Question for other men: Your pleasure or hers?

[desiresmore]

I've been having sex for the last 14 years and I've come to realize that my wife's pleasure is far more important to me than my own. I don't get to provide her with the ultimate pleasure nearly as much as I'd like - which really gets me down sometimes. So this got me thinking, guys, when you have sex is it you getting something, with the focus on your pleasure and what you "get"? Am I strange in this area that I want to focus on her pleasure and mine is secondary?

I daydream about all the ways I could pleasure her and bring provide her with as much as she can handle (perhaps more). I don't think about what I want to get from her, its more about what I want to give her. Am I making any sense?

Ladies, do you feel like your lover is all about your pleasure, or just getting something from you?

Please tell me what you think about this.

 

[JohnnySavage]

I've been having sex for the last 14 years and I've come to realize that my wife's pleasure is far more important to me than my own. I don't get to provide her with the ultimate pleasure nearly as much as I'd like - which really gets me down sometimes. So this got me thinking, guys, when you have sex is it you getting something, with the focus on your pleasure and what you "get"? Am I strange in this area that I want to focus on her pleasure and mine is secondary?

I daydream about all the ways I could pleasure her and bring provide her with as much as she can handle (perhaps more). I don't think about what I want to get from her, its more about what I want to give her. Am I making any sense?

Ladies, do you feel like your lover is all about your pleasure, or just getting something from you?

Please tell me what you think about this.

I think you're from Florida.

 

[killallhippies]

fourteen years straight? you must smell terrible.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

When you fret about others everyone ends up dissappointed.

 

[desiresmore]

I think you're from Florida.

Yes I am, does that make a difference?

 

[desiresmore]

fourteen years straight? you must smell terrible.

I take a break now and then to shower and get a drink...

When you fret about others everyone ends up dissappointed.

I'm not fretting, just intense curiosity.

 

[Comshaw]

I've been having sex for the last 14 years and I've come to realize that my wife's pleasure is far more important to me than my own. I don't get to provide her with the ultimate pleasure nearly as much as I'd like - which really gets me down sometimes. So this got me thinking, guys, when you have sex is it you getting something, with the focus on your pleasure and what you "get"? Am I strange in this area that I want to focus on her pleasure and mine is secondary?

I daydream about all the ways I could pleasure her and bring provide her with as much as she can handle (perhaps more). I don't think about what I want to get from her, its more about what I want to give her. Am I making any sense?

Ladies, do you feel like your lover is all about your pleasure, or just getting something from you?

Please tell me what you think about this.

And why pray tell can't it be both? A balance? Oh course I think about my own pleasure, but that's not to say I don't think about hers. If I don't get what I want from a pairing, then I'm not going to want to do it again. It's the same with her, if she's not satisfied then she won't want to do it with me more than once.

If I walk away from her bed with a grin on my face thinking about the next time and am invited back for a second, third or more interlude sexuel, I know it's been done right, by both parties.


Comshaw

 

[desiresmore]

And why pray tell can't it be both? A balance? Oh course I think about my own pleasure, but that's not to say I don't think about hers. If I don't get what I want from a pairing, then I'm not going to want to do it again. It's the same with her, if she's not satisfied then she won't want to do it with me more than once.

If I walk away from her bed with a grin on my face thinking about the next time and am invited back for a second, third or more interlude sexuel, I know it's been done right, by both parties.


Comshaw

Oh I do think it should be both! Nothing better in my mind that two people passionately pleasing each other. In my online readins and forum participations I'm seeing more and more (from women) that their men don't seem to care about their pleasure. They take what they wany and leave them hanging. I think thats terrible!

 

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[Comshaw]

She's faking.

Everyone, and I do mean everyone, knows women cannot be "pleasured" by men. Only by their lesbian girlfriends.

And to think you have been fooled for 14 years.

What's next, a mortgage???

Geeeeeze Louis.

So you're suggesting I get her lesbian girlfriend to come in and pleasure her (since I can't) while I get mine??? You mean I'd have to watch her do that?????

Hmmmmmmm..........



Comshaw

 

[Trace_Element]

She's faking.

Everyone, and I do mean everyone, knows women cannot be "pleasured" by men. Only by their lesbian girlfriends.

And to think you have been fooled for 14 years.

What's next, a mortgage???

Geeeeeze Louis.

It's Louise, dammit!

 

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[Cookie123]

My lover is very attentive and never leaves me hanging. Ever. He rocks!

 

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[velvet_crush]

Your pleasure. If you're not an arrogant asshole, taking what he wants, leaving me in a cum-covered heap on the floor, how can I feel like a needy cunt?

oh. wait. This was a question for men. Clearly, I can't follow instructions, either.

Carry on.

 

[desiresmore]

My lover is very attentive and never leaves me hanging. Ever. He rocks!

Thats good and how it should be, I'm just disturbed by what seems to be a lot of attached women being neglected by their men. I know how much it sucks as a man to be neglected by his wife, so I can only imagine this must be even worse for the women when it happens to them.

 

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[blobfish]

If you're not an arrogant asshole, taking what he wants, leaving me in a cum-covered heap on the floor, how can I feel like a needy cunt?

I guess you could register as a democrat.

 

[velvet_crush]

Are you hitting on me???

That surely looks like a hit.

JackAss!

 

[velvet_crush]

I guess you could register as a democrat.

Did it. It's not as satisfying as I'd hoped.

 

[blobfish]

Did it. It's not as satisfying as I'd hoped.

The cum-covered thing only applies to interns.

 

[unregistered]

 

[MarcelineTheVampireQueen]

We need more men like you bro.

What your say gets me really pissed. All my boyfriend wants me to do is give him blow jobs, and to send him nude-ys. And when we have sex its worse. He always wants to do anal(& I for one don't like that) or for me to suck him off. It's really frustrating when he's cummed like 3 times, and I haven't at all. I THINK THE GUYS MAIN FOCUS SHOULD IN PLEASURING HIS GIRL, THEN MAYBE WE'D BE MORE WILLING TODO STUFF IN THE BEDROOM!!!!

 

[blobfish]

What your say gets me really pissed. All my boyfriend wants me to do is give him blow jobs, and to send him nude-ys. And when we have sex its worse. He always wants to do anal(& I for one don't like that) or for me to suck him off. It's really frustrating when he's cummed like 3 times, and I haven't at all. I THINK THE GUYS MAIN FOCUS SHOULD IN PLEASURING HIS GIRL, THEN MAYBE WE'D BE MORE WILLING TODO STUFF IN THE BEDROOM!!!!

Post some nude-ys or GTFO.