Question for the Ladies

[Funsex3232]

My question is for all of the ladies posting on literotica! I would love to read a verity of answers from multiply women views on introducing anal sex to a relationship. I am hoping to receive responses from the complete women’s view spectrum ranging from the ladies who lust for anal sex from their partners to women who do it for the enjoyment it brings their man. I’m equally looking forward to women responses who feel its best to avoid that area of the body while having sex as well as ladies who desire anal sex but are not willing to initiate it.

Let’s acknowledge there is no right or wrong answer and everybody relationship is different. Can we except everybody in the relationship is in agreement and nobody is getting hurt or doing anything against their will. Moving past there is no such thing as “the correct time,” but just what’s “correct for the relationship.” I also understand looking back at my relationships I was more satisfied with a like minded women then I was with a women who wanted something different. However I can’t go around introducing myself to women and for my first question ask them if they can orgasm from anal. So I want to hear what you ladies think about it!

For me personally, every since I began fantasizing about sex I have always found anal sex to be the most erotic and exciting. I’m assuming, in the majority of women’s relationship anal sex is either enjoyed, introduced, discussed, or denied. Does how quickly your man introduces anal sex have the potential to be a deal breaker for the ladies who would like to avoid that area of the body while having sex? In my experience women who lust for it will ask for it the first time we have sex. However, I’m so curious to hear from a multiple women’s point of view, when women feel it would be, too soon, or the “normal” time, or too late to introduce anal sex in a new relationship.

 

[PixelPrincess]

Well, for me, I've always been extremely open minded to all things sexual. When my husband first brought it up years ago, I didn't really have any feelings one way or another, but wanted to make him happy. Since then, it is something I lust after. It is so erotic and feels so damn good! I absolutely love it and love it even more when the man praises me about my open mindedness regarding the issue. There's something incredibly erotic about seeing a man so enthralled with the idea of fucking my ass. I can't explain it. Maybe it's the taboo of the subject, or the fact that so many women are so close minded about it, I'm not sure. But simply put, I love it and can't get enough

As far as introduction of the idea, I'm not sure there is a right time, it just needs to be brought up in conversation about what your partner enjoys or dislikes sexually. It should never, however, be brought up DURING sex!

 

[NomadLady]

Well, for me, I've always been extremely open minded to all things sexual. When my husband first brought it up years ago, I didn't really have any feelings one way or another, but wanted to make him happy. Since then, it is something I lust after. It is so erotic and feels so damn good! I absolutely love it and love it even more when the man praises me about my open mindedness regarding the issue. There's something incredibly erotic about seeing a man so enthralled with the idea of fucking my ass. I can't explain it. Maybe it's the taboo of the subject, or the fact that so many women are so close minded about it, I'm not sure. But simply put, I love it and can't get enough

As far as introduction of the idea, I'm not sure there is a right time, it just needs to be brought up in conversation about what your partner enjoys or dislikes sexually. It should never, however, be brought up DURING sex!

mmmm nothing to add here....feel the same way....DITTO!!!!!

 

[Funsex3232]

Thanks PixiePrincess,

That sounds promising to me because if I meet a women who isn’t all about anal maybe one day she might be!!!

 

[VelvetSin]

Does how quickly your man introduces anal sex have the potential to be a deal breaker for the ladies who would like to avoid that area of the body while having sex?

For a long while, I wouldn't even consider it. I haven't had a lot of partners, but each and every one of them was intrigued by the idea and I gave it a shot with one of the first. It was painful and completely unpleasant. After that, every request was denied. Years later, my current SO reintroduced the concept and it was a few years after we'd been together. I'd say it wasn't a "deal breaker" at all that he waited, rather, I needed to know I could trust the one I was with to know what he was doing (and I did since he knew very, very, very well how to treat every other part of me). I quickly discovered that the first partner just didn't have a clue what he was doing despite claiming to be an expert. [ETA - We tried multiple times before I declared it "off limits" so it wasn't a case of simply being a virgin there.]

In my experience women who lust for it will ask for it the first time we have sex.

I lust after it, but am almost physically incapable of asking for it. I may want it to the point of aching with desire, but I can't make myself ask. He has never been turned down when he's gone for it, though. I definitely would not say that a woman who lusts after it will ask for it the first time or any other.

It's the variety of sex that can be decidedly unpleasant if performed by someone clueless, or wickedly wonderful if in the care of someone knowledgeable. I personally believe it comes down to trust. If the unthinkable happened and my current and I were no longer together, any potential future partners would have a long wait before they didn't get a foot to the groin for thinking about it. Once I can trust someone, it's a sinfully pleasant part of the relationship.

 

[dirtyduo]

I think it needs to be broached carefully. If she is not into it give her time and maybe try to introduce some very gentle anal play. It can be so pleasurable if done right but it is so easy to have a bad experience that will turn someone off to it, I think that is the case with many women. I really enjoy anal play but have not had much anal sex due to a bad past experience and it can just be really uncomfortable no matter how slow and how much lube etc if you haven't worked up to it if you know what I mean. Also are you willing to let her play with your ass cause sometimes that helps your case.

 

[gemaussieslut]

I’m assuming, in the majority of women’s relationship anal sex is either enjoyed, introduced, discussed, or denied. Does how quickly your man introduces anal sex have the potential to be a deal breaker for the ladies who would like to avoid that area of the body while having sex? In my experience women who lust for it will ask for it the first time we have sex.

one catch with your statements above - the man has to be interested!
A vast majority of my sexual partners didn't bring it up, nor were interested when I brought it up! So they didn't introduce it at all.

For those that did, it was after a few times of having standard intercourse. Some strayed that way and were promptly told NO - others who asked and discussed with me before hand that they were interested - got a very very keen YES! (I'm an anal orgasm-er)

I don't ask for it the first time, generally because I don't know the other person well enough to gauge their response, nor do I think the heat of the moment is the right time or place to discuss anal and the issues that surround it. But once we have gone there I am always keen to go back and hint at it.

 

[Funsex3232]

Reply to Velvetsin

I lust after it, but am almost physically incapable of asking for it. I may want it to the point of aching with desire, but I can't make myself ask. He has never been turned down when he's gone for it, though. I definitely would not say that a woman who lusts after it will ask for it the first time or any other.

Why can't you make yourself ask for anal when your aching for it???

 

[VelvetSin]

Why can't you make yourself ask for anal when your aching for it???

I don't know, it's a strange personal hangup. I have a hard time asking for much of anything "in the moment." I can write him letters and stories detailing explicitly things I want or need, but struggle to verbalize anything sexual or kinkish unless he tells me to tell him what I want. We've got a diary we share, and he often makes me tell him what I want. It's like I need his permission to say it, but I've always been that way unless in certain situations (doesn't seem to affect me much at work for instance). Other than that, my wants often match his, so it tends to work out, either right then or next time after he reads another entry in the journal.

 

[SGOOD]

I like anal. But as another expressed their issue I can't ask for it either when I want it. But I won't turn it down. especially if he introduces it gradually. I've never had anyone ask outright and truthfully i'd probably shy away from answering. I think the best way I have had it introduced is in the heat of the moment. Absolutely do NOT just flip her over and shove it in but when a guy turns me over doggy style and starts touching and maybe putting a finger in or something (gently and make sure it's wet) If you take your time about it She will have time to tell you No not there or she may let you go on.
I know a lot of women that would say no flat out to anal never having had the experience but most of them would probably not stop some playing from happening unless you hurt them. Remember to keep anything that goes in there lubed and most girls will be willing to give it a shot.
I was

 

[NomadLady]

I got really lucky and had a GREAT teacher for anal in my early 30's. He was my first Dom and I will never forget when we told me that he would be teaching me how to enjoy anal sex and I was a nervous wreck. He was incredibly well hung and I just kept thinking "yea right, you're gonna put that where?"....long story short, it wound up being one of the most memorable, pleasureable, exciting sexual experiences in my memory to this very day....

Too bad everyone doesn't get the proper gentle, intimate introduction...

 

[NightL]

I would love to read a verity of answers from multiply women views on introducing anal sex to a relationship.

That is what this thread is all about isn't it...? You are not after advice... you just want to read about it... All cool if that is your kick and people want to provide you with your material... as long as we all know...

 

[Funsex3232]

That is what this thread is all about isn't it...? You are not after advice... you just want to read about it... All cool if that is your kick and people want to provide you with your material... as long as we all know...

No, that not it at all, I'm completely after advise, If I just wanted to read about anal sex then I could read one of the millions stories from this site! I'm not sure about your history however all of the women I have dated were very different when it came to their sexuality!

I'm interested in getting many different view points from women concerning their feelings about introducing anal sex! I'm interested in the variety of opinions! I'm interested in hearing all of the different viewpoints. To me a women who was set against it but over time decided to try it and then realized she enjoys it, is as important to me as a women who was lusting to try it but was scared to ask her man, to a women who while riding her man would just Gide him in her ass!

Please don't misinterpret my desire for multiple women’s opinions as a set up for discussion topic because if you are then you’re mistaken!!!

 

[NightL]

all cool... without the benefits of body language and tone of voice my interpretation can go astray.

 

[Funsex3232]

bump - bump - bump

 

[NaughtyTiffany]

mmmm nothing to add here....feel the same way....DITTO!!!!!

Same.

 

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[CNYCarol]

My question is for all of the ladies posting on literotica! I would love to read a verity of answers from multiply women views on introducing anal sex to a relationship. I am hoping to receive responses from the complete women’s view spectrum ranging from the ladies who lust for anal sex from their partners to women who do it for the enjoyment it brings their man. I’m equally looking forward to women responses who feel its best to avoid that area of the body while having sex as well as ladies who desire anal sex but are not willing to initiate it.

Let’s acknowledge there is no right or wrong answer and everybody relationship is different. Can we except everybody in the relationship is in agreement and nobody is getting hurt or doing anything against their will. Moving past there is no such thing as “the correct time,” but just what’s “correct for the relationship.” I also understand looking back at my relationships I was more satisfied with a like minded women then I was with a women who wanted something different. However I can’t go around introducing myself to women and for my first question ask them if they can orgasm from anal. So I want to hear what you ladies think about it!

For me personally, every since I began fantasizing about sex I have always found anal sex to be the most erotic and exciting. I’m assuming, in the majority of women’s relationship anal sex is either enjoyed, introduced, discussed, or denied. Does how quickly your man introduces anal sex have the potential to be a deal breaker for the ladies who would like to avoid that area of the body while having sex? In my experience women who lust for it will ask for it the first time we have sex. However, I’m so curious to hear from a multiple women’s point of view, when women feel it would be, too soon, or the “normal” time, or too late to introduce anal sex in a new relationship.

I couldn't agree more!

A few tips: Don't go charging in like a bull moose trying to tear up the place. Go gently, ease into her, and pause when she shows ANY discomfort. Unless you are hung like a horse, her discomfort will pass and she may very well begin to enjoy it.

The clitoris you see from the front is only a tiny portion of a very large organ, it actually branches into 2 and continues back around her anal canal. Although rare, many women, myself includeed, can reach orgasm from anal stimulation. I've only cum twice with anal but I find it very enjoyable even without the Big O.

In fact, I have even REQUESTED anal more than a few times.

 

[Julie_in_the_north]

I'm probably rather unusual in this regard - I used to startle men by asking for anal sex...sometimes on a first date. It took them rather by surprise.

But to answer the question: if your relationship's in good shape, you should should pick a good moment and be honest - say it's something you'd like, and ask her how she feels about it. Just tell the truth and take it from there.

Alternatively, if you're touching her during foreplay, and if an opportunity arises, try very very gently stroking her anus with your finger. This hints at your desires, and you will be able to gauge from her response whether it arouses her.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

As far as introduction of the idea, I'm not sure there is a right time, it just needs to be brought up in conversation about what your partner enjoys or dislikes sexually. It should never, however, be brought up DURING sex!

I'd agree, for 90% of people it probably shouldn't be.


It was with us though, for the most part. It had briefly been mentioned in early discussions, I'd expressed a distaste for it, I'd had a bad experience and was scared of the hurt again.

One day, he just started playing with my ass, and I got nervous. I tried to wiggle out of the way, but he calmed me down, and then it happened.

And it was nowhere near as terrible as I was expecting. I'd still only recommend that if there's absolute trust involved.

Now, I do enjoy it mostly. There's times where it's uncomfy and downright ouchy. And other times where it's amazing. I don't often ask for it, but then, I don't often ask for much of anything sex wise. I need to learn to instigate more often.

 

[Funsex3232]

bump bump bump

 

[sickofmodesy]

I like anal. But as another expressed their issue I can't ask for it either when I want it. But I won't turn it down. especially if he introduces it gradually. I've never had anyone ask outright and truthfully i'd probably shy away from answering. I think the best way I have had it introduced is in the heat of the moment. Absolutely do NOT just flip her over and shove it in but when a guy turns me over doggy style and starts touching and maybe putting a finger in or something (gently and make sure it's wet) If you take your time about it She will have time to tell you No not there or she may let you go on.
I know a lot of women that would say no flat out to anal never having had the experience but most of them would probably not stop some playing from happening unless you hurt them. Remember to keep anything that goes in there lubed and most girls will be willing to give it a shot.
I was

I never wanted to do that before, but know find it quite erotic and sensuous, again, if someone knows what to do, but i am shy and could never 'ask', would love to find someone who is subtle, sensous and experienced who would slowly introduce it so i wouldn't be embarrased, i wouldn't say no. why is there nobody to meet near western mass? i love real sex and meetings, not just talk, doesn't anyone else?? smile. take care

 

[ja_86]

completely depends on the woman, i have asked a few, some have thought about it and one went mad at me for asking, she seemed it was a violation when all i wanted to do was enjoy more of her body :S

id suggest talk about fantasies with them and just bring it up gradually but with no pressure

and i know im not a lady but thought you might like some other input