Question about Poly D/s Relationships

[ignorant_insomn]

So I haven't even been with a singular submissive yet, and no I'm no trying to rush things by, well thinking bigger, but ever since I was a very young boy, I had pictured myself with two girls. Not in the typical male fantasy kind of way, but more in the sense that there would be individual realtionships established between all parties, as well as the group. This is all speculation forr me, having never had a chance in real life to experience anything like this. So I was wondering if any of you that are in a poly relationship or have been would be willing to share some insight into the kind of dynamic needed to sustain this sort of relationship.

 

[missy_me]

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[Netzach]

S Not in the typical male fantasy kind of way, but more in the sense that there would be individual realtionships established between all parties, as well as the group.

You're ahead of the game, IMO. A lot of people get into poly situations without recognizing that this is the single most do-or-die aspect of multiple relationships, in my observation of others. I credit the specificity of relationships with any success my own relationships have enjoyed.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

At one point, plans were made for that potentiality.

My take on it was, and this is what will hold true if the poly situation presents itself to me in the future.


Basically, both of the submissives were very interested, and had built a strong communication between them, as well as they both had established relationships with me.

One of them decided that she couldn't do poly is why it didn't go there.

I told them that if we were to go forward, that much of the how would be decided between them, that way it was something that happened organically rather than being handed down from on high. That way they could be more comfortable with it, and less potential for resentments.

Meanwhile, I was going to be the mediator or moderator in those discussions and sign off on the final plan....

 

[Etoile]

Making "plans" never works out in the long run, IMO. Poly is a weird beast, and it doesn't deal with things like contracts the way monogamous relationships do. If you settle into a routine, that's one thing, but most likely any established "plan" is going to end up morphing when people have been in the relationship for a little while and begin to understand how they really feel about poly.