Question for my fellow Dom's

[CrimsonDom]

Do you keep your submissive all to yourself or are you willing to share her. There is another Dom who wants to play I would not be involved due to the fact that I normally don't play well with other Dom's what do you guys think?

 

[kinkyguy87]

Depends on your thoughts and feelings towards your own sub. Would you be willing to share? How would it make you feel knowing your sub is elsewhere without you? Do you know this other Dom?

 

[CrimsonDom]

yes

I do know the other Dom the only reason I am considering this is I know my beloved pet is bi sexual and it intrigues her

 

[CBM514]

Do you keep your submissive all to yourself or are you willing to share her. There is another Dom who wants to play I would not be involved due to the fact that I normally don't play well with other Dom's what do you guys think?

I don't think I would feel comfortable sending my sub off alone, but would consider a shared session if she wanted it. We've talked about her and someone else when I sub for her but have decided to hold on that for a few reasons right now

I guess it's a control and trust (in the other dom) thing for me

 

[CrimsonDom]

I get that

I should also add the other Dom is,female and the reason I couldn't do a shared session is I am way to possessive and if the other Dom did something i didn't agree with even if my pet enjoyed it I would be pissed where as if I don't see it....

 

[Tigerdrew73]

I don't think I would feel comfortable sending my sub off alone, but would consider a shared session if she wanted it. We've talked about her and someone else when I sub for her but have decided to hold on that for a few reasons right now

I guess it's a control and trust (in the other dom) thing for me

I am the same. Even if I knew the Domme I would still want at least the first session to be shared, and I'm not sure I would be happy to let them have a session without me, I'm quite possesive that way.
Regarding the Domme doing something you don't like but your sub does, I would see that as a learning experience. I may not repeat it but I would know my sub liked it.
The other thing you could do is talk to the Domme and set hard limits

 

[CBM514]

Agreed that there are things she may like I'm either unaware of or don't do and could be productive from that point of view...but we communicate fairly well in between and after so we both get to hear what the other did or didn't like or want more of.

It's possessiveness and a control thing for me that would not let me just send her to someone else...and since we switch I can tell for sure she would not do that at all

We did think there could be value in having another domme with her when I sub but it got complicated for us as we talked thru it re: lines and limits and the fact that it's a fairly private thing for us and how to find/ select the person we could trust in that setting and out of it

 

[ecstaticsub]

I'm a submissive, not a dominant but I am bi-sexual. I am not allowed to bottom to anyone else ever--male or female. However, my dominant would be willing to consider allowing me to have a vanilla-ish relationship with another woman. (and very rarely other men--though this has never ended up happening)

Perhaps allowing your sub a vanilla relationship with a woman would work for you?

 

[CrimsonDom]

why

That is why I am asking questions I am not terribly comfortable with it. I guess I was hoping for reassuring answers from other Dom's.

 

[CBM514]

That is why I am asking questions I am not terribly comfortable with it. I guess I was hoping for reassuring answers from other Dom's.

I think it is entirely yours and hers personal preference.

If you aren't comfortable with it and she is though I can see that being a long conversation.

 

[VladHarkonnen]

I suppose if I didnt give a rats ass about my sub...sure. Otherwise, no. I'm not into sharing. On the other hand, I suppose I could think of exceptions to that...

 

[CrimsonDom]

her thing

Is wanting to explore her bisexual side

 

[CBM514]

Bisexual with a domme or just in general?

I only ask because to me they are entirely different things

 

[CrimsonDom]

with

With a,Domme

 

[CBM514]

If mine really had a strong desire I would likely find a way to wrap my head around it but would expect her to understand I would always be the primary and would be present as well at all times (at least at first, not knowing how it could go)