question about name calling

[sinnamongyrl]

ok,,,so maybe some of you may know,,,I am very curious about this subject matter.And i have gotten some responses that i really liked and will be getting back tto everyone soon,,,and some were just a bit random.Would you say that this is a lifestyle ,,,or is it just something that happens for you "in the bedroom'.ALso,,,,the question about name calling,,,,do all DOMS use slut and bitch to address their subs?Or do you use maybe a pet name?not FIDO or rover,,,,,you know what i mean,ANyway,,still very very curious,Thanks very much for all the help with this by the way

 

[La Kajira]

The one and only person I have ever trusted enough to write this way with online used to call me His 'Little One'.

It gave me shivers, made me melt into a puddle of goo. LOL...

 

[sinnamongyrl]

to me though,,that is a sweet private name.Maybe i am missing the point and i probally am,,but i dont see how calling someone SLUT can be helpful in a sub/dom situation.....or bitch,whore,,etc...

 

[La Kajira]

Well, for me it depends a lot on the context. If things are going hot and heavy, well, it's hot. It can be really hot, truly.

Just saying it like that, right out, no sex involved? Well, no. Sorry, it doesn't really appeal to me. However, isn't that the point? I find there are a lot of things that turn me on, even if they don't turn me on, simply because choice is removed from the equation.

Sorry if that doesn't make sense, but there it is.

 

[catalina_francisco]

to me though,,that is a sweet private name.Maybe i am missing the point and i probally am,,but i dont see how calling someone SLUT can be helpful in a sub/dom situation.....or bitch,whore,,etc...

'little one' is a fairly common thing Doms call their subs, as can be the alternatives which have you perplexed.....it is all about mindset and the relationship with both having their place and both being able to engender feelings of deep emotion which can only be described as positive and enticing.

Catalina

 

[His_pita]

The one and only person I have ever trusted enough to write this way with online used to call me His 'Little One'.

It gave me shivers, made me melt into a puddle of goo. LOL...

It does for me too when he calls me that. Just makes me melt and want to be his little one forever.

He gave me the name pita which I love.

And slut is saved for moments of passion which he knows I sends me over the edge.

 

[graceanne]

K doesn't. Call names that is. Well, not during sex. If we're fighting he'll call names. To tell the truth, I don't think I'd like it if he did. I'm not into humiliation or anything like that. Who knows though? There's lots of things I like that I didn't think I would.

 

[La Kajira]

Pita is a sweet name.

I had to laugh when I first saw your name, though, because my cat is named Pita. It's an acronym for Pain In The Ass. She earned it as a kitten when she got stuck in a heat vent exploring one night.



I love pet names. Maybe to others it might seem demeaning, but I eat them up.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Calling Someone Names

to me though,,that is a sweet private name.Maybe i am missing the point and i probally am,,but i dont see how calling someone SLUT can be helpful in a sub/dom situation.....or bitch,whore,,etc...

It depends on the people involved, their relationship, and the specifics of the situation.

In my own relationship, when I have my girl janey tied up, my hand in her hair, pulling her head back, growling in her ear that she is my _slut_ and I'm going to fuck her like the slutty little whore she is... OMG, she nearly cums just from that. Within certain contexts she _wants_ to be _my_ whore, my bitch, my little fuck toy.

With me she can let go and _be_ that raunchy slut that her mother and grandmother and all the white-bread church ladies told her she should never, ever be. She can get in touch with her sexuality and her passion and being called a slut in that context is hot for her.

Now if we were shopping in Wally-World and she did something to make me angry and I called her a "stupid fucking cunt", _that_ would be hurtful and deliberately abusive on my part. That kind of name calling is not part of our relationship.

There are those who use humiliation in their relationship because it's hot and sexy for them. In private, yeah, I can go there, but in public? Nope, ain't happening.

Hope that helps!

YIK,
- Geoff

 

[timberwolf05]

for ME...........*****style choice. just like my chinese gung-fu. it is a choice. same as being a cabbie for 20 plus years, vs some other job...a choice of lifestyle.

wolfie

 

[marieR19]

It definately depends on the person, circumstances, etc. Me, one of the biggest turn-ons next to pain is humiliation. So I love being called a bitch, her little whore, etc. It just sends shivers, very nice shivers, all through me.


Heather

 

[landcruisergal]

I am called pet when I am good.
My full name ( makes me cringe) when I am trouble.
slut, whore,bitch, with a suitable adjective thrown in front.

A guy I used to chat with in the US called me "baby girl" ( with a gorgeous southern accent) which was endearing and delightful, but a little disconcerting as thats what I affectionately call my dog sometimes.

A nasty ass called me a spoilt brat once. Which had me rolling around in stitches as nothing could be further from the truth.

 

[mdiaz451]

do ALL Doms call her slut?

I can't speak for all Doms... I have had subs that were not into verbal humiliation at all, some that loved it. With those that loved it, outside of a "play" situation where sex, spanking, nipple play, vibrators, whips, chains, wooden paddles, handcuffs, etc., etc., are going to come into it, I DO NOT use pejorative words.

Still, using a very demanding tone and calling my cherished subbie a "cock sucking little back ally whore" can yield wonderful results, especiallly if she loves to suck cock... it can be very motivating for her. I think it helps if she's had a catholic school educaton. I seem to have had a lot of subs that are lapsed catholics (thank god!). That's my take on it.

 

[His_pita]

Pita is a sweet name.

I had to laugh when I first saw your name, though, because my cat is named Pita. It's an acronym for Pain In The Ass. She earned it as a kitten when she got stuck in a heat vent exploring one night.



I love pet names. Maybe to others it might seem demeaning, but I eat them up.

Yeah, same acronym applies to me.

 

[Rrrosyn]

Talking directly to him, I call subbie by his name. Occasionally I call him lovie or loviewolf. I let him know that he is a touch slut, but I do not call him that. Just like, "You are such a touch slut!" while I rub his head.

I can't stand demeaning anyone. He chooses to serve me and I don't think he deserves to be called names for it. If it turned him on or a part of play, I would probably struggle for a while until I became comfortable enough to call him names.

 

[Killishandra]

ok,,,so maybe some of you may know,,,I am very curious about this subject matter.And i have gotten some responses that i really liked and will be getting back tto everyone soon,,,and some were just a bit random.Would you say that this is a lifestyle ,,,or is it just something that happens for you "in the bedroom'.ALso,,,,the question about name calling,,,,do all DOMS use slut and bitch to address their subs?Or do you use maybe a pet name?not FIDO or rover,,,,,you know what i mean,ANyway,,still very very curious,Thanks very much for all the help with this by the way

No, not "all" Doms use demeaning words like "slut," "whore," or "bitch." In fact, my Dom never used these even in the bedroom before me. Together, we're delving deeper into the use of verbal humiliation than either of us have gone before, and although He was tentative in the beginning it's now something both of us enjoy. But if it wasn't something that turned me on, He might never have realized how much HE enjoys treating me that way.

Just to answer your question.

And in regards to pet-names... I think almost ALL relationships use them, whether vanilla or BDSM or kink or whatever. I limit my pet names for Him to the usual sweetie or honey, and also the increasing use of Haku (meaning Master in Hawaiian, since He can't stand "Sir" and I don't call Him "Master"... and I have to have some form of address to use. )

In return, I get babygirl, baby, babe, puppy, and one that I am going to withhold... on account of it being rather embarrassing.

 

[graceanne]

In return, I get babygirl, baby, babe, puppy, and one that I am going to withhold... on account of it being rather embarrassing.

You tease! Tell use their's a nickname and not what it is.

 

[shy slave]

All the worst names work well for me

But he says them as a good thing not with any venom or meaness in his voice.

He recently referred to someone I know as a slut (she slept with my husband, does that make her a slut ? ).
I had so say to him that 'slut' is a good word, far to good for her lol.

He doesn't call me 'little one' if he did I would think he was take the mickey seeing as I am very, very short lol

Slut, whore, bitch I like those words. I am just waiting for him to use them in front of either of our families in error

 

[asenath]

Name calling can be really hot or really corny. It's a thin line.

 

[graceanne]

All the worst names work well for me

But he says them as a good thing not with any venom or meaness in his voice.

He recently referred to someone I know as a slut (she slept with my husband, does that make her a slut ? ).
I had so say to him that 'slut' is a good word, far to good for her lol.

He doesn't call me 'little one' if he did I would think he was take the mickey seeing as I am very, very short lol

Slut, whore, bitch I like those words. I am just waiting for him to use them in front of either of our families in error

Yeah, I'm not much into 'little' comments myself. 'Little one' and others like it just make me glare.

 

[shy slave]

Yeah, I'm not much into 'little' comments myself. 'Little one' and others like it just make me glare.

And is glaring at him mid-scene a bad thing?

 

[graceanne]

And is glaring at him mid-scene a bad thing?

If you don't know the answer to that, then you deserve what you get.

 

[La Kajira]

Roflmao....