Question for the Cafe

[@}-}rebecca----]

oh my
oh my
oh my

: ignoring calliwhatsitname , eclecticsub and intotigerwoods :

Whaaaaaaaaaaaaat Fu ?

Meh you three grrls, shame on you. I'm always delighted to see you about the boards & very interested to read your posts. Tsk Tsk.

 

[Shankara20]

Aw, you noticed? I actually lurk in your thread at home, but I tend to avoid it now at work. It's kinda not work friendly. Have ya noticed? Why all of a sudden I decided to care is beyond me. But there you have it.

I can no longer access Lit from work - we, you and I, waisted a bunch of the companies time there for a while.

I think I lost some of my comment postings once I was not posting new pantie pics - that will change some day I expect - I'm not posting to get a lot of reactions and I know the view count is still active so I'm fine with it. The down side of this semi-reclusive state I'm in is that I miss some of my friendly interactions that happened in the past.

 

[ecstaticsub]

: ignoring calliwhatsitname , eclecticsub and intotigerwoods :

Whaaaaaaaaaaaaat Fu ?

Meh you three grrls, shame on you. I'm always delighted to see you about the boards & very interested to read your posts. Tsk Tsk.

Thanks Rebecca..you are a sweetie.

 

[nh23]

This is hard to do, but since it keeps eating away at me; i must ask anyway.

For some reason, am i being blacklisted here on Lit?

i see where people say that my words have meaning, but very few seem to want to get to know me. And no, its not a plea for attention! i just need to know, for my peace of mind.

Is it because i am shy, or speak the truth, or what?

Or has someone put out lies about me? What???

i have been polite to people, since i am one of the newer members of the boards; so is thats whats getting to people??

i consider most of the ones i have talked to good people. This is just starting to really depress me.


So answer with the truth, no matter how bad it is. Just so i know.

I have been on Lit for about 6 months. No where near as long as some of the others, but long enough that I am starting to feel more comfortable. I've never really talked to anyone on here, until recently. Now I am starting to open up and share PM's with a few people. I'm just not the type to reach out to other people, but will always answer a PM if one is sent to me. (If it's appropriate..lol). I noticed today that it was mentioned that we live near each other. Feel free to PM me anytime you want, I would be more than happy to talk to you. *Hugs*

 

[Shankara20]

Thanks Rebecca..you are a sweetie.

that she is

but I ain't buying that "the Dom ate my homework" crap one little bit -

 

[WriterDom]

Hi dove

I'll give you a rose

And a kiss

Even do a little dance

 

[LittleJade]

I'm replying thus because of the lovely PM you sent me today.

You're not being blacklisted, at least, by me. My response to this, before thinking about it, is that I tend to talk to people who have been here a good long time. I've been on Lit in one guise or another, since 2002. I know and recognize people.

You're new. I observe new people, until I'm used to them. Aware of them, but more watch than anything else.

You, however, sent me an absolutely sweet PM today. It was uncalled for and absolutely wonderful, and made my day. And I appreciate it... so I'll be watching your posts even more closely.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

enough hijacking

 

[BiBunny]

: ignoring calliwhatsitname , eclecticsub and intotigerwoods

JBJ, is that you?

 

[Homburg]

I notice

I'd say "How you doin?" to you too, ya sexy thang, but you're a Top. We're supposed to be all kinds of grunty and chill around each other, y'know.

*grunts and looks cool*

--

What? You haven't seen me around? I practically posted my entire life story in holderman's thread, which you eventually added to. Harumph.

I totally notice you. You're the one who's with v, and is also having, er, relationship issues.

Oh, you're that intothewoods. I thought you were the other one. Wit and relevance, eh. Maybe.

And I am having no relationship issues. It's that other Homburg. The cranky one. I'm the nice and friendly one.



(We're doing really well, actually. Things are getting better every day, and we are taking the steps towards getting back to something akin to what we had, happily.)

 

[Evil_Geoff]

i see where people say that my words have meaning, but very few seem to want to get to know me. And no, its not a plea for attention! i just need to know, for my peace of mind...

Why confused? You were expecting to get pounced on and mobbed by the trolls and HNGS or something? Sorry, but I don't PM someone unless I have something to say. But I will flirt shamelessly when/if I get to the point where I feel comfortable doing that with you.

I'm not looking for a relationship with anyone, you haven't done anything to offend me (or otherwise attract a great deal of my attention), sooooo... what exactly are you looking for here?

For some reason, am i being blacklisted here on Lit?

Not by me personally, and not by the moderators or your posts wouldn't show up.

Keep hanging around, pretty soon you'll be an "old timer" and look at your post count and "OMG! 1000 posts! Now I've got to some up with a clever tag line!"

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

Sweetie don't be upset. Speaking from personal experience, everyone here is fairly close knit and great to be friends with. The catch is to keep yourself visible and aware.

Not only is everyone busy with RL, but everyone needs the chance to get to know you and being an online community, that takes place through your posts.

Be patient. No one is ignoring you. I for one look forward to seeing more of you.

My PM box is always open if you wanna chat. Hugs and welcome to you

 

[the_pet]

On a related note, I've recently noticed a whole bunch of posts that sound something like: well, I for one pay attention to the following fabulous people here...and then a rather lengthy list ensues, and I'm never on it!

Hmph.

...that's because you haven't joined the Mutual Admiration Society or appointed yourself it's newest member by kissing every available ass with every post you make.....

http://i120.photobucket.com/albums/o180/onesilentfeather/c90ebb81.jpg


just messing with you...there's no Mutual Admiration Society or is there

 

[sanjuaneros]

I do not know you and you are not on my “blacklist”. Hell I do not even have a blacklist. I have been reading your post and you seem very nice and I look forward to reading more of your post.

 

[the_pet]

This is hard to do, but since it keeps eating away at me; i must ask anyway.

For some reason, am i being blacklisted here on Lit?

i see where people say that my words have meaning, but very few seem to want to get to know me. And no, its not a plea for attention! i just need to know, for my peace of mind.

Is it because i am shy, or speak the truth, or what?

Or has someone put out lies about me? What???

i have been polite to people, since i am one of the newer members of the boards; so is thats whats getting to people??

i consider most of the ones i have talked to good people. This is just starting to really depress me.


So answer with the truth, no matter how bad it is. Just so i know.

i'm sure it's nothing personal....
if you post alot...alot of people will post back
alot of the posting is one-liner kind of stuff anyway
i personally prefer to remain aloof and mysterious

 

[FurryFury]

I just realized I'm a completely selfish bitch on the boards. I usually only post my thoughts if I feel like. I usually only look to see if anyone talked with me to decide if I post again.

Okay, okay, I do say hi to new people sometimes. I do go to threads with like 0 posts and post if I feel like I have anything to say. I think it just bothers me to think of a new person not having any posts on a thread.

I do give empathy when I can and sympathy when I can but mostly I'm just a self centered selfish bitch.

Ahem.

Lately, I've been so busy I've not been posting much even though I know a lot of people are going through so rough stuff. I've missed a good bit.

*begins to self flagellate*

How you doin?[/B]

*smiles*

This is my best and most relaxing time of the week so far. So I'm good. Thanks for noticing and asking.

Dude - I only got a crush shout out from Miss Rebecca, who felt sorry for me.

I'm cool with the amount of responses I get to my posts. I'm just never on the list. RJ posted the most recent one, btw. (Gawd, I'm so lame!) In the Ishmael thread.

*raises eyebrows*

Um, I need to check out that list.

*wonders if she is on it*

I've been here a couple of years and I post an "average" of 18+ times a day. So, if I get any nods on lists, I think that is why.

I'll take a FF hug - it has been a long time since the last one I had

*smiles and hugs more*

Good to see ya. I love to give hugs and anyone who wants one can have one anytime!

doveofserenity,

I am even newer than you, but I have found this one of the friendlier place on the web I have been.

There is so much more I would like to post & say ... but time constrain make it hard ... life tend to come in the way of fun

And for what is worth ... I did notice your posts ... just had never anything to add

P.S. for intothewoods & FurryFury: if I ever make a list ... you'll be on
Homburg ... name doesn't ring a bell

Aww! Thanks! I wonder what sort of list that would be?

*chuckles imagining*

 

[Homburg]

*begins to self flagellate*

--

*smiles*

This is my best and most relaxing time of the week so far. So I'm good. Thanks for noticing and asking.

I notice these things, especially after seeing self-flagellation

 

[Etoile]

This is hard to do, but since it keeps eating away at me; i must ask anyway.

For some reason, am i being blacklisted here on Lit?

i see where people say that my words have meaning, but very few seem to want to get to know me. And no, its not a plea for attention! i just need to know, for my peace of mind.

Is it because i am shy, or speak the truth, or what?

Or has someone put out lies about me? What???

i have been polite to people, since i am one of the newer members of the boards; so is thats whats getting to people??

i consider most of the ones i have talked to good people. This is just starting to really depress me.


So answer with the truth, no matter how bad it is. Just so i know.

Okay, I will answer honestly, since you asked for that.

I have seen your name around a few times, but I don't really know you. You haven't made many posts in the time you've been here, but I see that most of what you have posted has been social in nature. Personally, I'm not here for a lot of socialization...I used to be more, but now that I am back in school I stick to the serious stuff, the deeper discussions, which I haven't really seen you participate in...so I just don't know you.

I want to make a point here though. It's not always about you. As others have said, sometimes you just have to suck it up and be patient. If you distinguish yourself somehow (Kailey, doll_parts, Shay, etc.) then you are more likely to get noticed sooner...but not necessarily, and the examples I gave are negative ones unfortunately.

It's not necessarily anything you're doing. It's not that somebody is out to get you or that you are too scary or too intimidating. It's just the way the social network here runs.

I will say one more thing. This does sound like a plea for attention to me. Speaking as someone with heart-crushing self-esteem problems, I know why you posted. I know what it's like when you are ignored and so you assume something is wrong. God, that's half my life, at least! But I think the way you went about addressing the issue does sound a little whiny. Something along the lines of "Hey people, I post some good stuff, but nobody ever really gets close to me. Am I doing something wrong, or am I just paranoid?" would be more appropriate, more casual. And again, I say this as someone with self-esteem issues who says the exact same thing you said. But because it's not me, I was able to see another way to say it.

But in the end, I think this post will work out positively for you. By admitting your fears, you have learned that you were not disliked as you had thought. You simply aren't known to many of us. Now that we've learned a little bit about you, people will probably notice you more now! I would suggest asking questions if you have them - that's a good way to really jump into serious posting, rather than focusing on the game threads. Or, if you feel you know your stuff, comment on the questions others ask! Either works.

I hope my post hasn't come off as harsh or anything. I don't mean it that way. I mean it more like a "I get what you're going through, but you're looking at it wrong" kind of thing. I seriously get what you're going through, I recognize myself in that post, oh god do I ever.

Hang tight, okay? I'll definitely be keeping an eye out for you from now on.

 

[Marquis]

For crying out loud.

You've got 170 posts!

Not that I'm all that active these days, but absent being at the center of some huge controversy, that's just not long enough to land on the radar of the average poster, like myself, who isn't taking notes on who says what.

I see a few posters in this thread who have almost ten times as many posts and I have no clue who they are.

 

[FurryFury]

*checks av*

 

[AngelicAssassin]

I blame the doms. A dom ate my homework

Oh really?

Did you cook rice for someone recently? http://img.villagephotos.com/p/2003-8/363868/2cool2.gif

 

[trisquel_astur]

Well, I don't have a black list (at least in the way you told about so I didn't put you on it.

Persevere a little bit, PM to the people you like (most of us are nice people) and try to feel confortable, at the end this is a coffe where we meet to spend a nice time.

Spanks, kisses and roses,

Angel.

 

[Chris_Xavier]

Oh for Pete's sake people.. admit it.

The truth dove: As soon as you made your account on Lit we ran your credit cards and driver's license against a list of known pervs and your latest purchases.

In order to be accepted by this group you have to have been arrested for indecent exposure at least once in the last 5yrs and had to have bought at least $100 worth of toys in the past year.

Barring that you have to have scened with at least two Doms after joining Lit.

 

[FungiUg]

A dom ate my homework

I did so not! I just... chewed on it a little.

 

[FungiUg]

In order to be accepted by this group you have to have been arrested for indecent exposure at least once in the last 5yrs and had to have bought at least $100 worth of toys in the past year.

I think I'll just run out and get arrested... back in a few days.

Barring that you have to have scened with at least two Doms after joining Lit.

Yeah, definitely going with the arrested thing.