell the person your still interested! In my case I'm a guy who loves trying anything at least once and it dosent bother me to let the ladie lead the way. Why havent guys figured out this is so much easier to figure out what your partner likes! So like is said be honest and open if the person rejects you it probably not ment to be!! If they are you are in for a good time!!!
originally posted by Ms. ELL
Thats a tough one ELL! My best advice is be honest! Just tell the person your still interested! In my case I'm a guy who loves trying anything at least once and it dosent bother me to let the ladie lead the way. Why havent guys figured out this is so much easier to figure out what your partner likes! So like is said be honest and open if the person rejects you it probably not ment to be!! If they are you are in for a good time!!!
For me a sexually aggressive woman is a huge turn on. She is someone you can talk dirty to in the supermarket and give you a great blow job in the parking lot because she was so turned on. I prefer someone that has some sexual curiousity.
On your second question. First you tell the guy he can still get some and wait for him to come sniffing around. If he doesn't or takes too long forget about him.
On your second question. First you tell the guy he can still get some and wait for him to come sniffing around. If he doesn't or takes too long forget about him.
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Well Ell he probably is a jerk, but I know more than a few women that find it difficult to walk completely away from some good D. Guys too I might add. Personally I have had a couple of encounters that were on that level. I actually have to give them credit for making me a better lover. Only you know how much you can tolerate.
Also I would say that if you have to work at being aggressive, that probably isn't your style. I am only guessing here but I would say as you get older you will become more comfortable with what YOU want from a lover and you won't have a problem asking for or taking it.
Well Ell he probably is a jerk, but I know more than a few women that find it difficult to walk completely away from some good D. Guys too I might add. Personally I have had a couple of encounters that were on that level. I actually have to give them credit for making me a better lover. Only you know how much you can tolerate.
Also I would say that if you have to work at being aggressive, that probably isn't your style. I am only guessing here but I would say as you get older you will become more comfortable with what YOU want from a lover and you won't have a problem asking for or taking it.
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Turn on!
Set the mood, show him what you want, ask him to perform these different tasks, I've always enjoyed it when my sex partner takes control
I understand that everybody is different, but surely you know how to get his attention provided you've known him for a while
Set the mood, show him what you want, ask him to perform these different tasks, I've always enjoyed it when my sex partner takes control
I understand that everybody is different, but surely you know how to get his attention provided you've known him for a whileSappholovers
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Brief answers
Internet correspondence led to one of my favorite "oasis moments" with a woman.... She wrote me soon before we met that she wanted to be a "wet, willing, playground" for me. The words hit me in the spine and gave me a surge all through my body. We had both opened up to each other so completely through words..... and when we did meet, it was intensely beautiful and joyous. I felt her willingness, her wantonness to offer herself up completely to me, every which way, any way I wanted, and I was just as open to her. Beyond chemistry, it was alchemy: a moment when I felt sex transformed into a mystical and magical power.
Regarding sex with an old lover: Yes, be honest....and make confessions. Confess about your favorite time in bed with the person. Recall and describe the details.... with feelings, not just physical descriptions. Look the person in the eye and tell him or her that you want to go beyond them moment...or be taken beyond it.
Internet correspondence led to one of my favorite "oasis moments" with a woman.... She wrote me soon before we met that she wanted to be a "wet, willing, playground" for me. The words hit me in the spine and gave me a surge all through my body. We had both opened up to each other so completely through words..... and when we did meet, it was intensely beautiful and joyous. I felt her willingness, her wantonness to offer herself up completely to me, every which way, any way I wanted, and I was just as open to her. Beyond chemistry, it was alchemy: a moment when I felt sex transformed into a mystical and magical power.
Regarding sex with an old lover: Yes, be honest....and make confessions. Confess about your favorite time in bed with the person. Recall and describe the details.... with feelings, not just physical descriptions. Look the person in the eye and tell him or her that you want to go beyond them moment...or be taken beyond it.
