Question for other Doms/Daddies

[DaddyDearest5]

Serious question here for Doms who are in or have had previous online D/s style relationships. I'm a bit of a sadist, and I've made it a habit to test out any self inflicted punishment on myself first, just so I know exactly how much she can tolerate or exactly how painful/difficult it is to perform.

Am I alone in this? Do you thoughtfully experiment with your sadism on your own person so you know exactly how your sub is going to feel when they carry out your wishes over the internet.

I'm just curious.

 

[MeekMe]

I think it's fine that you test things out on yourself, but you will never know exactly how it feels for another person. This gives you an idea of how it might feel for them, but everyone is different. What is only a little painful for you may be extremely painful for someone else or the opposite. And there are other factors like how they apply it to themselves that could change how it feels. I wouldn't rely on this method alone to determine how difficult or painful something is to perform.

 

[DaddyDearest5]

I think it's fine that you test things out on yourself, but you will never know exactly how it feels for another person. This gives you an idea of how it might feel for them, but everyone is different. What is only a little painful for you may be extremely painful for someone else or the opposite. And there are other factors like how they apply it to themselves that could change how it feels. I wouldn't rely on this method alone to determine how difficult or painful something is to perform.

You make some very good points. It's true that everyone is very different. Everyone has different thresholds and pleasure/pain centers.

I suppose I am looking for an idea of what she will feel. It also helps solve any logistical problems that might arise before I issue an order that might be impossible to complete. I want my submissive to feel like she can successfully complete the tasks I give her, and complete them with pride.

 

[Beefplease]

In person I test them with her. Over the net its not something I would advise anyone to do. As MeekMe said other factors come into play. To some even how they are feeling at that moment will also come into play for pain tolerance. If really really want to try some things can use adjustable clamps, the person can find out what their pain tolerance is but do make sure that they are going for that and not bearing it just to please you and going over their tolerance level.