question for Dom/mes

[lilredwolph]

as some here know i have a major toy collection (everything from ass toys to a violet wand)

now here is my question:

would it be bad form to ask that my own toys be used? as i have a problem with toys being used on me that may have been used on anybody else.

Daddy and i talked alittle about getting a couple new toys, but that is not something that will happen right now because it just doesn't fit into our single parenthood middle of summer schedules.

i know this is a silly question but in my past relationship i was the toy keeper, plus i haven't been in the wading stage of a relationship in YEARS, so i feel like a wet behind the ears freshman getting ready for her first highschool dance

 

[Etoile]

I don't see this as a "question for Dom/mes" specifically, because every dominant will give you a different answer. So, despite being a sub, I'm going to answer.

I don't think it would be bad form at all. You have a large collection, it makes sense to use it. Your concerns about toys having been used on someone else fall in with the safety aspect that any top should respect.

 

[MissTaken]

would it be bad form to ask that my own toys be used? as i have a problem with toys being used on me that may have been used on anybody else.

Yes, it makes sense even in so far as it falls into having safer sex.

Or you can suggest using condoms over the other toys? (That is a turn off for me, and I would much prefer using my own toys.)

Or, your D might suggest making cleaning the toys part of the regime, whether it is His responsibility or yours.

I do understand that hinky feeling that goes with using something and you dont' know where it has been.

 

[lilredwolph]

i guess what i am really wondering is how would i approach this, i know showing up with a toy bag isn't the way to go. i want to becareful not make seem like i am saying that i am not happy with what He has. He knows i have an elaborate collection but we have not touched on Him using it other than the violet wand.

i also want/need to get the point acrossed to Him that my toy collection is exactly that "MY collection" i put it together with my money and my time, i would not be asking Him to use another Doms hand me downs. actually nothing in the collection has been touched by any hands other than mine

 

[AngelicAssassin]

I don't see this as a "question for Dom/mes" specifically, because every dominant will give you a different answer. So, despite being a sub, I'm going to answer.

I don't think it would be bad form at all. You have a large collection, it makes sense to use it. Your concerns about toys having been used on someone else fall in with the safety aspect that any top should respect.

Now E, just because we tend to have differing opinions, doesn't mean we don't agree with a common sense approach here concerning safe sex. If the toy has drawn blood or touched any other bodily fluids, the Dom/me in question better get into the 21st century. i don't mean to come across dismissive. i'm really trying to underline what you've already stated concerning safety and propriety.

lilredwolph, perhaps broaching the subject before the meeting? Get past the "Holy chit! He's going to think i'm a complete perv if He sees this thing requires 9 D cells just to start up." If he doesn't know you're a perv already, your first meeting will be one eye opening experience. Perhaps wrapping the individual gifts in your toy bag for Him to unwrap and use upon you? my personal take would be "Hot damn, it's Xmas!"

i'm pretty sure this qualifies as "first meetings" jitters alone, and just think of all the fun the two of you will have adding to your collection as time goes by ...

 

[cellis]

lilred... I am so happy to see that you have not locked that toy box up and thrown away the key... and that you have found someone new on your journey...

I too am the toy keeper... I like my toys and even if I had another Dominate, I would want to use my toys...

Perhaps you could have Him over and have Him go through your toy box and pick out the things you both would really like to use.

One thing that Himself does is have me carry a toy bag in my car.... It has some things that He has picked out that He really likes to play with... some of the toys are duplicates that I have made for Him.... Oh and I always carry condoms for those messy little situations and clean wipes...

Maybe you could do that...

I am glad to see you again!

~s

 

[Ebonyfire]

I think this is a subject that needs to be negotiated early on. I use condoms on my toys, AND I clean them thoroughly. For things such as buttplugs, etc. my subs buy their own so there is no cross contamination.

 

[WriterDom]

Toys are toys. I would rather use my own floggers which are cleaned and disinfected after each use. If I didn't like yours, then at some point we would need to get a new one. I would hope that you felt comfortable enough to address me directly about it.

Is this more about safety, or more about he used it on "HER?"

 

[lilredwolph]

Is this more about safety, or more about he used it on "HER?"

it's both, the whole idea creeps me out.