Question for ladies - Those subtle things

[malinborn]

Can't say i remember the very first we danced to, but the first song i requested for her that we danced to is also the song we danced to at our wedding... Angel Eyes by Jeff Healy... which i also had playing for her when she got home on our anniversary one night... dinner was on the table, candles were burning, and the moment the door opened the song came on so we danced to it again

One thing I haven't seen mentioned -

Do You remember what the first slow song was that You danced with her lovingly?

A lot of women hold that one song pretty dear to them. And if You would play it unexpectedly, it might put a smile upon her face. Because You remembered.

 

[SubKekiLee]

Ahhhhhhhhh how sweet... *tear* I want someone like you.. I wish mine had the fortitude to do what you do for Fi... You are a real sweetheart malin

 

[bholderman]

Hey all,

This resulted in something that happened to me yesterday. I was in a yahoo chat with my wife and I suddenly flashed back to the film, Unbreakable, in which a subplot of the film was Bruce Willis trying to fix his marriage. One scene was them trying to have a decent dinner out in which they were asking each other these simple little questions. With that, I realized that for 12 years, I worked hard for my wife, doted over her, but in the long run, didnt really know the simple things about her.

I interupted a conversation about our kids with one of the things I truly missed about our marriage. And I asked her what her favorite color was. There was something in that that seemed to have an affect on my wife. Im not sure if its for good or bad, but she finally started talking to me about how she was feeling deep down. For the first time in 2 months, I felt like her husband again even if it was just through a yahoo chat window. She finished up with the fact that she needed help with the kids that evening, which I did of course.

You all have helped me quite a bit. Yes, there's no certainly that marriage will be salvageable. But in some ways its manageable at this point. At the end of the night, my wife brought up couple counseling. What a difference a day makes.

By the way, her favorite color is green and she prefers white gold.

 

[rida]

Hey all,

This resulted in something that happened to me yesterday. I was in a yahoo chat with my wife and I suddenly flashed back to the film, Unbreakable, in which a subplot of the film was Bruce Willis trying to fix his marriage. One scene was them trying to have a decent dinner out in which they were asking each other these simple little questions. With that, I realized that for 12 years, I worked hard for my wife, doted over her, but in the long run, didnt really know the simple things about her.

I interupted a conversation about our kids with one of the things I truly missed about our marriage. And I asked her what her favorite color was. There was something in that that seemed to have an affect on my wife. Im not sure if its for good or bad, but she finally started talking to me about how she was feeling deep down. For the first time in 2 months, I felt like her husband again even if it was just through a yahoo chat window. She finished up with the fact that she needed help with the kids that evening, which I did of course.

You all have helped me quite a bit. Yes, there's no certainly that marriage will be salvageable. But in some ways its manageable at this point. At the end of the night, my wife brought up couple counseling. What a difference a day makes.

By the way, her favorite color is green and she prefers white gold.

Great news!

Good luck in your journey of re-discovery! You are being given the chance to do it all over again ... start out anew ... and which ever way it will go ... you'll both be in a much better place

 

[intothewoods]

Hey all,

This resulted in something that happened to me yesterday. I was in a yahoo chat with my wife and I suddenly flashed back to the film, Unbreakable, in which a subplot of the film was Bruce Willis trying to fix his marriage. One scene was them trying to have a decent dinner out in which they were asking each other these simple little questions. With that, I realized that for 12 years, I worked hard for my wife, doted over her, but in the long run, didnt really know the simple things about her.

I interupted a conversation about our kids with one of the things I truly missed about our marriage. And I asked her what her favorite color was. There was something in that that seemed to have an affect on my wife. Im not sure if its for good or bad, but she finally started talking to me about how she was feeling deep down. For the first time in 2 months, I felt like her husband again even if it was just through a yahoo chat window. She finished up with the fact that she needed help with the kids that evening, which I did of course.

You all have helped me quite a bit. Yes, there's no certainly that marriage will be salvageable. But in some ways its manageable at this point. At the end of the night, my wife brought up couple counseling. What a difference a day makes.

By the way, her favorite color is green and she prefers white gold.

Good to hear, Brad.

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

That's great Brad

Hey all,

This resulted in something that happened to me yesterday. I was in a yahoo chat with my wife and I suddenly flashed back to the film, Unbreakable, in which a subplot of the film was Bruce Willis trying to fix his marriage. One scene was them trying to have a decent dinner out in which they were asking each other these simple little questions. With that, I realized that for 12 years, I worked hard for my wife, doted over her, but in the long run, didnt really know the simple things about her.

I interupted a conversation about our kids with one of the things I truly missed about our marriage. And I asked her what her favorite color was. There was something in that that seemed to have an affect on my wife. Im not sure if its for good or bad, but she finally started talking to me about how she was feeling deep down. For the first time in 2 months, I felt like her husband again even if it was just through a yahoo chat window. She finished up with the fact that she needed help with the kids that evening, which I did of course.

You all have helped me quite a bit. Yes, there's no certainly that marriage will be salvageable. But in some ways its manageable at this point. At the end of the night, my wife brought up couple counseling. What a difference a day makes.

By the way, her favorite color is green and she prefers white gold.

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

Personally I don't care if a partner knows my favourite perfume or which school I went to. I guess its just a personal thing...that kinda thing wouldn't really matter to me. I doubt my Master would know if I take sugar in my tea and frankly I only remember he likes cheesecake because he said something funny about it!
I much prefer that my partner knows my values, what makes me laugh and sometimes cry, angry and passionate. In other words what makes me tick.
I prefer my partner to know that I like being cuddled and kissed, being called honey and told that I am loved. I like being asked about my day and him actually listening when I tell him. Those are the important things to me.

I can relate to this also, minx.

While the things like celery, purple and black being my fav colors, the fact that I like the mix of silver and gold and that I love and collect teddy bears is great for gift giving purposes, I'd much rather have hubby remember that its important for him to listen when I talk, to ask how I'm feeling and really want to know, and to know that him constantly putting me down is wearing on me and it hurts.

 

[SubKekiLee]

Hey all,

This resulted in something that happened to me yesterday. I was in a yahoo chat with my wife and I suddenly flashed back to the film, Unbreakable, in which a subplot of the film was Bruce Willis trying to fix his marriage. One scene was them trying to have a decent dinner out in which they were asking each other these simple little questions. With that, I realized that for 12 years, I worked hard for my wife, doted over her, but in the long run, didnt really know the simple things about her.

I interupted a conversation about our kids with one of the things I truly missed about our marriage. And I asked her what her favorite color was. There was something in that that seemed to have an affect on my wife. Im not sure if its for good or bad, but she finally started talking to me about how she was feeling deep down. For the first time in 2 months, I felt like her husband again even if it was just through a yahoo chat window. She finished up with the fact that she needed help with the kids that evening, which I did of course.

You all have helped me quite a bit. Yes, there's no certainly that marriage will be salvageable. But in some ways its manageable at this point. At the end of the night, my wife brought up couple counseling. What a difference a day makes.

By the way, her favorite color is green and she prefers white gold.

YAY! I told you this already personally Brad.. But yes are being given the chance to being aknew.. and hopefully a new leaf bring new life.. We are always here for you, YOU Know that.. love yah
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[minx1]

I can relate to this also, minx.

While the things like celery, purple and black being my fav colors, the fact that I like the mix of silver and gold and that I love and collect teddy bears is great for gift giving purposes, I'd much rather have hubby remember that its important for him to listen when I talk, to ask how I'm feeling and really want to know, and to know that him constantly putting me down is wearing on me and it hurts.

Do you know what though Nala...I have just this minute realised I was wrong to an extent. Theres a difference to a partner/friend knowing what your favourite colour/wine is and the important stuff....the things that you would expect that they know about you, if they are to really know you.

Whats important? its all relative I guess.....but there are some real basics lol

 

[graceanne]

So I asked K what my favorite color is and he said blue. Eleven years together and he thinks my favorite color is BLUE!

Out of curiousity sake it's red.

 

[EmpressFi]

Can't say i remember the very first we danced to, but the first song i requested for her that we danced to is also the song we danced to at our wedding... Angel Eyes by Jeff Healy... which i also had playing for her when she got home on our anniversary one night... dinner was on the table, candles were burning, and the moment the door opened the song came on so we danced to it again

Yep.. that is the very first twe danced to..and I agree.. I am very blessed