Question for all:

[skyjade]

The new GF and I have been together since December. She is by far the best lover I've ever had in and out of bed. However, sadly my sex life prior to her was near non existent. I've had a total of 7 partners including her over the course of the last 20 years, including two partners who were merely a three time excursion. On to my fist of several questions: She is admittedly bisexual, and a VERY sexual person I consider myself very lucky to be on the recieving end of as well. After suffering through a long boring miserable sexless relationship it's like I've been reborn. Recently she has been throwing hints that she wants to play and experiment more with MY anal cavity. I've never had anything near there besides TP so I'm a little taken aback. I'm sure she doesn't want to shove a baseball bat in there, but I know she wants to include that in our playtime. How do I "loosen up" to this idea, what may she have in mind if you have a clue, and how do I relax to this idea? Best of all, seriously guys, what will I get out of this?
Thanks in advance and fair warning, I have more questions to follow....

 

[silverwhisper]

one particular thread listed in the blank manual above might be helpful, but there's actually several and they're all linked in the first post in it. beyond that however: you could offer a quid pro quo if you're hesitant, that you get to try hers if you haven't already.

ed

 

[skyjade]

Thanks, I appreciate it

 

[Quoll]

What will you get out of it?
If done right, a hell of a lot of pleasure, it really is an incredibly sensitive area and even just the lightest of touches can be very pleasureable. Do your research and enjoy (No it does not mean you are gay )

 

[human_male]

First of all... lucky you. Second, she probably just wants to stick her finger up there, or if you're really lucky, lick you. If you're nervous try playing around a bit with your butt on your own so you know what it feels like to have a finger up there and you won't be so freaked out when she comes to do it. Also, keep yourself good and clean, and I mean washing with soap and water young man, not just extra wiping! That way you won't be worried about it being a smelly experience for her, and then you can just relax and see how it goes. I'd definately let her if I were you, but if you don't like it don't be afraid to let her know.

I mean really, you lucky, lucky bugger.

 

[coolr]

whatever happened to good old communication? if you're put off a bit by it tell her couples in relationships work things out, it's what they do, more than likely she'll understand.

 

[luv1]

I had a girlfriend who was "expermental", she had a strap-on. It was an experience....a very good one, it's very rare to be able to have sex from a "famale" perspective. Try using your finger while alone as you masturbate, remember to use a lube. Then move onto using a dinner candle, just push it up there abit as the sensation of it being sucked up can freak you out at first.

 

[skyjade]

Hey thanks everyone. We communicate great and openly, it's just I've never been involved like this so I wanted to handle it as correctly as possible. I am open to the idea and all new things with her, just wanted to get a handle on what to expect. I've got plenty of other silly questions to ask you all. And yes, I am very lucky!! Not only in the bedroom, either!

 

[amvc]

more than people realize, i still get anal virgins who wants to model for me for a video. (that always surprises me that someone would want their first time to be on camera).

although there are lots of tips and tricks that you'll hear about, the true key is LOTS of lube, go slowly, and remember not to clinch up as that will cause any existing pain to be much worse. over time, you'll learn how to control and relax those muscles without any issues.

being a guy, you'll learn the glory of the prostate and all its wonders and merriment

good luck!